And this is where I’m sort of stuck and where I’m at. Do I have any hope?
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/where-do-i-go-from-here/
Well I’m trying my best on the NC contact thing. I’m thinking of not liking anything or follow anyone or lay out anything on snapchat for a while, to make her even more curious? SHE has been doing it for 2 days now. I took a picture and laid it out on snapchat yesterday that I was in the bus late at night, and she viewed it STRAIGHT away. I tried to contact her friend again asked her
“Why do you ask? :)” and now she isn’t responding me lol… Seems like my ex has told her to not talk or respond to me anymore, I don’t get it. I ignored her friend for almost 3-4 days and now it seems like she is trying to ignore me.
I want to get her attention so she starts to talk with me, I want HER to break contact but how is that possible? Should I just stop talking to her friend? that is if she does respond… She still hasn’t responded and I sent that message yesterday. I’m on day 9 of NC and it’s so freaking hard…
Hey @clear,
From what I’ve read, I think she really is still interested in you. I’m also a girl and I’m also 18 years old so I think I can relate to her. If she’s still checking you out on social medias there’s a huge chance that she’s still not over you. She’s probably just waiting for you to post stuffs on your snapchat, facebook etc just to see how you’re doing. Sometimes when girls get too hurt, they need a break. Sometimes a few days, sometimes a week, depends on what kind of girl she is and how hurt she is. I think she really is hurt from the things you did and she’s still confused and what she should do.
She gets jealous when you’re around other girls and I think that is a good sign because girls get jealous usually because they still have feelings for the guy. But, there’s also a downside to that. She might feel like the other girl is a threat to her and she’ll run to you back and make up or she’ll feel brokenhearted that you’re talking to another girl and she’ll feel like you moved on and she needs to move on to. The key is to not make her too jealous or you might lose her. Just be positive. Smile and show your good side when she’s around. Try not to hang out with other girls since for now, I don’t think it’s a good idea. You absolutely have a chance to win her back and get back together. She obviously still wants you. Maybe try to give her a few days and then try to slowly make contact with her and check up on her. Just make her feel like you still care about her, you still love her and you are always there for her. Do stuffs that will move her and will make her come to her senses, I know you can get her back, just have to make sure you do the right things.Good luck anyway, update me on your story anytime, I’ll be here for you 
p/s : Mind reading my story? I need some advice too. Hope you can give me your thoughts on it, thanks
3-4 days ago she changed her profile picture on facebook. Last night she blew out on social medias after being inactive for almost 2 days. She got tagged in 3 pictures of her and her girlfriends on a training picture from the sport she is on and she laid out 2 videos on snapchat “mystory” before that which is sooo unlike her! Never seen her put anything out there (snapchat), and I still haven’t watched her mystory yet. Is this a good thing or should I watch it? I feel like she already is moving on, I’m not sure what to feel or what to think. I just want her back and each and everyday of the NC it gets harder and harder I’m on 10th day of my NC.
When should I contact her? I think that she really still is mad with me, but she seems like she’s having a good time with her girl friends… And is she trying to get my attention by putting those videos on snapchat? I haven’t viewed them yet… What should I do?..
You all say that she is interested, but how can I keep her interested on NC? I don’t want her to forget me or move on… I want her to remember my good qualities. I don’t think she’ll contact me during NC, that’s so unlikely. I really think that she’s having the time of her life without me. Remember she told me that she didn’t trust me, that she wanted me but I had hurt her and she didn’t trust me at all. So a jealousy game with her isn’t a good game… At least I can’t make her jealous with other girls, so how can I make her jealous and want me back?
ANYONE? FAST ADVICE. I’m dying to watch her snapchat story, should I yes or no???
I say you don’t because she will she that you watched. NC is about healing yourself and making them miss you.
But will she miss me? It seems like she honestly is having the time of her life…
I just want her back as fast as possible, but I don’t know what to do to get her attention back and to make her miss me…
I didn’t watch her snapchat story, and now 1 hr ago she deleted absolutely all of our pictures on instagram, and she deleted the ONE picture we had together on facebook… Next thing will probably be that she will block me on facebook and everything, what should I do? Is she doing this to get a reaction out of me?
PLEASE HELP ME. How am I supposed to react?!
Someone please… What do I do? NC 10 days and she will probably delete me of facebook soon and instagram and I’m out of her life for good. She hates me so much… I don’t know what to do…
NC is 11 days now… How can I reverse all of what is happening and make her love me again??
I don’t know what is happening anymore… I’m so torn up, I really believe she has met someone else… How do I make her run back to me?
She has started listening to love songs and yesterday she liked a quote on instagram:
“One day you’re going to see her holding hands with someone who took your chance. She won’t even notice you because she’s too busy laughing with the stupid jokes he makes. And it will burn your heart seeing that beautiful smile on her face and realizing that you’re not the reason anymore. And then it will finally hit you: it was her, it always was her.”
