I agree with Jburg32. Maybe try asking her something in a way that she will have to answer. Ask her about next week and see her response.
@Gingerone To answer your previous question, I feel like I’m trapped in an infinite loop.
He called me this morning. He took a short break from work to do that.
He explained himself about the things he said. Said that I misunderstood and apologized if I got hurt because of this.
Last time we talked I sounded a bit sad, so he asked me if something happened back then. I told him that I don’t want to talk about it, and he kept asking about it.
I don’t know how he got to this but he said it’s fine to tell him if I’m seeing someone, and even asked me if I got pregnant(LOL) I told him that nothing really happened but explained him that I can’t talk to him about everything because we are not as close as we used to be.
I don’t know if it was right but I told him that I still have feelings for him, and that there’s really no point in being friends like this because we might get hurt, so he said it was hard for him at first as well.
I told him that if he’ll change his mind in the future then we can keep in touch but I don’t think it is the right thing to do right now. He said he understand and that he’s supposed to get back to work so we’ll talk, then mentioned that I can talk to him about things if I want to.
I can tell he’s worried about me. But it looks like he made up his mind, on the other hand he keeps coming back everytime. So I’m not sure what to think of this.
I feel your pain @oshi looks like we’re both just going round & round. It’s so confusing right lol
How are you going to play it now?
I’ve txt her saying let me know next time your off and we’ll make plans if u WANT!
She replied with ok thanks ? x
So that’s it from me I think! I’m not going to bother again now, it’s up to her ive tried. I’m going to continue on my path. Getting to be a better me. I’ve signed up to do the Spartan Race in a few weeks so training hard for that. I’ve lost over 3 stone now so down to under 12 1/2 stone but I’m still not happy so I’ll continue to put all my effot into that! Plus my Thailand trip for my birthday with friends coming up in a few months so enough to keep me busy!
I think no contact is the best way forward for me now, see how that goes! What do u all think?!
I agree. We should continue with our life and with improving ourselves.
You did well! If she wants to meet up she will contact you, now I think it has to come from her. You are working on yourself and that’s great! Keep doing what you’re doing and hopefully everything will work out for you! 
As for me I’ve just got a new job, going to focus on that and my last exams
I don’t know how to go with my situation, I think of going back to NC and see if he contacts me. I already said all I had to say, and now he knows for sure that I have feelings for him and things can’t remain the way they were. So I guess it’s up to him.
She could genuinely be busy…
Wait until she contacts again and see what happens. Just go slow and play it cool. Perhaps next time suggest catching up over a drink and find out when she is free.Then you’ll know if she is just stringing you along or not.
@oshi I wish u all the best. Remember to make yourself happy first.
@ty10 maybe maybe not who knows, but I still think it’s down to her now. I’m just going to work on bettering myself like I have since the day we split. I’m just confused as to why she would say all them things! I suppose only she knows!
Hi guys I can’t get my head over the things she said should I just txt her and ask @oshi @ty10 @jberg32 ???
Just try and forget about it for now, for some reason she is trying to keep you hanging on. It’s not healthy for you, I know how you feel. I saw my ex in a coffee shop today and after all I have been saying I am prepared to walk away etc. I felt sick and just wanted to speak to her she came and said hi I acted like I had not seen her
I know I’m trying but it’s hard. Been on my mind all day today. Having a really low day! I know I shouldn’t txt her now and just wait @jburg32
@jburg32 that must have been hard for u! Are u still planing on meeting up with her?
Yeh I was internally melting down think I kept it together though.
Well she was supposed to come back to by the end of the week for meeting Friday. She hadn’t got back to me, even after seeing me today still nothing.
So she reaches out, gives me a message with an option. I ask her to meet get the stuff and catch up she suggested that maybe the weekend.
Now she is not even bothering.
When do I really take the hint, or is all about control for her. Today set me back made me realise I am no where near over the girl.
@Gingerone I know this feeling, but you shouldn’t contact her for now. I know this because on my weak moments I’m thinking of doing it myself. Today I felt terrible, was really down because today we have a “White Night” so everyone are having fun and partying all night while I’m working late and going straight home from work. I tried asking my close friends but they all have exams next week so they’re busy studying. At first I felt bad and even thought of asking him to go because he mentioned he’s going to this but after a while I felt better and I’m glad I didn’t ask him.
I agree with Jburg32, right now she keeps you hanging on and you can’t know for sure what are her intentions. It’s really not healthy for us and as long as we don’t know I think we should focus on ourselves and place our thoughts about them on the side of our mind for now. I think you should wait for her to contact you first. You’ve already asked her to hangout so I think now it has to come from her. But if you really want to then maybe wait a few days and try asking her again.
@Gingerone - Your situation is a difficult one and it just requires patience.
In a way I’d love to be in your position. Your ex is in contact and she clearly has you on the mind. She’s initiating that contact too which again is a positive. However, if she’s unsure; she could be unintentionally stringing you along.
In some ways it would be better for you to be in my position, not having heard anything from the ex. It means you can start moving on or forward in your life.
I heard something today which was rather poignant. ‘Letting go hurts less than hanging on’. Perhaps we all have to let go for us to move forward in life and although we are all here with the goal of getting our ex back - sometimes moving forward means leaving people behind who won’t/can’t join you on that journey.
My advice is simple. Wash your hands of everything unless she gets back in contact. When she does post here and we’ll all give you the help you need. I know for one posting on here has helped me a lot.
So she completely blew me off today. She didn’t even bother letting me know.
Now the messages back and forth are really cold.
She is now saying she has no time to meet me at all as really busy with work.
@jburg32 sorry dude! Hope your ok. Are u still txting her?
Thanks guys, it’s a hard situation.
@ty10 how would u play it now?
She claimed she forgot and was to busy with work.
I asked for a phone call, which wasn’t prepared or structured and needed up being a bit emotional.
It’s don’t though she can’t get over the negatives after the break up. Doesn’t believe I will change and said nothing can ever happen.
How would I play it now? Simply get on with your life without her in it, see what happens. - if she contacts you again fairly soon then I’d continue contact with her and if you feel like she’d be open to meeting up ask her when she is free.
Well guys something strange just happend. She txt asking if I was ok and what was I up to. I replied with ye I’m good just chilling. Then she txt back asking if I want to go for a drink. I’m working at 6 but hey I’m not going to say no so I’m off out to see what it’s all about. Wish me luck!
So, what happened?!