That pain will always stuck on you if you allowed it to.
Silence meAns thousand words
Happiness is the best revenge
Pain is uninvited enemy.
We All heartbroken and painful. But we are stick together and support each other here. We can do this and we can be strong to get through this. I dont know about you but i know how painful you are. But your life is important. More important. Hang in there
Those are really wise words!
@Ccltj009
What you are feeling now will pass, once you enter the anger stage DONOT what so ever be vindictive and take revenge. It is very important that you have full control of your emotions.
Thank you ^.^ hows your situation going there?
I’m already way past the anger stage. I don’t even know what stage I’m in.
Nothing much has changed yet. I am on NC day 14. I am dating other people casually (as in just going for meals etc; not sleeping around). My ex is the type to accept something and move on so I am have been a bit worried lately if NC is the right way to go about if I want her back.
One of her friend has been trying to get in touch with me a lot; she see me as a mutual friend but I do not consider her much of it. I have a feeling my ex asked her to investigate about me.
My ex is seeing someone, the guy she broke up with me for. (She has not done anything physical with him yet; though the guy is really flirtatiously touchy.)
I will have to create a thread to discuss what I foresee and etc…
How are you faring aryyan?
Everyone hang in there.
@SodiumC have you reinstated your NC period?
The proven order is denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
The order which is went through was denial, bargaining, depression (then looped several times with bargaining), anger and finally acceptance. I do however have had relapsed a few times.
So you might be in depression…just hanging in there. You are important to your friends around you, the people you meet (even online) and your family. We have also had some really good conversations here. Once you move to acceptance you will be a lot better…try dating other people even if you don’t want; but do not talk about your ex with. Do things which you have never done with her; it will allow time to pass a lot quicker.
Well, im still doing my NC for 8 days now. I remain silence and stay away from him and social media. No news from him at all. He doesnt even find me in any ways like fb or even text my friend. He is dating with someone else which is his bestfriend like 6 weeks after we broke up and they seem happy and keep tagging, commenting in social media with each other. It hurts so much but there is nothing i can do because im still in nc.
I also feel like you where im not sure whether the Nc is a correct way for me and to him since he seems like he doesnt care about me or miss me. But i think nc is the only way that i dont look needy and clingy. Its the only way that i ccan improve myself. I dont go date. Im just hangout with friends, go to gym and spa To keep busy and improve.
I think is a good thing that she asked someone to check you up. It means she still care about you butshe scared to text you directly. So she might be used indirectly. How long her friends text you? How frequent? So far, my friend said my ex bf doesnt text her to check on me tho. Hmmm
I have only assumed that she has asked her to check on me. I really hope we all get want we want. I really love her and we connected really well like jigsaw puzzles.
I understand. I do love him and miss him so much. Remember our old memories like we were so perfect. Its just… Its not fair for me since he doesnt want to give me for last chance. Im human i made mistakes. But what to do. I just try my best to improve myself and i hope i can have him. Have you try “rewind relationship” by ryan before?
I don’t know, maybe I am in depression. Maybe looped back a few times over the 6 weeks too. But in every stage, pain is always apparent and I’m just really sick of hurting.
It’s hard not to do anything I havent done with her because…we did everything together. Everything. And I really wish I am important to the friends and family around me…it doesn’t feel that way but I hope I am.
Yes it’s reinstated, indefinitely. I’m still having trouble controlling my emotions and my sleep is still being interrupted. All I can really do now is go cold turkey… I can see it taking a while before I can fully detach myself from her now. Sucks, but that’s the way it’s gone down unfortunately.
I’ve been hitting up the dating apps in the last couple of days and it has actually helped somewhat. Just talking to new women helps to at least temporarily take my mind off her. Just gotta keep plugging away!
What I will say for you is that your situation certainly appears a lot more hopeful than mine. Keep doing what you’re doing, the fact shes been trying to reach out is a positive sign!
Hey Guys,
I am going to complete 2 weeks of no contact today. I have been working on myself. I am focusing on studies and stood second in exam. Also, I have joined a gym and am doing 1.5 hours of workout everyday. At times, I still miss him and I wish that both of us could just go back as we were before. But as we all know that NC is about us being a better person, so I will continue to focus on myself, be a happier person and not be so emotional. I am still emotional, I guess. I wish this NC makes me a better person. And all you people just hold on and work on yourself, it will give you confidence and courage. Hope everybody gets their love 
Be Happy and Take care
Day 11 of NC (I think) lol
I has been a good day. Missed my ex a couple times. Negative thpughts tried to enter my mind but I pushed them back.
