Well JAM I’m an idiot I saw he was online so I linked him to a funny video that was like 5 seconds long and he’s “seen” it but not responding by the looks of things
He didn’t give much of a response and then i tried to start convo by saying woo hoo i have the house to myself this weekend, not really insinuating anything but sort of at the same time and he’s “seen” it again but this time definitely looks like no response.
Yeah, you have to pull back a little, I know that you have been somewhat talking, but it’s still a new thing. I fell into the same trap a few weeks back. We had talked and hung out a couple of times. So, I took it and ran with it, which was a bad idea… Remember you want him chasing you… So don’t come on too strong…
Well heres the weird thing, the convo was shit and I wasn’t really implying anything by saying i’m home alone but he thought i was and i was like just making a statement and he’s like men like to use their dicks just a statement (fucking douchy right ? I’m not some slut you can sleeze up). Anyway I responded with a “good thing you can HANDle it ;)” lol and he gave a shitty kind of response saying “ha ha” and I didn’t bother from there then he sent me a message a few hours later saying 'you love your puns don’t you". Its odd like he went back in and sent me another message.But I got the hint today time to back off again
Also weird thing, I was just in my exes chat bubble on fb and the last message i sent was just a smiley obviously requiring no response but i remember seeing that he’d seen it not long after I sent it, but now hours later it also says “seen” at a later time, indicating that he has been in the chat bubble since. Odd ?
Sorry for all the messages JAM lol but gosh the seen time stamp just changed again ! To just a minute ago so he keeps going into our chat !!!
Yeah, it sounds as if he is getting frustrated because he had hoped that it would lead into, well… At least sex… He’s going back into the conversation, just like I go back into texts with the ex. I look at the conversation and try to pull anything out of it that I may have missed through the initial read… Keep doing what you are doing… And yes, it’s a douchey comment that he made…
Well I was wrong he was going back in cause he dirty messaged me again like I’m some kind of tinder girl and not like we have history. This time he informed me again he was using photos of le for his pleasure. Like firstly why does he keep telling me and secondly this looks more like he really just wants me for sex and that’s all. Got no idea how I can turn this one around. I sort of ended the convo and he’s like sorry I don’t know why I told you and im like cause you want more from me. And he’s like yeah and then I was like lol pics it
Is which im sure would have annoyed him
lol… He wants the “sex” portion of your relationship just not the responsibility of the actual relationship… Keep shutting him down eventually he’ll understand that he has one of two options a) make it work or b) move along, as bad as that may sound for you… Don’t give in, because how it sounds right now, if you do… He’ll disappear I guarantee it… Until the next time he’s looking for a fix…
Yeah well it looks like all he wants from me is the sex and I don’t know how to turn that around to the relationship again. Really disappointed this is what it’s come to im just another girl he can message and talk to like that even though I’m not just any girl
Yeah, you don’t want that… Like me, you will always want more than that… It will be even more crushing for you if that’s all you become to him is a “booty call” Tread lightly the next few days, see where it goes…
Yeah and im sure he would know that. Like why is he treating me as if I’m just some other girl who he can treat like this. I was feeling good about us moving in a good direction but it appears he wants nothing more than sex from me im very disappointed and saddened now. I thought I had a chance but it doesn’t look like it. I think in person he won’t act like this around me but I wonder if we’ll actually get to the meeting in person or if he’ll just get bored and fuck off
Yeah, give it until the meet up at least, maybe his attitude will change…
I decided today, while looking at the letter I wrote… I shouldn’t even give it to her, I don’t think that it will really do anything and just piss me off when she doesn’t reply to or even acknowledge what I wrote it. Idk…
Well, I guess it’s settled Natty… Your just going to have to move to the US… Lol…
Lol i would love to move to america and live in NYC haha obviously !!! You know I don’t actually know if the meetup will make any difference, I just saw he was online the exact same time the other little 20 year old twat from his work that i think he’s into was. Yet he’s still asking me for sex, probably moreso because of the familiarity I guess. Seems like one little step forward and a million back, fml 
Yeah, you don’t want to move to New York… I still have my New York license even though I moved back to Colorado 10Months ago… It’s one of those places to visit, that’s it though…
You are in a tough situation… Because you want the communication the attention the “Chase” everything you are currently getting… but to have it be for the wrong reason though, makes it harder…
Lol I love big cities and would die in NYC haha. I’m currently rewatching gossip girl loving it haha.
Yeah pretty much ejther way I’m screwed in regards to getting my ex back. It looked promising for a while there but now it’s just sex it seems. He did this last time and I doubt this time he’s using it as a means to get back together unless he’s worried I’ve lost the emotional connection to his so sex is the way to bring it back ? I dunno
Give it until you meet up, then if he pushes the issue, tell him that you’re not somebody that’s just “OK” with casual sex, that it’s more about an emotional connection for you and that you hope he understands this…
Well I won’t do it but now I just worry that his reason to talk and connect with me will be gone after that so he won’t even get to see the great changes made and stuff.
My head hurts, I swear its because of all this mindfuck business from my ex, how could I have been so naive ? I’m so disappointed I know all is not over yet as we still haven’t met up for coffee and hopefully thats still on. The audacity he has to think a woman like me can be treated like I’m just some slut who he hasn’t shared the past two years with. His behaviour is erratic, I don’t know why
The head games are the worst part of it. Like me, I get to a point where I feel good about things and think to myself that everything will be alright one way or the other. Then she says something or does something that de-rails my train of thought and pushes me back to square one again… Like I said before, give it a rest until you guys meet up again… Maybe he finally realizes himself that the things he has said or done are inappropriate and takes responsibility for that… You can only hope…