Consider it??? I know it
That is the beauty of snapchatā¦ When she sends me these snaps I can see 20 other people got them as wellā¦ BUT! The other day when we got into an actual conversation I could see I was the only one she talked toā¦
I just hate myself for not doing this rightā¦
I did the NC, and it workedā¦ She was clearly impressed with the new me. We got into a good talk saturday and the other day. She really seemed interrested in my life and what was going on.
On now I failed by giving her too much attention for these group-snapsā¦ The whole ānew meā or āAplha-male-that-has-moved-onā image that I gave her has kinda shatteredā¦ Dont you think?
I will do what I promissed myself in the beginning. Reply when she actually tries to start a REAL conversation. But ignore the attention seeking snapsā¦
Any chance these snaps could be a possitive sign? I mean: She is clearly missing sometingā¦
Ignore attention seeking snaps
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Exactly what I planned in the beginning. But when you are in love with someone, and you finally get them to open up, all plans go out the window haha
I can and I will do it right this timeā¦!
But I am trying to think of it as a possitive thing that she is missing attention (She was not this attention whore when she was with me)
I had a thought last night
Please give your comment on this:
We had a longdistance realtionship (nearly 2 hours apart), so everytime we needed to be together it took a great deal of planning and costs money.
When we broke up I tried to figure out WHY she lost attraction.I remember asking her all these questions āis it because of this, could it be because of thatā and so on. Every time she smiled and said āNo it is not. I really dont know why my feelings are goneā. When I got to the āCould it have something to do with the distance between us?ā The reply was just āI dunno, maybe it could have something to do with itā. She looked down as she said thisā¦
Could this be the reasonā¦?
She was sooo interrested in the fact that I was looking for job in her city and will soon move thereā¦ āWhen will you move, where will you work, how soon can you get hereā ectā¦ These were the topics that really got her talkingā¦
Like I said in my first post she has started a new life. New school, 2 new jobs, sport at a high level. She is extreemly busyā¦
Could there still me some attraction, but she is somehow forcing herself not to feel anything as she cant see how we can make a realtionship work long distance anymore???
She is very stressed, so perhaps our longdistance relationship became yet another stress factor?
i think what you describe in your latest posts sounds a lot like my situation. my ex told me she just doesnt care anymore (dunno if she meant about us, me or what) and i think shes forcing herself to know care. i mean she spends everyday after we broke up with her ex before me, who she kinda left for me (i was living with her as i had been her best friend [and more] for 4 years prior and we always acted like a couple, things only got difficult for us when we really wanted to commit to each other) when she was going out with him (i know a lot about him and hes the reason i started hanging out with them [my ex and i stopped speaking for a long while because i had heard things about that ex and thought she was dumb for doing it, as she always came to me for advice but never listened]) but we didnt start going out for a while after she and him broke upā¦
anyway, i think that very much so could be the case for you. I dont believe someone as close as most of us had, could just stop caring altogether. must be some hate or pain or anger about it. how could someone be that cold hearted?
Thanks a lot for your reply. Hope someone else would drop by to give some more comments on this theory. @TravelBug you here?
Yesterday
Yesterday went ok.
She send mass-snap of her getting ready for work out.
I did not reply.
She send another mass-snap later on.
I did not reply.
Then she send me a snap of her getting ready for job. The text was: This workclothes isnĀ“t really me.
This one I think was send only to me, as her points only went up by 5. So I replied: āYes, you cant see you butt implants anymoreā (This is joke we had)
She replied with a picture of her smiling and some laaughing smilesā¦
Later in the evening there was anohter mass-snap.
I did not replyā¦
And one more thing:
I know she has plans with someone tonight, but I dont know with who! And last night at 3 AM she became friends with this single guy from her gym. Ofcause my mind is playing tricks on me now!
Who is he?
Why are they up at 3 am? Was she at a club were they meet?
Who does she have plans with tonight?
Is it a date?