Im scared. My ex is dating someone else. I dont believe it’s a rebound her rebound was right after the breakup. It’s been 7 months since the breakup. Three attempts at reconciling but it was too soon and she was still into her rebound. Seventh month, she loves me more than a friend but thinks we wont work. She’s been on several dates with a new person that was described by her as extremely talkative and shes not used to that and this person is just ok. I asked her if she really liked this person and she said she liked him enough to go on a second date…
So, any thoughts? Rebound or no?
How long they have been together?
I dont know what to do. I see my ex every day at school. 12th grader here! This sucks because we are in a SMALL club together too. How do i do no contact now?!?
She started dating this guy nov. 28th. Theyve gone on two dates since then. My ex said he is just ok. She didnt express a lot of interest. Her rebound right after the breakup, she talked a lot about him. Put him on a pedestal and wasnt shy when expressing her feelings for him. It wasnt like that with this one.
Its almost the same with my situation. My ex bf with his bestfriend now as a couple right after we broke up and they have been together for 1 month plus. And they also hang out quite frequently since they are in same college but my ex bf doesnt tell me about this girl much before i started to do NC but they are quite express their sweetness and closeness in public such as fb and twitter. They tag each other and they comment each orher. Their friends always support their relationship (good feedback tho). Your ex do like this with her partner too?
@LAbound Sounds like your Ex has entered a second rebound relationship to me.
I believe that my Ex has had two rebounds, the first of which I believe she really liked and I was never supposed to know about. That relationship could have perhaps worked out for her if the fella that I believe she was seeing hadn’t got overly jealous and obsessed with my Ex’s refusal to take his advice by not to having anymore contact. He went all weird and became a bit of an obsessed idiot. I am so glad that this bloke shown his true colours quite early on as I was really worried about my Ex and her daughter when I believe she was seeing this guy. I was told by my Ex that this bloke was a family friend but don’t really believe that at all, although I’ve never made a big deal about it. This relationship lasted less than two months (between late July and early September I think).
My Ex then dated another man who she started seeing in October. She was upfront about this one telling me about him just a couple of weeks in to her.relationship with him. She said that she had already haf doubts about this relationship but liked the guy, even though she said that she had “no real connection with him” but “a great connection with me.” I played it cool with her for a couple of weeks or so but then went NC with her for 24 days after a disagreement with her. She dumped this fella during this period and contacted me saying that she needed my help with the guy I believe she had her first rebound relationship with after 18 days of NC.
I think/hope that she has now realised how rare it is to find somebody you have a great connection with who thinks the world of you and wants the best for you.
I’ve laid down rules that we don’t keep bringing up negative stuff that happened in the past. That is history now. We need to both start with a clean slate if we are to move on and at least salvage a friendship or something more out of the years that we have known eachother. I will just go quiet now if I think that she needs space or is trying to pick a fight with me.
We have been talking to eachother and being nice to one another for about 10 days now since I ended our NC. I’m scared of setting myself up again for yet more hurt but I don’t want to give up hope totally as I do keep getting given promising signs from her (really nice to me, followed by anger when she says that I am her best friend suggests to me that she is a long way from being over me). I still have no idea if I can engineer the opportunity for us to spend some quality time together though and I have no idea if she will ever run the risk of dating me again as I know that I hurt her a lot when.I dumped her and still think that she may be some time from seeing past that still. I do believe that she still has some hope that we may end up back together at some point though. I think that I would be history by now and she would not want such regular contact with me if this wasn’t the case.
In essence what I was trying to say was that just because your Ex is now dating the 2nd person she has seen since your split it doesn’t necessarily mean that this isn’t a rebound too. She will know if you are unhappy about who she is spending time with whether you hide it or not. Don’t read too much in to any relationships she might be having. If she still wants regular contact with you then she is not over you and the likelihood is that her current relationship will not last too long.
@aryyan
My ex hasnt added this guy to any social network. Which is odd.
It’s funny that her first rebound showed his jealous side. I read just the other day that a good reason to stay in contact with an ex who is dating someone is so the ex shows jealousy and become unattractive to the ex.
Thank you both for the feedback. Im just really worried that during NC she is going to find someone and forget me.
I don’t even want to get started on sex. -_- pisses me off. Lol
Thats weird tho. Maybe they have communication at somewhere. Its ok. Me neither. Im afraid they will become more happy and he will forget about me. He really doesnt care about me now which is very hard for me.