Well after that long talk with her mother I’m pretty sure she knows why I stopped talking to her, because her mom told me not to lmfao… She’s having fun and everything with her girlfriends, there isn’t any new guy in the picture yet. But I know exactly what I need to work on, and I’m so sure that I really can become someone that actually deserves her! I mean, no one is flawless, neither is she! But the fact that we went through so much shit together and still held on together means a lot, and I still love her. But I do respect her, so that’s why I won’t chase, I will do NC for a minimum of 2 months. And if she calls me I won’t pick up, but she’s a stubborn kid with a lot of friends and family that supports the break-up and our relationship wasn’t really healthy… So getting her back will be blind hope. So I’ll take the hope that she calls me out of the picture, because I’m sure she won’t call and I’ll just work on myself during NC.
Our mutual friend got back with her ex after 7 months apart today hah… It does kind of give some hope, but I know that I’ll have to move on and work on myself or else it will be the same old relationship if we do happen to get back. So this NC period isn’t just for her, it’s for me also. And right now I kind of feel a bit good about myself, because I have a lot of positive changes already, and I’m sure after some time my negative traits will be removed as well. I’m working on becoming a better man, not because of her, but literally because I know WHO I really am and that she deserves a man and not a boy.
You are doing great dont worry about it, but you dont truly know insede her, you dont know whats going on there right now, you might go out with friends, get drunk, party and all, but you still have a whole. So dont let your mind get influenced by pictures. Dont stalk her.
Yeah you’re right… She’s not the party kind of girl, to be honest I’d be pretty surprised if she did go to a party, I know she doesn’t do that stuff… And you’re also right that I don’t know what she is feeling or thinking, but all the negative shit she told me really blew everything off… she was really mean and hateful towards me
I’m glad for you, clear. Just knowing that you’re becoming a better man tells us that, win her back or not, you’re getting out of this situation more mature than when it started.
Remember that this growth has two sides. On one side, it’s a fail-safe thing, just like I said. On the other hand, if it ever comes to the point where you two meet again, you won’t be needy; you won’t be insecure; you’ll be able to treat her as normally as your other friends, and that will create a feeling of “scarcity” in her. You’ll seem indifferent, and if you read Relationship Rewind, you’ll know that indifference is the greatest enemy of relationships. People want what they can’t have, and when it seems to her like you’re a changed man who isn’t “interested” in her anymore, she can’t help but want you again. It’ll trigger old memories of you two together; it’ll make her feel like she’s missing out on this new life of yours.
In short, you’re on the right path. Whether or not you’ll meet her again, just make sure you get to the point where you genuinely believe you don’t need her anymore, so that when the time comes, it’s simply a matter of you deciding not “Is it worth getting her back?” but instead “Shall I invite this girl into my new and improved life?”
She has a fucking tinder and hot or not profile… And she’s been on it for a while…
My heart literally broke into 100 pieces when I saw that, she also favorited a quote on twitter “Where is my prince charming?”
I hate this… I’ve been on NC for 21 days now and nothing… I’m trying my best to progress, but I feel so fucking alone I hate this. I try to contact other girls on hot or not and tinder but still nothing, and I liked her on tinder and hot or not… BIG MISTAKE. I’m pretty sure she declined… What am I supposed to do? It’s only 9 days until a whole month without any contact, she still has me on facebook.
Stop stalk her on any media, we all know that’s awful to check her anything when we are suffering break up… That only make you feel miserable and painful …sometimes it really doesn’t matter that what she did or what is she doing on Instagram . Cuz u NEVER know what’s she thinking about u in her deeply heart. Like we are on this get ex back website but what we showed to others and Facebook/Instagram is we are fine.
AND I’ve actually went on that 5 plan thing, kind off went on a “date”.
I talked to a girl totally random at a mall today, got her number etc and we talked for a while. And we’re meeting up tomorrow. And I’ve been talking to some other girls at this party I’ve been on tonight too. I’ve gotten a big confidence boost and I’m ready to handle my ex to be honest, I know that I might never get her back but frankly it doesn’t bother me as much as it did 22 days ago. I just want to show her the new me, I’ve changed a lot to be honest!
That’s the thing I’m unsure about, her mother told me not to contact her daughter for at least 3 months but that is so freaking long… I’m sure that my ex never will contact me, because she’s so stubborn and hurt…
I’m probably thinking that yeah… I’m so sure that her whole social group has told her she’s better off without me. One day when she went to her sport training, she started meeting her old friends, and since that day she changed completely… Her friends have influenced her so much in a negative way towards me. And I know that her mother did love me for a while, but that things probably got out of hand and she is always supporting her if there is anything between us no matter what. So I’m thinking her mother doesn’t want me to be with her no… Not the way I used to be, but the guy I am today, she has no reason to say no to me.
Well i think her mom told u 3 month probably means after 3 month her daughter will be healed, (move on probably)
Make sure u can did everything on the checklist that a.z wrote to u .
And don’t show her that " I’ve changed a lot so u should come back", say something that make her smile make fun of her and don’t mention one bad memories in the past.
Do u want to contact her today?
