Cheers @oshi last night was a moment of weakness. Feeling better today. I Need to remember ive come a long way since our breakup and I’m on the right path. Just need to continue on that path and stay positive.
Thanks for being there to let me unload 
Hi @oshi how are you?
Well we met up yesterday for a bit. We didn’t do anything but sit in the car and talk. She told me about her holiday and how she was getting on. I did the same, she seemed intrested in my life. We laughed and joked and got on well. The chemistry was still there, when she got into the car she had a big smile on her face and she couldn’t contain it. When I asked her why she kept smiling she said it was because it was strange to see me, I could be wrong but it was a kind of smile like she was happy, happy to see me. she even became a bit touchy feely at one point. She lent over for the hug and we said our good bye’s.
Before I got home she txt to say thank you for dropping something off for her. That’s what our main reason to meet up was. I replied sayin it was no trouble and I hope she has a nice weekend and that we’ll talk soon. That was my kind of end convo txt
She then txt a while after to say she hopes I’m ok and that she was worried about me.
Now maybe I did something stupid in my reply. But I said
What you worried for?
I’m fine obviously I wish things were different but there not. I’m getting on with it, got a goal I’m focused, I’m getting my shit together. I’m feeling good. Once I get these results out of the way it will be ok ?. No need to worry seriously. X
I know this was probebly daft but I had to give her some kind of indication I was missing her.
After I sent this txt she never replied. So it either scared her off or it got her thinking. Maybe it planted a seed.
What do u think @oshi ? Bad move sending that txt. I would like your opinion on this. After last night’s meeting I’m kinda feeling good but who knows.
She may have gotten busy after you sent the text? Is she someone who is scared to admit her feelings? I’ve done something like that before, whether bad or good, but it gets better (if bad). You probably have more luck than I do, Just stay positive
@Gingerone I think you did great. It seems like she cares and still has feelings for you, but trying to deny it or hide it just like my ex does lol. I know exactly what you mean by her smile. She obviously felt something when she saw you but she won’t admit it or aware to it currently. My ex was the same. He smiled at me a lot while staring at my face for a few seconds. It just doesn’t feel the same as of when a friend does it. You just have this thinking that moment in your mind that it must mean something and that you are not imagining anything. And it’s probably true. However it won’t help us if they are hiding or denying their feelings. They have to decide to act based on their feelings and I guess only time would help. I think you didn’t do anything wrong sending this text, it’s sounds okay. It probably got her thinking. And I hope you’re feeling okay.
@oshi ye I’m ok thanks. Just bit confused. I just don’t understand why she wouldn’t reply to my final txt. I’m on the right path I know it, just need to stay focused and hopefully things will fall into place.
I’ve booked a holiday with friends over my birthday to Thailand in sept. So planing our 3 week trip should help me keep busy. That along with my fitness sessions It should keep my mind off our situation.
Do u think I should leave it now for a bit or try to contact her next week to test the water?
Any way how are you ? How’s your situation ? I hope your doing well
I think you should give it a few days and see if she contacts you first.
It’s great that you have stuff to keep your mind off! I wish I could go on a vacation but I’m busy with exams these days xD
I’m good, have some weak moments but okay most of the time
We haven’t talked since Sunday. He will probably call me early next week to arrange the meeting. I haven’t made specific plans with him because I didn’t want to make it sound as if I’m too eager to see him. So I’m waiting till next week.
Strangely enough I woke up in the night last night having a strange dream. When I looked at my phone there was a txt from her. Asking if I knew a number for a taxi back home. She was stuck in the train. So I txt her she replied saying I was a star and thank you. I thought she might have had no signal to google it but when I checked facebook this morning she had posted a status on facebook. Which got me thinking why didn’t she just look up the number.
@oshi glad your doing well try and play it cool not like myself
She is doing what all women seem to do, go to her safe option ego boost to know that your always there.
It IS strange. As you said she could google it. It MIGHT be that she’s doing it for an ego boost but to me it sounds more like she wanted your attention, as if she felt like she could count on you. Do you guys live close to each other?
