Hi Levin
Me n my gf were in deep relationahip for 3 years some how she starred hiding things from me and dated some other guy and that made me angry and i said either chose me or him and she moved on after that she blocked me all over on whatsapp my calls and fb messnger sometime back she unblocked me and i started talking to her after a night again she blocked me and this is going on keeping me blocked for couple of days and unblock me and talk to me whenever she wish. Is there any chance that i will get her back by NC rule and to follow that should I block her on my fb profile where she is following me and getting updates about me. Right now I have been blocked for 7 days over fb messenger and more than 10 days blocked over whatsapp and she has blocked my calls also.so still a chance that NC will work for me
Can someone help me out please…
Firstly, yes you need to black her on all social media, it may be hard to do. But right now she has all the power in the relationship because she an just unblock you wherever she wants to chat. With that power you are giving her the okay to use you as a back up.
Secondly, NC has the chance to change a lot of things. But, NC isn’t used as a magical solution to bring back an ex. Its used to improve your own state on mind and to help improve yourself first! Pain needs time to heal and no matter how long you think the NC should be, you need to go into some form of NC in order to think about what you want out of the relationship. With the time it is important that you do not sit around and sulk about her because doing that will not bring her back to you. Instead, go out and do everything you’ve wanted to do. Read, write, explore. Take the time to improve yourself.
The NC period will work no matter what the outcome. Because whether she comes back or not, after the NC is over you have improved yourself for the better! You might even realize you did not need her after all.
You should also know that once the NC is over you cant simply jump right back into the relationship you need to start all the way back to square one… fresh. If you try to jump right back into things you will crash just as hard as the first time because you need to be able to build trust again with each other so starting fresh is usually he only way reconciliation works out.
Trust all of us on this forum that we have been where you have been and we want things to work out for you.
Thanks a lot will try my beat to follow the same way goinng to block her on facebook and whatsapp right now
Blocked her n feeling more alone n disconnected from myself wish this wouldnt last for long
Almost 6 days in NC just one doubt the moment we got breakup I was leaving country and i came back last Sunday should I tell her that am back or dont tell her where I am.and being blocked in facebook she wont be able to text or send any message to me even. Totally confused what should I do and she havent unblocked me since Sunday that means everyhing is over else she was messaging me in couple of days but last 6 days I havent heard anything from her dont know what is driving me crazy but I need her badly
The NC period is going to be so hard. Believe me i’ve never made it over a week. That’s great that you have made it 6 days!!keep holding out! It will get better with time. Unless you have a good reason to contact her don’t do it. give her the time she needs. Its will be healthy for you both. Do you not have each others actual numbers? How is fb the only way you guys talk?
We have each others numbers but the moment we for breakup I left the country and since then we were talking hrough fb and whatsapp only I came back and havent told her till now and keeping her blocked she wont be able to message me but she hasnt unblocked me as well. What should I do
If she has your number she can get in contact with you. Did she know when you were coming back originally? If so, she probably knows your back. What would you say to her if you did talk to her?
Till now ahe doesnt know when am coming back and she was contacting me in couple of days asking me to let her go as I was messging her and dont have any idea what I will say to her but at the same she hasnt unblocked me neither on fb nor on whatsapp
So, if she hasn’t contacted you, hasn’t unblocked you, and told you to move on why do you want to contact her? Obsessing over her and bombarding her with constant talking is going to make things worse and make her push you away more. You need to listen to her when she says she needs space. Shes with a new guy, most likely a rebound but you need to let her figure that out herself.
Take time to try and focus on more positive things. Its really hard right now. But think that you already got through a week without her, you can make it!
Yes a week but its a double shock for me as got divorced last month n I was lookingg at her for her support and at the same time she also dumped me making me more alone n hated
Wait, you guys were married?
No i was married and things were not good between my wife and me and at the same time I met with my live my gf and we were in deep relationship for 3 years we supported each other a lot and she was ready to marry me after my divorce but once divorced she asked me to leave her and move on I know one thing I have never loved anyone the way I loved her and cant love anyone like that
Ok I understand the situation. I still don’t think its a good idea to contact her. but ultimately its up to you. what are you going to say and what do you want the outcome to be?
Thanks but if I have a good mindto to handle all this I never look for help and suggestion so need someone to guide me for the best outcome and yes I dont want to lose her at all what should I do what the best I can do, dont have any idea at all
I think you shouldn’t contact her. At least not yet. If you want her to come back to you the best way for that to happen is to let her have her space. She is with someone else now, and you contacting her is only going to push her further away from you and closer to the new guy. You need to let her be so she can see that the relationship she had with you was better than this one.
And when/ if she does come back, you have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who left you for another person.
Thanks a lot trying to stick on NCR and dont know I should accept her or not afte NC is over or ideally I should accept her but things happening in my life are making me crazy to land no where
Its hard to think of the future right now but once more time has passed you’ll be able t think and see thins more clearly.
Thanks a lot for all your support be in touch and will keep you posted for any update can you suggest what will be best if she comes back I should accept and if not what should I say to her