@oshi why do u think he’s calling every few days? Have u meat up?
@Gingerone What she’s said is indeed confusing. But I believe that she wouldn’t say anything like that if she means it only in a friendly way. Obviously when someone tells you that they are dreaming and thinking about you and even shouting your name while asleep then it means something more to them. I think that she started to realize her feelings and maybe even figured out what she wants, which is you. However it won’t change anything if she wouldn’t act and decide to get back together. Maybe she figured out her feelings but still not ready for a relationship again. Maybe you can try talking with her on the phone for a few days and see how it goes. If it goes well then you can offer her to hang out together and see how she responds. How long had you been together?
We’ve met up 3 times since the break up. At first he was cold and distanced. But on our last meeting he was warmer and smiled a lot. We laughed and had a good time. He also seemed jealous when I talked about this guy I dated. Asked me questions about him and such.
Since then I’ve stopped contacting him and he started to initiate (It was a month ago) Before that I was the one initiating all the time. We agreed to stay friends so this could be the reason for him to initiate the meeting. But last time he said it bothers him that I still have feelings for him so why would he offer to meet up anyway? Also last time and the one before he called me at midnight, said that he worked till late. So I’m asking myself why would he think of calling me right after he gets home and probably tired from work? My parents think that maybe he’s trying to reach out or to start something again but I’m confused from all of this.
@oshi sounds like we’re both in a confusing situation
We were together for 5 years but I was chaseign here for a year before that.
That’s what I was thinking for someone to tell you things like that they must want you to know that there might be something there other wise why bring it up. She could have said nothing. She’s on holiday with her mum at the moment but facebook massaged me last night. I exchanged a few msgs then closed the convo off.
She did mention before she went away that she would like to meet up so I’ll see how that plays out. I don’t want to get my hopes up just yet.
Your situation is difficult, if he’s ringing you up late after work it could mean only one thing that he’s thinking about you. Take it from me we men do strange things sometimes. Maybe he wants you but doesn’t want to come out and say it. Stay strong play it cool, I’m with you on this good things will come your way
@Gingerone No one can forget someone after 5 years relationship with him, that’s for sure. It definitely seems like she still attached to you and has feelings. And you’re right she could have said nothing but instead she mentioned it twice, which obviously means something. I know that girls can be emotionally attached sometimes and still be confused about what they want. So I think her feelings might become clear when you two meet up. Don’t get your hopes up as you said, play it cool and wait for her to initiate the meeting.
My ex and I were together for 1.4 years.
I think the same, I know that he’s probably thinking about me if he’s calling me in these hours and right after work. But even if he wants something again I’m afraid that he won’t be the one to make the first move. His ego is too big. My friend keeps telling me that maybe his intentions are really just to stay friends, and that’s why he keeps in touch. However she doesn’t know him much, only from the things I’ve told her before. Also his behavior is too weird for just a “friend”. I guess I’ll figure out his true intentions next time we meet.
@oshi I know I keep saying that to myself but I can’t help it, all I can think about now is her, why she would say that? Is she reaching out?
I’m even over thinking stuff like x at the end of her txt/msgs she used to put a small x and the last few times they have been capital X and I know this is daft thing to think about but like I said I’m over thinking everything. Damm it ?
Like you said I’ll know more when she gets back, I just hope there might be some chance.
Again what if she’s only doing this to stay friends ahhhh my head is messed up right now
@Gingerone I completely understand how you feel! I’m feeling like this myself.
It won’t help overthinking this stuff. It would only make you feel crazy and lose your mind. Believe me I know. I’m thinking about every little thing he does and it just makes me feel bad and confused even more. Her behavior might be because she’s trying reaching out or might be for nothing. I know it can’t be helped thinking about it but try to do some stuff to ease your mind. We have to remain patient 
When is she coming back from her vacation?
