@Oshi I think you should at least try the false friendship. If you see no progress, then it should be time to move on. However, don’t do the false friendship if you think it may be too hard for you!
@ellie96: I agree with you, I’m going to try it and stay positive.
How long did it take for you to become close with your ex again?
@Oshi We have been broken up for 6 months now. With a lot of back and forth “friendship” situations. Both of us confused about what we want. I mean we have literally become close within the past 2 weeks. But if you don’t know about our situation (in other posts), about a month ago we got into it so bad that he was verbally abusive towards me and did get physical. I didn’t talk to him for an entire week and he blew up my phone everyday. We came in contact again, and I gave him my letter. You could tell he was like “holy crap I lost her”. Then he brought up some medical concerns, so I ended up sticking around. Now, things are good, but at the same time they aren’t. We are “just friends” even though we kiss, say I love you, and are intamite. I am still making a decision on what I should do since he had just recently brought up some more news. If you do a friendship, but decide you can’t handle it, walk away. You don’t need that pain anymore.
Okay guys, this is just really bothering me right now. I am handling what he told me yesterday pretty well (about the depression and getting high to sleep). I haven’t given my opinion, nagged, or given him any advice because I know that’s not what he needs to hear (from experience). But it is bothering me so much that he is getting high. It is driving me insane. We talked some today and he texted me around 4 saying “G2g I’ll talk to you later” and I haven’t heard from him. Normally it doesn’t bother me, but for some reason right now it does and I’m assuming it is because he is doing drugs. I know I can’t say anything right now. I just don’t know how to handle it personally :'/
Hmmm… high might not necessarily mean drugs, ellie. But there really is nothing you can do from your side at the moment 
@Mj No he literally told me he smokes.
Yesterday he told me he would text me later and he never did… Should I read into that or no?
@ellie96 it’s a tough one to approach like you say. Maybe you could talk to him about the reason why he gets high to fall asleep, and what is going on that’s making him unable to sleep without doing that. That way you are not giving an opinion on what he is doing or anything but simply lending an ear. x
Sometimes guys want to have some time alone so that’s maybe why he has not responded yet?
How is day 2 of NC, KD?
I’m trying to push out any thoughts of doubt I’m having
On day three here now 
Woke up this morning really upset and hurt. Think everything just came tumbling down on me, worrying about the future, about what he’s thinking or more importantly not thinking, wondering if he will ever change his mind. Snapped myself out of it and pushed those thoughts to one side for now. Just keep telling myself that if he wants to talk to me, he will. Really thought we had made some progress as we were talking and getting on etc but now it feels like it’s all gone backwards. It’s a month today that we broke up. I just need to be patient!
I had the same thought in the morning, everyday I wake up I dream that she posts a picture of her new life LOL
Next week it will be 2 months for me. I’m thinking of just texting her instead of calling her.
It sucks!!Really wish we could be on the same page. But I can’t go down that road of thinking coz I’ll hurt myself. Just gotta keep my head up and get on with it!
Ok I texted her, hope she responds enough of a conversation for me to ask!
Good luck!
Still no reply! The silence is killing me…
What did you say? Just be calm
Since I brought it up the last time we talked, I sent her a link of that cafe saying “if you’re still down for lunch!”
That’s good, very casual she will reply. Just try not to worry about it, I know that is easy to say!
Yeah I’m trying to not think about it. Just that I know her phone is always with her, so she probably saw it already.
@Mj She will be thinking about you!
@KD I am so proud of you!!!
And I understand that and we aren’t dating so he can still do whatever he wants. It normally wouldn’t bother me, but now that I know he’s doing drugs, it bothers me like no other. when he texts me today, idk how to respond since he didn’t text me yesterday.
@Ellie if her mind isnt already occupied by someone else