I hope it’s what u want to hear ellie. I hope he’s come to his senses. Try to act cool I know it’s easier said then done.
I’m going to send out my letter on wed. Wish me luck even though I’m not expecting anything. Maybe a bit of closer and hopefully some kind of reply but I’m not expecting a reply but it would be nice.
Should I txt her to say I’m sending her a letter or would it be best not to and just send it?
I think its best not to alert her
Cool cheers mj
@Gingerone
Definitely don’t text her to say you are sending a letter. it will give her time to think about it. Just send it, and the impact of receiving it will be huge.
that’s something my ex said to me when I sent mine. That he had huge respect for me sending it and he wasn’t expecting it. It made him quite emotional.
I should be receiving his letter today and I feel sick. I know it’s not gonna say what I want.
But I just have to think that whatever he says, I can handle it and I can deal with it!
Ok thanks. I hope you get some good news and no doubt what ever is said in the letter you will deal with. Be strong, u might get some good news in the letter.
Another thing should I put my address in the letter or leave it out??
@Gingerone I’m pretty certain that he will say exactly what he said when he broke up with me, or that it wasn’t just me who had a problem, he did too, he fell out of love with me bla bla bla. If he does say all of that again, I don’t know how to react, because I don’t need to hear that again. I’m not even sure how to react to the whole thing in general. He thanked me for my letter so I suppose I should thank him also.
I wouldn’t, because then it is like you are expecting a response to it. My ex knew where I lived but asked me for my post code so he could send one back, I wasn’t expecting him to want to send one back at all.
KD i am feeling so sick with a heavy chest too. On the bright side he is willing to reply to your letter, does nothing much to lose now.
@kd1988 that’s a good point. It would be more of a shock if I don’t txt to say I’m sending one. Also your right about the address thing. Thank you
@Mj how are you feeling now buddy?
@Gingerone exactly, she won’t be expecting it. And if she wants to contact you after she reads it then she will, regardless of having an address. She may even ask for it so she can send you one back.
I’m trying to remain positive but I feel it all slipping through my fingers right now and nothing I can do about it.
me too haha i try not to think how bad it would end up.
I miss her more and more now. I hope I havent miss her ‘missing me badly’ stage
@Mj I think I’ve missed that stage… in fact I think he skipped that stage completely lol. I just need a chance, that’s all I need!! It’s so frustrating.
But he isnt with a girl yet right?
@Mj not as far as I know. But then I wouldn’t know, he deleted me off facebook so I can’t see anything that is going on. He hasn’t mentioned a girl, but that doesn’t really mean anything. He’s not the type to jump straight into bed with a girl or anything so I would be v v surprised if he has. But I could be wrong!
I’m not expecting anything back if I’m honest, if she hasn’t contacted me since our breakup. I hardly doubt she will write me a letter.
I’m not sure what to think, half of me is hoping she’s also doing no contact because she knows if she contacts agrees to meet me her feelings for me might let me back in. I was disappointed that she didn’t want to meet up for coffee, I thought I could make her realise that I had changed.
I miss her badly even though I’m trying to keep busy. I think it might be a good thing that she liked my photos on Instagram because it shows im doing stuff she enjoys. And that might work in my favor. Hopefully
@Gingerone I think it’s probably best not to expect anything, that way you are already prepared for the worst if the worst was to happen. If that is the reason she didn’t wanna meet up then it’s kind of positive in a way because you know the feelings are still there. I doubt mine has any feelings, but that’s just me second guessing because I don’t know for a fact
I know mine still has some for me… at least from the way I see it. But she has a way with dealing with her emotions so i wouldnt be surprised if she got over me completely now.
Ignorance is bliss KD!
I’m not sure that’s the reason thats what I hope. I’m clinging on too any hope at the moment. That’s why I think she might be liking my photos. Because I haven’t liked any of hers.
Who knows what’s going through her mind to be honest! That’s what scare’s me
@ Mj ignorance is definitely bliss haha. What I don’t know can’t hurt me right? I’d rather not know right now anyway. I don’t want anything to set me back on where I have come from. I’m trying real hard to stay positive but… it is getting to a point where I think reality will kick in properly and I’ll wake up and realise I need to let go once and for all. But I’m not quite there yet!