I feel like I should now just so we can actually make plans now due to our busy schedules. I could just text him something along the lines of “Hey, I need to talk to you about Thursday! I am definitely not trying to prolong the situation and I completely respect your decision if this is a problem, but I was wondering if we could set up another time for us to say goodbye? We won’t really have a lot of time to say goodbye and talk and enjoy each other one last time because you’ll be rushed due to your other plans and I dont get out of class until 7:15. I would still love to have dinner with you Thursday, but I think we owe each other another day for some extra time together only because this could be our last… It is up to you and I completely respect it either way!”
So he already knows how it will ends?
I dont think you should say cause if it were to be me I would be affected the whole day knowing that its the last time. His behaviour might change
@Mj We both already agreed that this is our goodbye… He plans to say goodbye tomorrow… That’s why.
in that case i think that message is ok!
@Mj I hope he understands…
I’m stuck on my letter, Ellie. What would a girl want to read from such a letter?
I’m sad to see most of us are starting to move on… I really had all the hopes t get back and I wish everyone the best of luck. I’m about to give up, write a letter about everything and move on. I am very hurt and I don’t see us getting back anymore… could someone you guys read my last developments and tell me what you think? Be totally free to be honest just try not to be too harsh please but do tell me the truth please https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/he-says-he-would-like-to-get-back-but/page/10/
@Mj You still care, you’re sorry, you’re working on yourself, you’re letting her go, you admire her (actual qualities not simple “you’re beautiful”), etc
So today’s the day I’m sending it out. Not sure how it’s going to go down, I’m hoping she’s suprised and touched. But who knows how it will go. Not sure what to expect, nothing I suppose. I don’t expect us to get back together now, but I’m still thinking why wouldn’t she want to meet when I suggested it? I’m hoping it’s because she still has feelings for me and meeting would make her realise that she might have made a mistake. Or maybe not!
@Gingerone I wish you the best of luck and I think you’ll be surprised with the response you will receive 
Guys, I’m starting to have real bad anxiety about my ex. I know we are going to see each other soon and what he texted me was very sweet (see above) and I thought I forgave him for everything but now all of that hurt is coming back. I don’t want to feel this way… Can anyone help me ignore the way I feel right now?
@ellie69 wish I could help you. You were doing so well and were so strong.
When are you due to see your ex? All I can suggest is try and keep yourself occupied
@KD1988 I know… I feel like crap right now for wanting to break down. It is literally damaging me right now. I just want to know what I did so wrong to deserve all the shit he put me through. This came out of nowhere. Idk why I feel this way. I just want it to stop 
I’m seeing him tonight for dinner. We are going to talk about moving on. I’m hurting so bad right now.
Hey Ellie, remember you need to think straight. You didnt do anything wrong, so stop torturing yourself! You’re a strong woman and you can pull through. I hope the night goes well for you!
@ellie96 you didn’t do anything wrong to deserve any of it. Have you been taking your anxiety meds?
Really try to collect your thoughts and feelings before you meet him. You need to know what you want to say, if you have to write it down then do that. At least you will know what you want to say. I don’t know if I could meet my ex to talk about moving on
@Mj I just don’t understand why he would do the things he did… We were best friends… I was his first love… How could he do that to me? After everything?
Now all of the sudden he’s saying “I love you” and telling me how I’m still his best friend and he’s letting me go because its not fair to me. Then he’s saying how hopefully in the future he has the chance to catch me before its too late. Yet he had sex with people after we broke up, all he did was drink and party, and he said hurtful things a couple weeks ago. Then he said all the things he said to me he lied just to hurt me. He told me he lied about sleeping with 4 people, he actually slept with 2. He said he lied about his hole boss thing just to hurt me. So I don’t know what to believe is the truth and what isnt the truth.
It hurts so bad Omg
@KD1988 I just don’t understand why he would hurt me so much… I’m having like a mental break down. I haven’t taken any anxiety meds this morning because I will end up falling asleep. I don’t know what to do
@ellie96 he sounds like he is very confused too. And did the whole “I’m going to do what I can to hurt you, because I’m hurt”. I think that’s why he did and said all of those things, because he was hurting from the break up too but didn’t know how to deal with it and his way was to lash out and turn his feelings into anger. It’s not the right way of doing things and it is not your fault that he has behaved that way or said the things he has said.
@KD1988 I just can’t believe that he loves me after everything he said…but then again, I can’t believe that he doesn’t love me after being together for 3 years. I just don’t understand…
@ellie96 of course he loves you. He has said hurtful things to try and lash out to curb his true feelings. However, just because he still loves you, doesn’t not necessarily mean that he is thinking clearly about wanting to get back together etc x
wait he lied about the boss thing? gosh he’s just trying to get back at you. I agree with what Kd says