Will you wait 30 days before you reply?
I broke nc and not sure if I should have.
Hope things are good at your end.
I havent really decided yet. I am now on day 19. On day 23 she is coning to town for the weekend.
She made sure to post this on her Facebook wall, and she mentioned her plans for the weekend as well. She mentioned she was going to visit a place where she KNOWS I will be. Dont know if she is trying to send a hint for me to ask her out?
Anyways. I am sure when we get closer to the weekend she might text again to see if I have time for coffee. I havent decided yet if I am gonna reply to it. After all: she didnt reply to my invite 3 weeks ago
Oh man I am nervous about this weekend. So far I have been feeling great during this NC. I have felt like I was in control and she was the one who finally started feeling something.
But I dont know what will happend this weekend, and how I should play it? Can anyone who knows about this part of “get your ex back” please give me some suggestions?
I dont know if she will try to make contact and ask to see me, or if we will just bumb into eachother. Will she be cold as ice and just say hello/goodbye, or will she throw herself at me and say she misses me? I dont know to be honest, and I dont know how to react to it… I dont want to screw this up…
Anyone??
Kinda need some feedback/support here…
I’m in a similar situation to being “friends” with an “ex” and it took me 2 weeks to realise it’s not the best idea without giving them serious space first! I feel that I can give better advice to someone else than myself, I’m on my first day of NC and I already feel sad.
Anyway, stick with it. Improve yourself, let her (in a months time) see how well you’re doing without her.
Good luck. 
If anyone wants to post on my issue feel free!
Oh I didn’t realise she was coming to see you! I missed that as I was typing.
Play it cool, let her see that guy she first met and fell for.
Don’t mention anything about the previous “negative” moments of your relationship, possibly remind of her a funny memory you both have.
Thanks a lot.
I really hope that this second round of NC has worked and she is now ready to say the magic words: “I miss you, I cant live without you”.
Afterrall:
- She lost attraction, but I was still the perfect guy for her (She said this)
- She has made contact 3-4 times during this NC (I ingored all)
- We are now at the peak of loneliness
- I have improved a lot. I am no longer a mess inside
- I am doing a lot of interresting things (Things I know she finds very interresting)
I think my chances are good. I am ready to let her see the “New Me”.
I just feel like I cant prepare myself for the meeting, because I dont know how her reaction is.
Again: She texted me. Just a casual “Hi, how are you doing?”
IS she anxious to about this weekend? Is she fishing for an invite to hang out?
I can feel she misses me. But does she just miss the attenteion I gave her, or is she actually ready to give it another try?? Dont know
stay strong your almost there. maybe she misses you, dont mess up by letting it all get to your head. like this you wont mess up. good luck and keep us posted. would you mind giving me your input? thanks
Hey creed, sorry I’ve been away on vacation in the middle of nowhere with barely any internet.
You are doing great, if you are feeling good about yourself, maybe it’s time to test out the water? Good luck, we are all rooting for you!
Thanks m8.
Actually yesterday i checked in on Facebook at a location close to her (We live 1,5 hours drive apart. And the text she sent me was “Hi, what are you doing in Town name”
Like you suggested I tried to test out the water a bit, so I just replied “The car needed some exercise” <- Clearly not the real reason, but I want to be mysterious and make her wonder
She just replied “Ah how nice”, and 10 minutes later “How are you doing”…
Haha… She actually accepted my reply even though it was stupid and clearly a lie?? I take this as a good sign. I did not reply anymore when she asked how I was…
Update from me
It worked perfectly!
We bumbed into eachother. I was smiling and happy. I was the one who first walked over and gave her a hug. And I was the one who later walked over and started a conversation.
A very nice conversation just about random everyday stuff. Then she had to go home, we hugged, there was smiling and eye contact…
Later on she texted me out of the blue. Just a picture of the dress she was gonna wear to the party later on. (Maybe she was testing the water?)
I replied it would look great on her. After this there has been a ton of messages. Here is a little recap:
- Pictures of her as got ready for the party (Makep done, got my new shoes on ect)
- Complimenting my look (You look great)
- You really look like you are doing great (My reply: I am ok, how about you?)
A few times I tried not replying. (Like when she only wrote “thank you”)
But 10 minutes later there was a new text…
Guess we are slowly getting closer to reconciling.
My plan now:
Keep texting with her. But only when she starts it
Creed you’re doing really great. I am so impressed how you handled the situation. She wont be able to even think if you wanted her back. Wow we all should see you as an inspiration. You’re the only one I guess who took NC seriously and actuallg worked on himself. Great job. And yes your plan is great. Good luck and keep us updated
Thank you for your reply… It is your comments that gets me through this.
And thanks for calling me an inspiration. But we must remember that I am not there just yet.
I can still fail, either because I get carried away from how well the texts are going and excalate to fast, or I have missread the signals…
So lets not celebrate just yet
It’s time for you to meet with her and if you want, get back together.
She is making a major effort here.
It’s fun to be in your position as she is essentially pursuing you - reaching out - feeling you out for how you feel. It’s going to get not so fun for her soon b/c it reaches it a point where it almost feels like you are enjoying this new attention - her pursuing you - etc.
I would cut this out about now - reach out to her and ask her to dinner - and get back with her. She clearly is interested.
With all due respect, this is starting to sound like you are playing a game. And if you aren’t then you can clearly see that she is interested and it’s time to stop playing it cool.
Oh wait, she said she lost attraction?! Oy vey.
OK, keep doing what you are doing!!!
Oh man, sorry. I missed that line.
I am thinking she is super attracted and trying to win you back and you are just taking your time enjoying the attention.
No, keep doing what you are doing. Since she lost attraction - she can come your way.
And if you get a chance, you seem like a smart grounded guy, please answer my situation: https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/i-contacted-him-now-what/
Hehe… That is ok man
To be honest I am not 100% sure about her feelings yet.
I dont know if she wants to be asked out? And to be honest, right now I am thinking about waiting for her to make that move… Or at least make a very clear hint that she wants to be asked out
i cant wait to hear how it goes! i felt exactly like you im only a week into no contact (for the first time)
Done
And thanks for your comment.
I will assist everybody who comments on my thread with real and helpfull advice/feedback