That seriously gave me tons of hope! I’ll do exactly as you said! No more social media, just complete silence, and no more talking to girls or adding them anywhere!
BUT
Do you think this will still work? Even though I made her feel like complete shit for 2 months? In the letter I’ve apologized and everything. And just like a week or two ago she said that she wants me, but that she doesn’t trust me. I shouldn’t of pushed her after that… But I did… But yeah anyways, she doesn’t talk to me or anything anymore hah…
So don’t delete her but don’t stalk her, it’ll make you think about her even more. The NC is also for yourself to distance yourself from her and the relationship. You have great odds at having her come back Otherwise she would have deleted the “in a relationship” a long time ago! In my case, my ex ended it with me so I need to win him back and there is nothing in the world I wont do… love him more than life.
Seriously haven’t felt this positive for a long time, there are a lot of signs that she doesn’t want to give up on me… But I haven’t seen them before now, but I’m kinda afraid that she will tell her mom about this, that she and I are no longer together… Because if her mother finds out, then basically all hell will be let loose and chances of me and her getting back together again will be 0%. IF she tells her the whole thing… Like “he cheated on me and was a complete douche”… But I won’t give up on hope yet.
Trust me… Your ex is thinking of you and I’m sure you both will find your way together again, boys are stubborn a lot of times, just show him that you’re willing to love him more than everything and that’s it. I’m sure you’ll end up together again!
Cassie, I did add one girl yesterday… But she’s nothing but a friend, and I’m not sure that my gf thinks that but… Yeah from now on… NO GIRLS whatsoever.
Its like a cat… You have to let her come to you… Even though its hard… Try it and see… It might take a little while for her to come out of her shell but just be patient… And yes, NO GIRLS!!! EVEN IF IT LOOKS LIKE SHE IS FLIRTING WITH GUYS… just be cool… Its OK to remove yourself from that situation but it isn’t OK to get angry, say anything to her about it or try and get her back… Just walk away… She probably will try and make you jealous if youre around, walking away sends a clear message that your not thrilled but it Alison doesn’t antagonise the situation or give her the response she’s expecting Either…which is probably lay flipping out… Stay cool…
Don’t worry about her mom. Her mom will get mad but ultimately its your girlfriend whose gonna have the final say! Keep hoping, hope moves mountains If hope is what can get you through this, then don’t stop hoping. You might get back with her in 3 days or in 3 months… if she’s worth having, she’s worth fighting for!
Yeah, no matter if they’re just friends or not, dont add them!
I really hope so… Do you want to maybe read my first post in “need of support” … maybe you could give me some advice. My ex is soooo stubborn… thats why im scared he’ll never come back.
heartbroken80; Sounds like a great plan! Should I unfollow most of the girls I follow on instagram too? To kind of show her that I’m taken and don’t find anyone else interesting?
Her mom got cheated on… Like my ex’s father cheated on her mom which kind of make my situation a bit harder too… Since I promised I wasn’t like those guys who cheated etc… It’s so weird… Hopefully her dad won’t find out though, because he’ll, and I’m not overreacting here… He will shot me with a shotgun, or her mom will. I remember the first time ever meeting her mother, the first thing she said to me… “Don’t hurt my daughter… I’ve got a shotgun”…
I miss them all… I miss hanging around with my ex and her family… Gosh I love this girl with all my heart…
You have a good chance of getting her back so stay positive and keep up the hope! Like you said yourself, there are so so many signs that she wants to give you a second chance… right now she’s hurt and angry but with time she’ll miss you so much that she takes you back.
I will be positive and do that! Cassie is it any possible way we could contact and help each other out other than whatsapp or something? Your advices are gold. heartbroken80’s too!
Seriously appreciate this so much… It gives me hope!
I agree… I hate myself for making so many mistakes… Our mutual friend which is a total idiot, (girl that cares abut only herself) told me she’d speak to my gf like a week ago and make her realize that I wasn’t giving up on her. But she lied, she didn’t talk to her… And stuff got more frustrating etc. Luckily I included that in the letter so I hope she understand the past communication mistakes I did… THAT friend also knew about the letter, but I never wrote it to her so she could read it. She told me to do NC, send the letter then do NC again… She never knew the information inside the letter though, but anyways. I sent her the letter and then started NC, which has been going on for a day almost.
I’m afraid that my ex/gf is going to show all of her friends that letter though… Told her to not show anyone, but if she did… My god, I’d get humiliated. I got a strong feeling she did though…
Do any of you want to read the letter and give me some advice? I’ll have to translate it, but yeah… Anyone interested? I could send it on mail or upload it somewhere
Yeahh… Kinda unsure how I can send it to you then though… Don’t have your email, but you can go on google and search for “10minutemail” give me that e-mail adress and I’ll send it to you straight away
@ cassie use a fake email, its what I do, and yes your advises are one of the best. @cassie and @clear I also cheated on my husband twice. he forgave me the first time this was when we were bf/gf. /he distance himself from me and I didnt know it till recently. So what happened was I ended up cheating on him the second time because he distance himself from me. I really regretted it, like an idiot confessed both times too. I really wish I have a chance to get him back, the second time I thought he forgave me but he didnt, he kept distancing himself from me till he left me a month ago, I really hope I have a chance at getting him back.
@aamls could I send you the letter?
Do you think that my ex is just testing me somehow?.. What I don’t get is that she favorited this on her twitter the same time as I gave her the letter…:
Otherwise she would have deleted the “in a relationship” a long time ago! In my case, my ex ended it with me so I need to win him back and there is nothing in the world I wont do… love him more than life.
I miss hanging around with my ex and her family… Gosh I love this girl with all my heart…