And just thought to myself, you know what, I have apologised for how I reacted to the break up, I have told him what problems I had that caused the break up and also told him how I have fixed those problems, I have remained calm and cool to him, not pushed for anything, left the contacting up to him, and it’s still not enough. I really think he is just being stubborn because he doesn’t want to be seen to be weak for changing his mind, and he probably has reservations about it going wrong again, but rather than have guts and go for it, he is bottling it all up. And in the process is throwing away the chance of true happiness. I can’t push him, I can’t force him, I have done what I can. I am going to do NC again for a couple of weeks. If HE contacts me after that then we will see where we go from there. but I truly feel like I have done everything I can up to this point. Without him actually wanting to see me, I am stuck.
Like as Kevin mentioned in his emails, our exes might want to get back but the dont want to due to the fact that they dont want to appear crazy for changing their mind.
So the only thing we can do is to give them time to see what happens. That’s just the way it is…
Yep exactly. I’ve been reading through the emails and stuff too. It is purely just stubbornness and pride that stops them. As it was their decision to do so.
I think I have got in his head a little bit since I sent the letter. I’ve noticed he’s messaged me more, and the types of things he has said have been a lot more emotive (from his side).
As I said, I will leave him to it for a little bit, let him have some time to think (hopefully) and then I may message him in a couple of weeks to see how he is doing and if he fancies catching up.
It doesn’t necessarily mean anything that he contacted me lol. He was being polite in sending me a letter back so he could of easily not done it. But I am taking it as a nice gesture and that I did know him like I thought I did.
I’m sure your letter will make an impact on her. Don’t expect anything back from it, then you won’t be disappointed if you don’t get something back.
I agree with everything you guys said, because THEY were the ones ending the relationship they feel like they HAVE to stick to their decision and won’t listen to their heart, I’m sure they think about us everyday and wondering if they did the right choice, but right now the stubbornness and pride stop them from acting, they think it’s better that way because it means they won’t get hurt again. That’s way we should give them enough time to heal so all the negative feelings will go away.
If after this you feel like you did everything you could, tried your best and it didn’t help, then there is nothing more you can do about it, you have to be complete with yourself that you’ve tried everything you could and didn’t give up, that it’s not in your hands anymore.
I’ve already accepted the fact that it’s all over, but just doing all this NC and stuff gave me a glimmer of hope and if it doesn’t work I’d still be disappointed
Yep same her @mj. But I’m trying to move on, but at the same time I don’t want to. Got another date tonight so things ain’t that bad. Even though I want my ex back more than anything. I’ve recently been doing things I know she would enjoy and posting on Instagram to see what reaction I get. The letter is in the post as well so all in all I’m feeling good. Got a few days off from work from tomorrow and was planing a road trip but weathers not good where I want to go. So I’m planing on going a few beaches and museum round my way that I know she would have enjoyed.
Same here mate, none of them have come close to her but I’ve got to try and continue. She won’t even meet me at the moment but I’m hoping the letter helps on that front
I went to see a band play tonight, it would be something my ex really would have loved. I’m thinking about txting her tomorrow something like the line of ‘seen a good band play last night, reminded Me of you, hope your ok x’ but with me sending out the letter yesterday. See should get that tomorrow or the day after. Should I not txt her because it would be too much contact. Especially if I txt her before she gets the letter? What do u guys think?
You guys are right, all this stuff we are doing like NC and sending letters do gives us hope, and also preventing us from getting all depressed, it makes us feel better and keep moving forward. I believe that if you truly love each other, you will always find your way back to each other, if not, then maybe they just haven’t loved you enough.
Have faith and don’t lose hope!
I’m trying to have faith now ive done my letter, I’m going to leave him be for a while and it’s up to him. My mum messaged him yesterday (he wanted to pass a message onto her)
@gingerone I would wait until the letter arrives mate
ive done my letter, I’m going to leave him be for a while and it’s up to him. My mum messaged him yesterday (he wanted to pass a message onto her)