It seems in your previous replies that she doesnt trust you around other girls and that you’ve cheated on her. My advice to you, if you really want her back, she needs to trust you again and the for sure wont trust you if she sees you with other girls. You need to show her that she’s the only girl you want. If she sees you with other girls, she’ll just think that breaking up was the best thing.
That sounds like a good idea… But how can I show her that I have changed and that I’m doing good independently? And how can I know if she’s trying to hook up with someone else? Our facebook relationship + our pictures on instagram is still there…
If she hooks up with someone else just be cool about it. It will be a quick rebound and it’ll be over before you know it. I know it will hurt you, but dont put too much into it.
Showing her that you’ve changed is going to take time. You cant rush it. To start, take 30 days for yourself. In 30 days see how you feel, and then you can contact her. It is here you’ll be showing her that you are trying to change.
Also, not getting with other girls for 30 days will show her a good side of you 
I’ve hurt her a lot, and I think that everything she’s doing now is to make me get hurt too. And she has successfully done that, but I’m afraid that if she hooks up with another guy that I will completely lose all of my feelings for her…
I’m pretty sure she have read the letter, it shows her that I’ll wait for her and that a time off is a good idea, but what I’m not completely sure about is wherever this is a break up or a break. She says it’s a break up, but it doesn’t feel like it when she hasn’t removed our relationship from facebook? She doesn’t want to make it official… Which means there is still hope right? But I should really just get myself together and work on myself while she does the same. And give her time, because I promised her that.
Where do I actually stand according to the relationship rewind? At “the death’s door”? Or between “the death’s door” and “drift”?
And keep in mind… She’s my first everything, as well as I’m her first everything… She says that she doesn’t trust guys and never will anymore, so hopefully that indicates that she doesn’t want anyone if she doesn’t want me, right? She said that before I gave her the letter 3 days ago.
If you loose all feelings for her if she hooks up with another guy, then so be it. That’s her problem, not yours. For now, just give her space and she’ll let you know when she’s ready to end it completely or get back together.
I think right now she’s hurt and confused… and when you’re hurt and confused you do and say things you dont mean. How long were you together?
We were together for 2 years. 1 year distance relationship, we managed that just fine. It was hard at times, but our love for each other never faded. After I moved to her city and I got a flat which was 5 minutes from her house we started to hang out each and everyday. I ate dinner there, slept over every weekend, we hang around 24/7, just us. No friends, no hobbies, no work. Oh… And we also went to the same school, same classes. So basically we were together 24/7 for a whole year.
Things will get better
This NC is also for you to think about the past mistakes in order for you to be a better boyfriend, if you get back together… Often time and space is a good thing… it puts everything into perspective and eventually she’ll miss you so much that she forgets the bad times and just remember the good But it can take time so try and be patient.
I will be patient, honestly I lost myself completely… I can see how much I changed, I can see how much I destroyed everything that was good between me and her. I think the letter that I sent her was a good idea. And it showed her that I still care and that she can contact me when SHE is ready. I’m sure we’ll end up together again, maybe not for a few months. But eventually, one can’t just forget all the memories we had… She’s mad at me, she doesn’t trust me and she doesn’t want to talk with me. I’ll respect that and give her time. And as you said! Often time and space is a good thing, which I think in my case it really is.
I think so as well! Be strong!
It honestly helps so much to talk with someone that is going through almost the same situation, all of my friends are giving me wrong advices and really messing up with my head… Is it any possible way I could contact you cassie if I need some urgent help as fast as possible? If a situation shows up or something… Do you have “kik”?
Yeah, my friends and family as well… They just dont get it and make me even more upset. Yeah sure, actually would be great in urgent situations. I have whatsapp
I just downloaded whatsapp my username is “clearitup” what’s yours? I don’t get whatsapp… Am I supposed to give you my cellphone number or?
My stupid friends really made me so upset that I pushed her more and more away, it really broke me in half realizing that every time I contacted her things got worse…
I dont remember but will check on saturday when i have my phone back… I think i’d probably need a number but im not sure.
Yes, same here! Everytime i contacted my ex things just got worse and now i really regret not starting the NC way before…
Same her… But judging from the songs she listens to and her twitter page it seems like she’s really trying to move on, I wish I could show you what I mean… She listens to songs like “primadonna girl” “charlie xcx - you HA HA HA” etc… And she also favorited this on her twitter page the same day I gave her the letter…
She just needs some time! Right now she’s so hurt that she’s trying all she can to move on but trust me, she won’t…
Isn’t it easy for a girl to move on if her friends are telling her each and everyday that I’m bad for her and that she can get someone better? I have absolutely no contact with her, no mutual friends or anything. Only contact is that I can see what she’s doing on twitter,facebook and instagram. I don’t know how girls think, and it’s so frustrating…
I don’t think so. No matter how much you’re told that something or someone isnt good for you, she’s the one whose missing you and ultimately she’s the one who loves/loved you. I might take longer for her to come back but she’ll be the one making the decision. Before I got with my now ex, my girlfriends kept telling me he was no good and i should find someone else but i ignored them because i had feelings for him…
Another thing, don’t chech her facebook etc. It will do you no good… I deleted my ex from facebook and stuff… it only makes things worse…
OK… I have been the girl who has been cheated on… I LOVED my guy so much and was shattered when he did it… I caught him in the act so at least you had the decency to be honest…tick no. 1:)
You have decided glared your love and apologised… Tick no. 2.
The next step is critical… You MUST let her come to you… My ex went overboard trying to convince me how sorry he was etc etc etc etc etc… All it did was push me away because he was trying so hard it made me feel like he was being fake…there is nothing more you can tell her that she doesn’t already know or that can change her mind… In this moment… She is hurt and angry and anything you say is only going to hold 20% weight because she’s not ready to hear it… So wait…and save what you want her to really know for when she IS ready… Then its not wasted…
I think the best thing now is to nc and let her come to you… Dong initiate anything… On any platform! No Fb, no text, no I’m, twitter none of it. Radio silence.
And I agree if you go to this party DO NOT even TALK to any girls if you can help it… Because I guarantee if she gets even a stiff that you are even looking at someone else all of her trust issues will have resurfaced…
Give her space to process… If my ex had have done that I would have taken him back…
If I delete her on facebook it will make things far worse… Keep in mind that she’s still in a relationship with me on facebook, so that means that our relationship is still unofficial right? She’d think I have given up on her if I delete her on insta or facebook. After that letter I either sparked more hate into her and pushed her away more, or I made he realize how much I love her… Girls are some seriously weird creatures… What made you break up with your ex again? And do you still love him?