Your right, I need to pull myself together. I could be nothing and probebly is, I’ve probebly built it up its because it’s what I want to belive. Best prepare myself for the worse. It’s just been one of them days. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
She’s back on Monday? So I gusess I’ll find out soon if there’s anything too it. But I’m now thinking it’s nothing 
@Gingerone We all have those days. Think of it as a temporary feeling.
You should stay positive because in your case it seems that she really is missing you and wouldn’t have said those things for nothing. I think she wanted you to know how she feels. However I think it’s better not to expect anything because you never know what might happen. You just have to wait a few more days! Stay strong
@oshi thanks
I’m feeling better now, went down the gym to get my mind off it. Always helps!
I hope so, I really hope I have a chance to show her ive changed. But if not I’ll continue on my path to become a better me.
I’m glad your here for advice, I don’t tell my friends much now coz I think I might be boring them lol
I hope we both get what we want 
I’m glad that you feel better
I know what you mean. My friends seem a bit tired from hearing about it as well lol. It helps when you have other people that are going through the same thing and can understand your situation better. This forum and the people here helped me a lot. Thank you as well! I’m here for you if you need any help or anything
Thanks @oshi your a great help. I’m still thinking about it but determined to not let it get to me. What will be will be.
I’ve got to keep in mind how far I’ve come personally. I’ve lost over 2 1/2 stone training 5/6 times a week and changed my diet for the better. That must count for something. Long road to go though
How are u today?
That’s a great way of thinking! And you’re right. What meant to happen will happen.
You are working on yourself to get better and that’s really good! Focus on yourself and eventually things will change. Whether you get back together or move forward with your life. It won’t matter anymore because you feel complete and happy with yourself. Remember that you’ve tried your best and made great progress and that’s what really matters.
I’m okay, trying not to think too much about it. Have exams coming up. So I need to focus on that and do my best
I’m having a really hard time focusing on my studies right now.
I know that I have to be patient and stay positive, but I can’t stop thinking about it. Next month is his birthday, and I’ve really wanted to celebrate it together with him. I keep having these scenarios in my head of him asking me to hangout on this day or inviting me together with his friends to celebrate but I guess in reality it wouldn’t happen. Why would he choose to be with ME on this day? On the other hand he keeps calling ME right after work and this late. But sometimes I feel like he’s doing it because he “has to” in order to show his side of this “friendship”. I guess I’m just feeling bad right now because I realized that it’s been 4 month since the breakup and I’m not seeing any chance for us to come back together.
@oshi it’s hard I know, try and stay positive hopefully things will work out for u. Remember like you told me, it’s about being happy within yourself.
I’m meeting up with the x tonight, no idea how it’s going to go! I’m very nervous about it.
I’m not sure if I’m late, but good luck with your meeting! Just try to have fun tonight and take it easy, be cool about it! I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you! 
I’m meeting up with my ex next week. Feeling a bit nervous, but trying to remain positive
Thanks guess we’re both at the same point here, same emotions, same hopes.
It’s not anything big just poping round to see her for a bit. That’s why I’m nervous, if it was something more maybe I would feel better about it. But at least I can gage her and see how she acts. Esspecily after what she said in her last txt’s. But she’s seemed to cool it down since then. Even though she did contact me when she was on holiday.
Thanks for the advice. I’ll try and play it cool. Hopefully things will go well . I’ll get back to u after
@oshi she blew me off she said she had something to do! My mind is racing now. What if she’s seeing someone else
My mind is in over drive now thinking bad thoughts!
She’s the one that initiated the meeting in the first place, then she would probably initiate it again. Try not to worry too much about it, you don’t know the real reason so you shouldn’t assume things that didn’t happen. It doesn’t seem like she’s seeing anyone. She shares with you her thoughts, that she’s thinking and dreaming about you but she doesn’t have to do it. Maybe she got cold feet, or maybe something really came up. Try to stay calm and wait a little while. She would probably ask you again. hopefully things will go well.