It would hurt to see them all memories, stay strong. Its been two weeks and I don’t even know where he is, its been like months and I feel like he already forgot all about me…and I deactivated my fb account
That seems really positive! He’ll be protecting himself I think, and a little bit of protecting you too! He won’t want to give you false hope if he’s not fully sure yet!
@pineappleblue yeah maybe you are right! Trying not to overthink 
@malinda deactivating facebook is a good idea. My ex deleted me and did me the world of good. He will be wondering about you but pride will be getting in the way at the moment
@KD1988 I don’t know really if he does…cuz I have deactivated it quite sometime ago when we broke up then got back on it after we came together and I have ruined all my chances being so needy or he would still leave me anyway and go away for his new opportunities even though I had quite a few changes sigh so girls please use your chances well I believe you two are really cool and doing good, so try hard keeping up the cool
@malinda don’t beat yourself up darling. It’s not all down to you. I do believe deactivating your facebook will be making him wonder. They are just so bloody stubborn and proud it’s annoying. Keep doing what you’re doing hun
Yep @malinda I agree! Keep it up and don’t be hard on yourself!
they are so bloody annoying! My emotions have gone from sad this morning to bloody angry this afternoon! Really mad and frustrated with him! Grr!
@pineappleblue I know what you mean! I’ve been the same today! How are you getting on?
Thank you for the support, it means alot @KD1988 @pineappleblue just those feelings comes and goes its irritating
I’m like an emotional roller coaster! Haha!
Well instead of sorting through the boxes properly I have procrastinated and spent the afternoon out shopping instead! Woops! I think I’m trying to avoid the issue but I know it needs to be done!
Your welcome @malinda and Thankyou both too!
Lol @pineappleblue emotional roller coaster fits right in with me too. Well you don’t need to rush doing it I guess and hope shopping made you feel better
I move next Friday now so ideally I need to do it well before then! I also can’t text him until iv done it so I know what iv got of his…
Shopping actually made me feel worse as we ended up going to the DIY shop and looking at kitchens and bedroom furniture which reminded me I should have been doing it for our house and he has taken all that away from me! But never mind eh? Sorry I really am feeling sorry for myself today ha!
@pineappleblue you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself!! I indulged in some retail therapy this afternoon!
Well girls my ex replied to a message my mum sent him. Basically saying sometimes things just don’t work out as you hope and in time he’s sure me and him can have a friendship…
I don’t want a friendship!!
Argh how annoying! Again, it may just be his way of making everyone think that he’s doing okay! Had you seen him or arranged to do so any time soon?
He did say to her he was doing really well and “knows I will be ok”. As if I’m not ok now when he knows full well I am. Nothing arranged, he mentioned meeting in his letter to me, and when I brought it up with him he said he couldn’t just yet but will let me know when he feels ok to. Which makes me think he isn’t as okay as he making out! I just gotta leave him to it now. Proper no contact!
If he was over it he would have no problem meeting! If he agreed to meet you would be able to tell he isn’t as ‘good’ as he’s making out to be…
If he genuinely was okay he would wanna flaunt it!
Exactly!!
Ah I dunno. Just taking some comfort from that
Yes you should! I hope mine agrees to meet and doesn’t just brush me off to drop stuff with his mum…
I have a feeling it would cast some doubt if he saw me after not seeing me for 5 weeks! I think his thing about attraction was either an association with a ball and chain or an excuse to make me hate him… I don’t believe that he didn’t find me attractive! He was still initiating things that you wouldn’t initiate if you didn’t find someone attractive…
@pineappleblue sorry I didn’t know you were living together, I can imagine anything may remind you anything related to him as I’m experiencing the same. @KD1988 I would advice this don’t give in easily not to regret it later, get them back fully as how you wish, you know better how to do it. What’s this remaining as friends thing its just for their good to get over with it easier or keeping an option aside, it means he still has feelings deep inside just not wanting to accept maybe
I know what you mean!!
The attraction thing isn’t always physical anyway.
I think both our exes wouldn’t be ok with meeting because of how they feel. But Id like to think for your sake that he wouldn’t brush you off either!
@malinda yes I don’t want to be friends with him. Just finding it a bit hard. I’m gonna leave him alone for a couple of weeks and then check in and see how he is doing x