I’m on day 31 today! Don’t say you have no chance! Remember to be positive!! 
You both seem like great girls though so any man who can’t see that is a fool 
and the next guy will be bloody lucky!
@KD1988 yes I know and you’re doing good, keep it up! @pineappleblue you have 6 years and as far as I read yours you havent acted so needy, so you are cool and it seems you have good chance if you keep it cool and work on yourself I think
Oh noooo don’t say the next guy just like my aunt said that too the other day, that thought gives me the thrills… 
Well I know if hes not meant to be the one for me then there will be a next or not…
I really hope so! I do just worry about the distance thing… He’s going to have to really really want it to make it work again… There’s no “let’s see how it goes” as he wont bother coming home for that!
Let’s hope there is no next guys for any of us! We don’t want them, we want our men back! Amen sisters! Haha!
I had a moment of weakness last night! Damm. I text my ex, just about something on TV that reminded me of him, got a good response at first. Then he spent the next hour telling me about how fine he is, how I don’t need to worry about him bla bla. First off, I never said I was worried about him and I said I was glad he was fine. And just wouldn’t stop saying it. I was like yeah I get it, you’re fine! Feel like absolute poo today. I know that I now must literally leave him to it and not send ANYTHING! not sure if he was trying to convince me or himself to be honest!
Probably both!
@annakis yeah prob both. Really trying to be strong today.
@kd1988 the fact that he’s even trying to convince you speaks volumes! Sounds like he is trying to make it look like he’s something he’s not! I’d take it as a small victory if I was you!
Keep strong! Your doing so well!
Well I’ve just emptied my storage unit! Burst into tears when I first got there… So much of his stuff!! Gotta sift through it all now so Gonna be an emotional day!
Well there we go, I did it.
I wrote and sent her a letter today… It was pure apology for my part in messing up our relationship. Didn’t put anything about how I’m working on myself and improving or anything like that, just said I was sorry for hurting and disappointing her and at the end I said that I hope she would forgive me.
I was so nervous about sending it but I actually smiled when it dropped into the post box… Point of no return!
Now all I have to do is let it go in my head. The way I’m looking at it is still that I can’t control anything from here on out so why worry? I can’t control how she’ll respond, and she will respond in some way, one way or another. She’ll either write me a letter back or contact me some other way and that will help me sound out how she’s feeling… Or she’ll not contact me at all. And that will be a response in itself, won’t it? I’ll know she’s not ready to talk.
I hope she does respond though, I would be lying if I said I don’t!
Of course you would be! If you didn’t wanna hear from her you wouldn’t be on this site…
I really hope the letter works for you! your right though, it is so out of our control!
It’s very freeing to think of it that way! It is for me anyway. I hope I can stick to it though haha.
@pineappleblue a small victory, yay! Haha. I see where you are coming from. I’ve sat myself down and a talk with myself lol. I’m ok leaving him to it now. Can’t do anymore. Will see what happens over the next couple of weeks but until then I will carry on doin what I’m doing. Put some jeans on today that I haven’t worn since the break up and they are baggy! Result!
Oh poor you, that does sound like an emotional day! We are all here if you need a chat!! Be strong!
@annakis well done for sending your letter. Try not to think about the response etc, as you say it’s out of your control so no point worrying about it
Argh!! All of our photo frames have pictures of him or us in them! I don’t wanna throw them away but they’re breaking my heart! I can’t believe I am doing this on my own… We were supposed to be moving this stuff into our house 
not me clearing it out on my own… So many memories! I really want to text him today and tell him what a **** he is for letting it come to this, but that will get me nowhere! Haha! Plus he’s with his friends all day and night tonight so any text isn’t going to get his full attention!
Thanks guys for your support!
Try to be strong girls, I know it gets even worse when you feel emotional. @KD1988 I agree with @pineappleblue that you’re doing good, its Too hard not to text when you suddenly have that feeling, but it sounded like a mind Game telling you not to worry about him even though you didn’t say such so don’t get caught on that you’re good
@pineappleblue that’s really hard! I can imagine how you are feeling! I stupidly threw all my exes stuff away that was in my flat, I regret that. Maybe put them in a box for now, out of sight out of mind!
@malinda thank you. Feeling strong again! I think him trying to do it on purpose says something. Probably coz he knows how well I am doing as people have told him lol
@kd1988 I have already started a box of his stuff that I have found and don’t want to part with! It’s full already haha! It consists of every card he’s ever bought or made me for Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries and valentines for the last 6 years, two odd socks (don’t ask), an RAF tshirt that I slept in and a teddy he bought me when we first got together! I imagine im gonna have to find a bigger box by the time im done today!
Yes I agree with @malinda he’s playing games! Hes trying to convince himself! Definitely a good sign!
@pineappleblue another storage unit just for his stuff haha. One step at a time my dear. You’re doing really well
Yeah game playing and I’m not into that!!
@kd1988 haha yes maybe!!!
People do desperate things when theyre hurting! It may be that he’s desperate to make it look like he’s not… Don’t read too much into it! If he’s not normally like it I wouldn’t hold it against him!
@pineappleblue indeed. He does feel a bit indifferent at the moment. Or more like he wants to say things but is stopping himself, so when I text him last night I mentioned something Id seen on TV that made me think about somewhere we went and it made me smile, at first he was like “yeah it was nice” then he was like I really enjoyed myself that day, was great. And then he switched again. I get little snippets of the Man I know he is, the rest is just someone I don’t know!