but you can’t go around saying stuff like "I’m saying like you are happy without me and everything so why am I still around bothering you?” because thats a really poor way to work things out lol just saying not trying to be mean but i feel like you gotta know the truth so you can help yourself out!
Okay but she calls me baby and love and all these names as well?
she was doing the same because she really wants u back as well. Like gimme an example what context would she use it in?
“What are you up to sugga?”
" I love you baby"
“Haha okay goodnight shelden joseph. I love you so much. Thanks for everything! Any girl would be lucky to have you!”
hmm well maybe its okay if she’s doing it. I just think she’s doing it because she was desperate for you as well. I mean listen to her language… telling you any girl would be lucky to have you… Im not saying thats not the case. But she’s trying to boost you up the best she can because she wants you to feel better about her.
What do you mean by that?
She is kind of right about it man. She said she tried to open up to you, and you kind of then shot her down with that conversation you had. Never pressure anyone, no one likes that and nor will she. Lesson learnt right?
That being said, don’t look at it as everything is fucked. She knows you’ll be going through a difficult time, no one is that stupid. You don’t need to tell her that. Just give her some space, as hard as that may be. Cool off for a few days, then you could apologise (keep it brief) for the outburst, if you feel you need to.
She kissed you man! Stop listening to your head, take a step back and look at what is in front of you. You’ll make better decisions with a clear head.
You can do this!
Alright thanks man! It’s just so hard!
Like I feel as if I just set her back again…this sucks!
Goes it’s like taking one step forward and two back
Okay so we talked again tonight! She said she loves me! She said she forgives me but she needs time to heal! She said that she don’t want to rush back into a relationship and have second opinions and end up breaking my heart again! Also she said there shouldn’t be a set amount of time to where we decide if we get back together or not! Also she kinda scared me cause she said “she will tell me if she wants to date other guys or not” what do you guys think? I’m lost on this one!
Anybody have any input on this?
Anyone?
Take your time. Take your time. Don’t worry about time at all.
Write a text, then don’t send it. Wait an hour, look at it. Re-write it.
Even if it takes a day, or more. Only text back when you are calm. Only then can you speak sensibly.
Look at the way you post on here, does it look calm? Be calm.
Lie down, close your eyes, take deep breaths and just experience your feelings. Don’t label them, don’t think about them. Just feel them. Do it for twenty minutes. It will help.
Hmm okay but how will that help me? She gets mad when I don’t respond to her?
She just has me so confused
@Gingerone