First, congratulations on the two weeks of NC! How are you feeling now?
Second, I recommend that you ignore her for the time being as hard as this may seem to you. I know, it’s very tempting to jump at the opportunity she just threw at you, but don’t get fooled. People do not change over the course of 2 weeks. Besides, I have serious doubts about this woman and I fear that by getting back in touch so quickly, she will hurt you deeply again.
Try to stay strong and ignore her attempts to contact you. She has put you through a lot of pain and tears - it’s not fair to allow her to sail back into your life so smoothly. I would say, give yourself time without worrying about what she will think or do. You guys are no longer in a formal relationship and you have your own life to re-build for now. In a few weeks, see where you are and perhaps this time apart will help you decide on the next steps.
Thanks a lot for boosting my confidence in me n thnx a lot for being there. Truly saying feelingg better but sometimes feel disconnected from myself but 15 days have given me myself back may be more time will make me back again n yes u r right she must understand the value if someones feelings n emotions dont know i will allow her to be back wid me or not but not going to allow her to play wid me again thanks once again
Continuing to NCR n no reply for her last msgs she called me tonight from new cell number n asking me where i am n howz I am I didn’t say anything except I am little busy n will talk to her later. N yaa she called me the way we were talking callig me Jaan After that she msgd me from that new number saying thanks to me for hearing my voice but I didnt reply. Tow hours later again she messaged me
“Nyw I jst cld u jst to say congratulations to u wit ur new gf n for ua engagement wit hr” for my new whatsapp dp which I clicked in madame tussads wax museum NYC she took that wax statue as a real gal i havent replied but I seriously feel not to let her back cause When i was asking her to call me jaan she said she dont feel to call me like before not going to let her back n take myself away from me am becoming happy or sad dont know but these days dont feel fot her atleast. Going to give myself more time than ever n she chose her individuality so i cant be back with someone who at a moment showed me her importance for herself its my life n i will find someone better if not atleast wont be hurted anymore
Hey
I know you are tempted to call her …however, chances are things will go back to where they were before you started your NC. I personally believe , this girl is confused about why you do not keep chasing her and since you don’t , she wants attention and hence she has started pursuing you.
I repeat what I have already said to others - people do not change overnight and neither has she. I know this hurts but I would leave her alone and try to rebuild my life with a woman who deserves me.
Once again Thanks a lot Laura and thanks for being there always.
Yes you are right she chose to leave me for her personal interest being so selfish so let her be on her decision.
Just to update you started classes for my longest dream to play Guitar. Helping me a lot and not the least you as well.
well done on fulfilling your dream of taking guitar classes! It sounds great. You are on the right track to building a new, stronger and more confident you! Stay strong and good luck!
30th day of following NC completed today. Dont feel am going for her ever now nor she contacted me ever that shows it wasnt love ever hard to accept n overcome with pain but if someone dont give a value doesnt mean we are worthless. Writing here to share my pain which makes me comfortable. Heartiest Thanks to all who supported me here and helped me to stand on my own. Love u all
well-done on completing 30 days of NO CONTACT. I can feel that you are now getting stronger and more confident about yourself. You are on the right track to recovery and I am sure that one day you will meet someone amazing who deserves you. Good luck!
Yesterday she called me from a new number again and asked me not to put down.
Then she asked me to send her all songs which I sent in the past and dedicated to her as she has lost her mobile. I simply replied I will see if I get time to send those as am busy right now.
Is that the right approach for her or I should call her back or text her not to try to catch me or call me again. Any help or suggestion will be most helpful to build myself.
In reality, you do not owe her anything. Her request may be genuine or she may use this as a way to check what’s going on and why you have been silent (obviously, she is intrigued about it and cannot understand why you do not keep chasing her). Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt and say her request is real. So if you want to send her what she asked for, do it in your own time. If you make it a priority and do it NOW, she will take it as a sign that she continues to have enormous power over you. You should avoid giving out that message.
Your answer to her request was good, in my opinion. Take a few days or a week from now and then send her the stuff. But keep it polite and very short - and if she tries to make further conversation, you can choose to not respond anymore and just keep moving on. I remind you, you owe her nothing at this stage.
Good luck with your recovery! You are doing amazing!