Really? Is there any need for that kind of attitude?
Jesus Christ, solid that is really not the attitude to have considering when your giving advice your attitude is completely different to when you’re seeking it.
We are all going through a tough time so I’ll put the inappropriate outburst to that.
Wow chill man, no need for that, the girls going through a hard time. Your attitude doesn’t help. Everyone’s here to voice there opinion no need for the attitude.
@oshi ignore him, hope your ok!
@gingerone did you send the message?
So here’s an update on my situation guys
I was in a bad reception area yesterday but managed to send out the txt.
She replied and even went on Facebook to msg me asking if I was reviving her txts.
Here txt read - did u get my picture msg. Ye was ok not as good as last year.
So when I had better signal coverage I replied with - which picture msg? The one you sent on sat?
Her reply - no I was at such & such place this morning sent u a pic. Gutted you didn’t get it.
So I txt back saying how much I liked that place.
It went quiet then for a bit so I decided to ask her if her and her mum were ok (last time we met she said they had a small falling out)
To which she replied - ye everything s good now thanks. It felt weird in the festival without u, and walking round such & such place I felt sad ?
So I thought here’s my chance to ask.
So I calmly said.
There’s an interesting thing on in the park this Sunday,few blues bands playing. I’m gona go down ggrab a few beers chill and have a listen. Your more than welcome to join me if u like.
To which she replied - thanks I’ll have a think about it and let u know.
So I said cool I’m going down anyway
So ye bit of a weird day. I Now know she misses me. The balls in here court now, just see how it Fos from here now
So what do u all think?
Sorry that’s long but didn’t want to miss details out lol
Well done mate, pretty much a carbon copy of what happened to me Monday lol. Go on my post of you want to see that.
Like you said she has the decision making ball. But you have the emotional one. You got this, if she says no it’s cool. Just be ready to start to moving on process. If she says yes then we can all help as much as possible.
Good luck
@jburg32 cheers. I’m ok with it, like I said its down to her now. I know I need to build trust again but I can’t do that if she won’t meet me.
Hopefully with everything that’s been said she might want to do that.
I think it might be best to leave it bey till she replys, that way I’m not putting any pressure and it will be here decision. I just hope it’s the right one. Only time will tell. I’ll keep u all informed. Thanks everyone
Exactly, now is time to show that you can accept a situation and wait for her to reply.
Don’t lash out if she doesn’t bother coming back to you.
Well done mate
Well done Gingerone! And it wasn’t a no so that definitely is a positive… All you can do now is sit back and see what happens. Play it cool and what will be will be.
But remember many on here would love to be where you are right now!
@ty10 I know, I plan on playing it cool. If she comes she comes if not so be it! But she’s opening up and the fact that she’s even telling me these things and not keeping it too her self is a positive.
I know if we spent time together things would work in my favor. But I need her to agree to it on her turms. Not to pressure her into it. But it’s all a positive in my eyes.
Also she must have wanted me to recive that picture, it must have brought some good feelings back to her. For her to txt then facebook msg me to check if I recived it.
Time will only tell how it all works out but in the mean time,I can contine to grow and improve ready to show her I’m a changed man.
Thanks for your support guys ?
@Gingerone You’re doing great! It looks positive! Now you just have to wait for her response. You are right you shouldn’t pressure her into it, so just play it cool and see how things go. By her messages it does look like she misses you, she reveals her feelings, I don’t think she would have done it if she wasn’t interested in you.
Thank you for your support! I really appreciate it! 
Lol I haven’t seen the post of SolidTurd. Why? what did he write? That I’m miserable or that it deserved me or anything?
Hey guys. So she got back to me! It’s a no go.
She said ‘hey are you off today? Just thought I’d let u know I cant come on Sunday sorry x’
To which I replied ‘Hey ye off today, just got back from a hike up and around rivington pike. That’s cool, would have been nice to see u but I understand x’
Then I thought she wouldn’t reply but she said ‘Gutted I’m of today as well I could of joined u! Ah well maybe next time, I know I’m sorry, thanks for inviting me x’
So I stupidly txt ‘Ah no way, shame. It was nice up there as well. I was actually thinkin of you at the top, how much you would enjoy it. I’ve got a few bits to do then going for a walk down by the river Mersey. You could join me if your not busy x’
She said maybe but I’m kinda guessin it’s only out of being nice. I said I was going to leave at around 3ish she said for me to txt her to see.
So that’s it guys. Not sure what to think now. What do u all suggest ? Move on ?
@oshi how are u?
It’s kinda hard to know for sure. Even if she said it out of being nice, she didn’t have to mention she could join you. Also asking you if you’re off today is a bit weird, maybe she plans to hangout with you but trying to play it cool as if she’s not so eager to do it? I’m not sure because her behavior is a bit confusing. Maybe wait and see if she’s planning to come with you for a walk.
She is playing real head games this one.
It’s up to you now mate, you could not beat around the bush and just ask her outright.
Would really like to catch up with you when are you free.
No I txt her she’s still busy @oshi. After everything that was said I was kinda hoping. Now I don’t know what to think. Think she knew I was off because I posted a pic from the summit of my hike. Think I should forget it now till she gets in contact again, if she does.
What do u think? Would u tell someone all them things without wanting a connection. Or is she just stringing me along. If I’m honest, she’s not that type at all. How do u view all this be honest with me pls.
I think it’s time now to call her out on her leading behaviour.
You have tried everything possible, she maybe testing you though to see how needy you are.
But I don’t think saying to her, maybe making a joke of her not going. Something like, let’s catch up next week. When are you free ?
There is no ifs or butts she has to say yes or now and when.
It does sound like she’s playing mind games with you.
I know that I wouldn’t tell someone all this things if I wasn’t interested in him.
She tells you that she’s thinking and dreaming of you, missing you, and wishing you were there. Also sending you pictures and such. If she’s not interested then I guess she’s really confused about her feelings, because one moment she’s acting like this but in the other she’s backing off and having a cold feet.