But heyā¦ Ive felt like this many times before these last 1,5 months. Everytime it has turned out to be nothing, so I got worked up over nothing. I keep teeling myself it is the same this timeā¦
Hope to still get some replies to this theory:
She was sooo interrested in the fact that I was looking for job in her city and will soon move thereā¦ āWhen will you move, where will you work, how soon can you get hereā ectā¦ These were the topics that really got her talkingā¦
Like I said in my first post she has started a new life. New school, 2 new jobs, sport at a high level. She is extreemly busyā¦.
Could there still me some attraction, but she is somehow forcing herself not to feel anything as she cant see how we can make a realtionship work long distance anymore???
She is very stressed, so perhaps our longdistance relationship became yet another stress factor
Itās hard to say but I can imagine itās hard to maintain a long distance relationship and you have to plan all the time to meet each other. Itās becoming a lot easier when you live close to each other. How much did you two talk about this during your relationship? I think itās a great indicator if you happen to talk about this issue in your relationship. It could be one of the reasons she was convinced it will not work out with you. Changing this might be helpful, but I donāt think this will change her feelings for you.
I had a similar situation. In my relationship I was always negative about my work and after the break-up I started to look for other jobs. She was very interested to hear about this. I didnāt change job as of yet, but it got her attention.
I wouldnāt read too much into her adding whoever on Facebook. In the grand scheme of things, that doesnāt matter. She still has lingering feelings for you, I think if she dates someone else, itāll only remind her of how right you were and not who sheās with.
I think, you used the right amount of communication yesterday. Only reply if she only snapchats you. But I also donāt like that its always about her. Not, āhey, how are you.ā So it makes me wonder if you should wait even longerā¦But just feel it out for now.
Todays updateā¦
Not much new. There was 2 mass snaps today. I choose to let them be for 4 hours before opening them (you can see when peple opens your snap) and I did not reply She didnt do any updates on facebook about her day, today. She normally does this, so I guess it was a busy dayā¦
I will still send her the text tomorrow morning about āhave you seen our favorite tv show has returnedā
I have been thinking a lot today about how she might feel. I do honestly believe my theory could be true. It would make better sence as why she wants to know so much about my new life, acts hot/cold and needs to make sure āwere she has meāā¦
I think that she still wants to have you in your life but not have you as a bf yet. To want you as a bf I think will take time of being friends and re-attracting her. You are on the right path though. Just hold back on your feelings, be cool, and donāt ever let her know youāre still in love with her.
Creed,
There is no āweā or āourā anymore. Sheās gonna see that and cringe. Iām telling you that she just wants attention and she knows youāre still around waiting for her. Stop texting her.
I know what sheās doing. You need to disappear. Make her wonder where you went.
Already did thatā¦ Went through 23 days NC. It worked (I thought) but I guess I blew it a bit by getting carried away when we textedā¦ Now she knows my siturationā¦
Man, I so want to ask her about who she was with last nigthtā¦
I wish you were here so I could slap you. Forget everything! She doesnāt exist unless she text message or calls you personally. Forget snapchat. Attention hors use snapchat FOR ATTENTION.
I donāt think youāre in the right mindset right now. You need to be able to meet her face to face and understand that you may never be with her ever againā¦ And be ok with that. If youāre not at that place yet, than youāre not ready. Donāt F this up.
Yes, creed, it doesnāt matter who she was withā¦she can do whatever she wants and you canāt control that. Donāt waste your time and energy into something you canāt control.
Take back your reigns a bit, and do nc for 3 days to a week. And and how she reacts.
Good oneā¦I will keep repeating this to myself everytime I get an attention seeking snapā¦ And reply shortly to real conversations, and not tell her everything I am doing.
I wish you were here so I could slap you. Forget everything! She doesn't exist unless she text message or calls you personally.
I feel like I WAS in the right mindset after the NC. I was in control, and she clearly liked what she saw. But all it took was 2 days of texting for her screw with my mind haha
(Girls: This has to be your superpowers)
