She has sent me a few other messages on snapchat. She was at a resturant with a friend (female)… I just responded that it looked very nice.
She doesn´t seem that invested in a conversation. Or: Not as invested as last saturday… But maybe I caught her at the wrong time.
Right now I am affraid of being too avaible to her, so she feels she can have me back anytime she wants… But yesterday I felt like I was playing a litlle too hard to get.
Man, I actually liked it much better in the No Contact perioded. Then I was in control and she was very interrested in what I was doing…
Ok so the day is almist over. I dont really understand what is going through her mind right now.
She was so into our text conversation Saturday. Then we had 2 days basicly without contact. And now it is like she is not into it at all.
This wasnt really how I expected this to go. I was hoping she was craving for my attention after the NC. But I guess that only lasted a day. Now she had her attention-fix from me.
Ok final update from me today, I swear
I know I have updated this thread many times today, and I dont really know if anyone is reading? But it is my way of getting all my thoughts out of my head
Ok lets go:
The day wasn´t over. She had a busy day, so that might be the reason she wasn´t so into the conversations.
But here in the evening she was just at home, so she had better time. We had some very good talks I feel…
She kept asking a lot about me moving, me searching for a new job ect. Dont know if she is excited about the thought of me moving to her city, or just interrested in my life? I tried not to reply to all of them.... :)
<li>We started talking about feelings (finally). I told her I was a little nevous about having to meet her that Saturday. She said she hoped to bumb into me because she thought I was mad at her (The No Contact) I said "Well, you said you needed to be youself" and other then that I avoided talking about the No contact period (As adviced by you guys)... </li>
<li>I lost a lot of weight during our breakup. She said she was very sorry about it. I just replied: "Thats ok sweety, you did what you had to do and followed your heart""</li>
<li>We talked about her being very hard working. So I grapped the chance to tell her that was one of the things about her I felt in love with. Cant really remember her exact reply to this... </li>
Eventhough the feelings talk didn´t indicate any “love feelings” or “feelings of regret” I still think it went well. There was so many time I wanted to say I Missed You… But I didn´t!! I just kept telling myself that she wasn´t gonna say it back. I also asked her if we could workout sometime at her gym and SHE SAID YES!. This is somthing we used to do a lot in our relationship.
I think you are doing well at proceeding with going to the gym with her. Don’t talk about strong feelings or use the words “love” in anything. Just keep it light and happy and friendly…
You are doing the best out of all of us…frankly, I’m jealous. Wish I were in your shoes…
i dunno if you giving someone something will make them chase you… you might smother them and push them away… i dunno i guess it depends on the type of women she is… you know her better than we do. being cool and aloof will make her want you more i think… especially if she can see how well youre doing
I am gonna keep giving her nice replies to her texts. But wait for her to begin the conversation. I think that will bring the best of both worlds.
Shows her I dont need her, but still keeps the line of communication open.
And what I meant by the “chasing me” part was: If I give her a little affection (not too much) over texts, it might remind her of all the love and affection there was in our relationship. And she might miss that and will want more. You know… Remind her of the love that once were…
Hope that makes better sence
Don’t rush things in the re-attraction phase. There is nothing wrong about no contact for a few days. It will make her wonder what happened after having a nice conversation with you. I know it will drive you crazy and you will start wondering yourself. Try to keep text conversation short and use it as stepping stone for a face-to-face meeting. You could try something like ‘I have to meet a friend in the shopping center, but we can continue our conversation in person. Meet me at……’ When you meet-up with her, be confident and show her the man she once was in love with. It will most likely attract her, but it will take some time.
Thanks… We live in different cities so your exampel cant be used
I am keeping them short… But today was yet another exampel of her not being invested…
Basicly this could be our conversation (Snapchat)
Her: "Ready to go workout" (Sends picture in workout clothes)
Me: "Nice shorts. They new?"
(No reply)
Later:
Her: “Almost done with the workout” (Sweaty picture of her)
Me: “Wow, 2 hours now. You are going all in. Great job”
Her: “No only 1.5 hours”
Me: “Ok but still great job”
Later:
Her: “Workout done. Looking forward to wearing this” (Sends picture of new dress)
Me: “Wow that is gonna look great on you!”
(No reply)
I am no expert here, but is this what you would call hot/cold behavior?
You need to step off the gas immediately!
She’s not responding how you want her to. She’s being an attention seeking blah!!! My ex did the same thing to me. It was more about her feeling good about herself and getting attention then it was about talking to me. You need to be careful. Pull back. Let her start asking you questions. What makes you think she’s sending these pics to JUST you?? Snapchat… I think not. That’s like the “I want attention app”
Just get busy for a few days. Maybe she got too much attention, so just back off a little. If she messages you (just you), don’t be in a hurry to text back.
i know you dont want to think about this but it happened to me and i think you should be aware.
my ex was giving me the whole hot/cold mixed signals… she was sending me pictures, and i was saying things like " ohh you look great" “i wish i could be with you right now” blah blah blah… she kept sending pictures…
it was all for attention… she would ask me if i wanted to do something then when i said yes, she was say… ohhh it was only an idea… BS.
you need to consider that she might be texting other guys and/or looking for attention only to make herself feel good about herself. remember that she trusts you and you have always made her feel secure and confident in herself… she knows she can get that boost from you when she needs it. but as soon as you do… she disappears.
make sure you’re not feeding into her. pull back, become scarce. she will want you more.
