My ex has shown and said she loves me as more than a friend. Was sending I love you babys and good night texts till I hit five days of NC. Then she quit.
How are you so sure your ex doesnt care ??
Its already 9 days of NC. He doesnt text me at all. He doesnt call me. He doesnt find me in any ways. He doesnt text my bestfriend to check on me. All he do is keep tagging his gf in any funny cute video in fb, keep commenting his gf in fb (im sure in private msg too). While his gf is soo proud that her new bf is near with her. Hang out with him frequently and she keep update how happy she is and all positive feedback about him.
Isnt that obvious? Hmmm. She is very happy now. No matter how harsh she is and the way she act like a boy, there is still a person who adores her and so charming which is my ex. People keep congrates her. I hate it. I hate the fact he is happy with her soo soon!
@arryan. Im sure that’s a rebound. Post your story for me. Id like to know. 
Don’t worry, I’m sure the happiness is just to rub it in your face.
Do yourself a favor, don’t go onto social media for awhile or just mute/block him.
It’ll help alot, trust me, that’s what I’m doing now.
If he knows or realizes that you’re not stalking or checking up on social media, he’ll stop being or showing that he’s “happy”.
Its a rebound even she is his bestfriend for 3 years?
Well, me and my ex bf together about 8 months. We were really mutual, did things together, cuddling, hugging and kissing everytime we met. We were really close and like to chilling. We had fight in july till he feels like he really hurt but slowly evrytjing become ok and we cuddle and close again until october. There was a big fight. I had no intention to creat a problem. I just want to know how it feels about me and how serious we were. But he didnt give me the answer that i crave. He gave me like indirect answer which i was not satisfied. And i was like i try to force him and ask him again again and he pissed off like really pissed off. He said “yes! I tried to gain back my love towards you but we fight like this, my feelings are empty right now!”
I lost it. I was shocked. Like…everything disappear so fast. We broke up at the end of october. He wanted to remain friends. Just friends. It hurts me. He doesnt give me any chance at all. I begged and i cried and i sick but he seems like he blame me for all this. And he doesnt give anything about it.
A week after that, he put his picture with his bestfriend as wallpaper but when my friend asked him about it, he said they were just close in terms of friends.but things getting close and close
Early november, they started to be more close, they tweet each other, they comment each other and they even being sweet on public. My ex bf getting cold and cold with me. But he will text me once a day to ask me how it goes. I try to do the rewind without nc, its almost ok but i become needy back and clingy
Until one day, i gave him a nice video from youtube. A funny video so rhat he will laugh because he was sick. Unfortunately, he doesnt reply my sms. In fact, he post that video to his gf fb! I was totally pissed off! He didnt even say thank you to me! After that, i decided i want to do nc. A day after i sent the video he texted me and say “hey you” but i dont want to reply. I started the nc till now
He doesnt even want to find me in any ways. In fact, they become happier and sweetier and full of romance even in public! He posted their pics, she posted everything about him. Its like… I dont even exist! They been together like 6 weeks now.
So what do u think?
@LAbound It does seem odd that she didn’t add him to social networking sites, but maybe she isn’t that into him? From my own perspective, if I went on a few dates with someone and wasn’t feeling it, I wouldn’t add them either.
I’m on 7 or 8 days NC. Broke it tonight to let my ex know about a financial situation of ours, but said nothing else. He immediately wrote back. I wish he hadn’t, was hoping he wouldn’t say anything. I feel sick now. He didn’t say anything bad, just that he hopes we can talk soon and to take my time. Ugh. I didn’t respond. Do I have to restart NC now?
Wear something bright, cheerful and maintain prettier
@aryan I think that you should ask yourself the following question. If you had moved on to another relationship this quickly then would you be so public about it?
I wouldn’t. There is no way that I would want to show my immaturity by trying to rub an Ex’s face in how happy I appear to be in a new relationship so soon after a split.
I agree with you that it is odd that he has started seeing his best friend, but if that girl was so special to him then you need to ask yourself why was hr seeing you instead of her in the first place?
Stick with your NC, it’s still very early days yet.
Im so agree with your questions. God, i always asked that to myself. But im a girl so it might have not same intention with him or any guys. I didnt update that much to my social media if i moved on to another relationship. I mean im not that kind of person. I like to keep it slow and humble about it. When we were together, we like to keep it simple and not too loud in public. But when he with her, everything they like to show in public. He post her picture in instagram and also fb and twitter. I feel like are you serious with her? How could u move on so fast? And doesnt care how i feel at all? Its like i dont even exist.
He used to say that he wont be with her because she is his bestfriend and she is not romantic and they like to fight and teasing each other. He said she has a lot of guy friends and he has a lot of girl friends. Thats why they comfortable and understand but he said he treat me different from them and he loved me. But that when before we broke up. Right now, im shocked. Because he choose her instead of giving me another chance. He even update a status “this is just perfect”… I was like… Wow… Im shocked he is so happy right now
@aryan My Ex updated something saying "So Happy
@aryan My Ex updated something saying “So Happy” - Yeah she was so happy that both if her rebounds lasted less than two months and it appears that contact with either of those two guys is now very limited at best. Perhaps she doesn’t try to speak to either of them at all.