And on vine she has liked something that shows a video
“When ever you see someone cute. You be like DAMN how are you doin ;)?”
FOR FUCKS SAKE. It is really over, so how can I attract her to me? She doesn’t want anything to do with me. Should I just delete her on facebook, unfollow her on instagram and snapchat and show her I’m moving on? Or keep her on facebook and instagram and make her jealous. Because honestly she has lost all attraction to me, so how the fuck do I fix this and get her back asap? She will probably end up in a rebound if I don’t do something fast!
HELP ME. PLEASE.
Hey buddy, two things first of all:
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You should almost be happy if she gets into a rebound relationship. You obviously don’t get the magic of it. A rebound is ANYTHING but serious. She’s trying to fill in a hole where you used to be. It almost always ends in her situation getting worse.
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You’re not doing NC right. NC isn’t simply sitting on your ass and doing nothing. It’s about fixing your life and getting to the point where you realize you don’t need her after all. Where, by the end of the 30 days, it’s practically just an OPTION to get her back. Me, I’m at that point already despite me only being on day 5 of NC because I’ve done a great deal of reflecting on my life and talking it out with good friends about my future. But yes, I still want my ex back for only one reason: I know she’s missing out; she threw away an amazing relationship because of her insecurities about committing to something serious. So, as you should notice, I don’t want her back simply because “I love her” or “I miss her”. Those are mostly emotional reasons, and they happen to be the only reasons you’re telling us. That tells me you’re not even close to getting her back. I’ll be blunt: if your attitude is still like this at the end of the 30 days, you ain’t getting that girl back, EVEN if she’s on a rebound by then.
Now, let me add a bonus point. I recently read through Relationship Rewind, and it has a tip which almost counters NC which you might be able to use: be friends with her again. Yes, be friends with her, meaning if you have any mutual friends or groups, hang out with them and treat her like all the others. And most importantly, if you hang out with those friends, have fun. And I mean, GENUINELY HAVE FUN. She’ll see that you’ve changed and that you’re a cool guy. She’ll realize what she’s missing. You’ll be creating distance. She’ll remember the old times. But I warn you again: do this more for yourself. That is, take it almost like a test that you can hang out around her and not feel depressed. So it’ll be a win-win situation. Either you get her back as a result, or you don’t but you’re a happy and matured man. If you’re able to do this bonus step, post about your experience and I’ll give you the next step. In the meantime, pick yourself up and take the rest of my advice.
Remember: NOTHING HAS CHANGED BUT YOUR MENTAL ATTITUDE!
Thing is, we don’t have any mutual friends at all… There is no possible way to contact her without setting up a date to meet her. I don’t know what to do anymore, I unfollowed her on instagram don’t know why. She got her driving car license yesterday and she posted it on instagram and I got my driving car license (today) which is a really positive thing for me. She deleted me after I posted the picture and followed an old friend of mine on instagram which is a girl… Lol, the thing is, I really think she unfollowed me because I unfollowed her. Anyways I’m trying to change and I really have changed a lot…
But what can I do to attract her back again? She has cut me of her life completely, and I’m pretty sure she’ll delete me on facebook really soon too… So what can I do? Should I contact her after 30 days of nc? or should I wait for longer? It’s been 15 days of NC now…
She hasn’t deleted me on facebook yet lol… Only social media we have each other on. NC is 17 days now or 18 days… She is having fun I guess, she went to her mothers cabin with her girlfriend, which was actually something me and her were going to do…
She got her driving license 1 october, I got mine 2 october and we were supposed to go to their cabin right away once I got my driving license, I guess she went, but not with me hah… Fucking hate this… I’m progressing with myself though, I’ve changed quite a lot so that’s one positive thing…
Yes that definitely something positive, another thing that could help you is to stop stalking her! I know we all want to know about our ex’s lives, but that only makes you take a step back. She definitely thinks about you, and she definitely holds herself sometimes, its natural.That has nothing to do with love but human nature. Trust me.
Just keep doing the Nc and let me know if she contacts you or if you contact he after the NC. DO NOT BREAK IT.
How long do you think I should do NC for? 3 months as her mother advice me to do?
No, go like 45 days. But no stalking you gotta promise to yourself.
No stalking, you’re right stalking just sets back things… I don’t think she’ll contact me ever again, but I guess NC at least for 45 days for now… I’m on 17th day of NC…
I’ll update you if anything new at all happens! Do you think there is anything I could do to make her believe that I have changed?
Dear,you not talking to her is something already. She is probably wondering why you stopped talking to her, even if you dont like the person the fact they stopped talking makes your head think that they dont want you. When you talk to her again, be careful wih your words and be cool, she will notice. Remember how you feel when you were rejected? How bad you wanna talk to them? Its crazy, she wont feel this bad but she will feel and the rejection button will be pushed. If she talks to you, it will be even better. You won’t answer, and that will drive her mind crazy.