It’s a bit funny because I’ve been in this situation as well once. I think it was a about a month after we broke up that I got stuck in another city at night without any way to get back. And the first person who came to my mind was him. So I called him. After two rings I hung up thinking that what I’m doing is stupid. Eventually I found a taxi that’s going to my city. But yes at that moment I wanted to know that he would be there for me.
So this feeling seems a bit the same to me, however I might be wrong.
Hi @oshi how are the exams going? Hope everything’s well
I’m almost done with my exams. Thanks!
My ex called me last Saturday. He sent me a video of a cute kitten he saw while taking his dog for a walk. He knows that I love cats, he was sending me videos like this often when we were together. And he couldn’t meet up this week, said he’s working double shifts all week because everyone there has exams. So we are going to meet up next Monday. I’m trying not to get my hopes up yet.
How’s everything going with you?
That’s good, I hope with everything going on your able to stay focus.
That’s good, I wish u well. Remember what u told me they might have feelings for us but they will have to act on them. But I wish you the best. That’s very good news.
Ye I’m good. Staying focused. I think I’m at the point where if we don’t get back together it will be fine but obiasly I still want it.
Something strange happend today though.
Yesterday I txt her (I was waiting on results and she said for me to let her know when I recived them) we txt for a bit then said good night.
But today while I was out for a run she txt me, I had gone home for the weekend for a family funeral. She asked how it went and asked if I was still about or gone back to the city.
I said I had gone back, but I asked her why?
Now this is what I think is the strange bit. She said she was wondering as she was still about.
I replied saying i had to get back for work but I would be back on the weekend to go for a hike.
She then replied with that she was at a festival that weekend and mentioned that it was a year since we went there together.
I replied saying I was jealous of her going again and that we had a good time last year. And I hope she has a good time again
What I find strange is that she asked if I was still about, I took it to mean she might want to hangout, then to speak of found memories we had. Maybe I’m over thinking it but that’s the way I took it.
What do you think @oshi?
That’s a good thinking!
Maybe she wants to hangout with you but doesn’t want to make it obvious?
I know that when they mention good memories from the relationship then it’s a good sign. However I don’t want to get your hopes up. If she meant that then I believe she would ask you again to hangout.
Ye hopefully. Maybe I’m reading too much into it but makes me think. Your right I shouldn’t get my hopes up but it might mean something all I can do is wait and see. But she hasn’t said anything like this yet so it got me thinking.
And the way she worded it. Hopefully I’m right but hey who knows lol
I am trying to not be a buzz kill, I agree just keep it cool. As my ex did this a few weeks back now she is back to jsit after the break up behaviour.
We are both in the same situation where we have to wait and see but I have a good feeling about this. They are both initiating conversations with us and it is a change. So I think we should stay positive. You never know what may happen
@oshi Ye we are. Like I said ive got to the point where I’ll be happy either way. But I want one more than the other lol.
Playing it cool.
I put a facebook status up today regarding my travel but a crptic one.
And within 5 min she had txt me to ask what was goin on. Where I was going? Who with etc
When I said I was off to Thailand she was like be careful girls will be throwing them selfs at you. I said I’m not into that type of stuff.
She then replied with I know what there like there. Then a sad face ? so I’m not sure how to take it. We exchanged a few txt’s today the most we’ve done since our break up. Like I said I’m playing it cool. But it must mean something right?
@Gingerone … I don’t know if you’re completely clueless or if this whole wesbite/blog/forum has messed you up. It’s staring you right in the face: SHE MISSES YOU.
She’s jealous that you’re going to Thailand, worried you’ll get with girls over there and that you’re moving on.
If it was me I would have responded to her “Be careful girls will be throwing themselves at you” with “How about you throw yourself at me too then? We should meet up some time and have dinner together, when are you free?”. It’s a cocky, funny response that’ll get a straight answer from her, either she says no to which you tell her “hey that’s OK, get in contact with me if you change your mind” or she says “yes” and you can ask her to bring a bottle of wine to yours and make dinner.
Girls who like you will put themselves in your orbit …
She might miss me but doesn’t mean she wants to get back together. I tried asking her out a few weeks back now but she said she disn’t think she could.
But maybe your right I should try again. I was thinking of asking her out to a music night next week.