I have learnt that things aren’t always what they seem after break ups. When things are going well I now get worried about receiving yet another set back, but when I have almost given up hope my Ex always reaches out to me. It’s very confusing. I know that she cares about me very much but I would still put the liklihood of her giving me another chance at 50%.
I am trying to be jer friend first and foremost and remain the person I always promised her I would be. Sometimes that is not easy.
Assume that it’s not going to happen and work on yourself. Once you feel strong enough after NC then always leave the door open for him. Reward any good behaviour or nice contact you receive from him but also distance yourself if you sense a fight brewing. Have the conversation with him about wanting to be friends with him and that you still care about him, but that both of you need to leave the past in the past. There is no point in you keep blaming eachother for the relationship split. At least that’s what I done after NC and explained that I wasn’t ignoring my Ex but that I just needed some time to focus on myself.
At least you know she cares about you. I dont know whether he cares about me or not. I think he doesnt.He keep post everything about her in public tho. Im still his friend in his fb and twitter. But i just dont update anything durIng NC. After i finish my nc, then i will contact him and update my social media.
It hurts to see him being so happy. Im not sure he really happy or just pretend but im pretty sure he and her are having well conversation till now. He still doesnt contact me at all. I try my best to improve myself and keep busy but at the same time i want to enter his mind but i cant 
@aryan I have gone through stages in nearly each of the 6 months since I split with my Ex where I have questioned whether she actually really does care about me or not. August was an awful month for me which resulted in her saying that she didn’t want me in her life anymore and her not speaking to me for a period of two weeks towards the end of the month and early September. We then had a period of very limited contact (her choice rather than mine) before her requesting my help for some things and a few big arguments.
The first 5 weeks or so after I dumped my Ex, towards the end of June were the easiest for me, even though they were difficult tines too. I hit rock bottom perhaps after approx 10 to 12 weeks after our split.
It has only been more recently that I have begun to accept the fact that I might never get the chance of a new relationship with my Ex. I have also thought to myself should I really want her back if she is unable to communicate better with me and shows that she really wants to give things another go too? I haven’t given up hope and have tried to leave the door open to her but if I’m honest then I still don’t really think things will work or improve for me or her very quickly. I always knew that this relationship would probably hurt me but I still couldn’t help myself due to our previous friendship history and the attraction we feel for eachother.
I would say that it is very unlikely that your Ex is actually as happy as he appears to be. If you are happy then you don’t really have to keep telling the world about it. You are just too busy leading your blissfully happy life.
I wish i can be as strong as you. I wish i could read his mind and his current feeling too about me. He wanted to remain friends only tho. Its odd that he doesnt even mention about this to me but shows it in public.
I just keep remain silence, improve myself and keep busy. I do want him back so bad but he has someone else which is his bestfriend, i feel like my hope is very slim. He doesnt say anytiing to me. Hw has her i think. Thats why he doesnt text me
Wow! I love this post. You truly crasp the meaning of nc. I want what you have…awesome!!!
NC, Day 13
Well, I broke NC, and I kind of don’t care. I tried making a conversation but it didn’t work. Oh well. I’ve over thought a lot the past couple days. I feel like I’m going crazy, I want to give up, but I’ve put so much work and effort into this. I know what I’ve done wrong, I’ve fixed it and I’m still improving.
Many people have said that my work will show soon, and that I need to be patient. I’m trying so very hard. And some have said to listen to my gut, which is telling me that we will get back together soon and here recently I’ve felt that something good is going to happen soon.
I just broke down and cried a few mintues ago, I need advice
@Confused_Girl What happened when you broke NC? Did your ex say anything when you tried to start a conversation? It’s okay to have a cry if you need it.
NC day 2 for me, I broke NC. I’m frustrated that I did it. I was only on day 9 or 10. Starting over with it.
He didn’t say really say anything, I’ve realized a few minutes ago that he has is doing the push/ pull thing where they won’t talk to you for weeks.
I don’t know what to do, I miss him so very much. I have a strong feeling that something good is going to happen though, and my gut still says that we will get back together. I have worked very hard for this, and now I don’t know what to do
My friends told me that I have to break my nc to reply his text since he text me during nc and they said they afraid if my ex bf will think that i dont care about him anymore and he will think that i move on
What should i do? Should i break my nc 11 days?
My ex moved out about 6 weeks ago and we broke up 2 weeks ago and I did 11 days of NC then she contacted me and now tonight she txt me and while chatting she asked if it would be ok to go to the movies together early January. So that will be a good time of not seeing each other and I’m hoping the final few dates we went on, which were really fun will shorten her healing time, I guess we’ll soon see.
Either way, very happy she was the one to ask to see me again
I know I could have said no and made her wait but Ill keep up Limited NC until then and that will be a good 6-7 weeks of not seeing her so I think that’s enough