All the best, man. I’m still trying to write out my feelings but I cant out it down into words!
@Gingerone that’s good buddy. Good luck with that.
@Mj I started writing my letter two weeks after we broke up. It changed 10 times before I eventually sent it out. I couldn’t get the words out properly and everytime I read it back it sounds desperate or needy or something. Eventually I stripped it all down and read it and thought, yeah that sounds good.
Wish the result had been slightly different though lol.
I am torturing myself today. I cannot stop thinking about him, and I’m driving myself mad. I’m trying to distract myself with work etc but nothing is working. I just really really want to see him right now, a cuddle is all I want 
I’m so scared that it’s just done for good now and any little bit of hope I had is fading fast
Hey KD, this one’s for you!
https://38.media.tumblr.com/2916300da0dda1fe8c214b1cde52a3ec/tumblr_mzzj3aQMX61t088jso1_400.gif
Ahhhhh thank you 
I get comfort from the hug!
and a little comfort from thinking maybe he is not as ok as he made out. Him saying “When I feel ok to see you, I will” which does make me think he can’t see me right now coz if he did then he would question whether he did the right thing or not, or am I just playing games with myself
@Mj @gingerone @oshi
So in my exes letter, he said about me passing on a message to my mum, to say he always felt so welcome and is grateful for trusting him with his beautiful girl (I think I mentioned it yesterday) he said to me that he had wanted to message my mum but he didn’t know if she disliked him or anything so asked if I could pass it on to her and tell her that if she wants to message him then she can.
I spoke to my mum last night and told her what he had said, his message and she asked me if she could reply to him. I said he is ok with it, but I don’t know if she should or not.
she is very understanding, and would not try to pressure him, but she would probably thank him for the message and tell him he is always welcome in her home and that it was a shame what happened between us given the circumstances of why it went bad. I know she will want to say that I have worked really hard to get myself better.
I don’t want him to feel pressured, but maybe a bit of influence from her might make him think? I don’t know.
What do you all think?
I think it will be ok for your mom to reply him, but hope she doesnt try to oversell the fact that you want to get back.
I’m stuck on my letter! What stuff will girls want to read from these letters?
@KD1988 @Mj Thank you! You’re right! I should be more optimistic
I think it won’t change much but maybe it will make him see things from another perspective.
My mom also had a conversation with my ex early after the break up, he told her things he didn’t tell me, that he loves me and that I’m the only one he truly wants, so maybe it will help soften him up a bit.
@mj she will definitely not say about us getting back together. I told her she needs to not mention tht! And with regards to your letter, I would just be completely honest. She will appreciate the truth.
@oshi yes more positive
I don’t think it will change his mind, and that’s fine. I just didn’t want him to think it was pressure and he would run a mile. But I don’t think she will say anything bad to him.
So just tell the truth that I want her back?
@mj
Hmmm maybe not that bit. Just tell her how you have been feeling since you broke up, what you’ve done to better yourself and throw in some memories or things you love about her
@Mj: I think you should make it sound like you accepted the break up and willing to move on but still make her feel how much you loved her and cared for her, don’t be too emotional, accept your mistakes. Tell her about new things in your life and about the improvement you made. I think the letter should be sincere but also light-hearted and positive.
@mj completely agree with @oshi!
Almost done with the letter, left with some details to add in!
I found it hard to write my letter at first, then I thought best to just write it from the heart
Yeah, man. i’m like picking the best words to put in
Yeah as I said mine changed about 10 times before I actually sent it out.
the first one I wrote was more like a journal then a letter! so I had to take quite a lot of it out. But eventually found the right words. All I would say is don’t rush it. Really read it through and make sure everything you want is in it
@gingerone are you sending yours out today?
I thought gingerone sent his already hahaha
When I’m writing the letter I feel so positive about her reaction when she reads it.
But after that I feel like she’ll be all ‘meh’ and then say to the new guy ‘oh look my ex wrote me something’
wtf brain
@Mj I know what you mean bud. I had all these ideas in my head of what he would think and say and do. I even had a dream that he read my letter and turned up at my house with a bunch of flowers begging me. Then reality kicked in!
I’d like to think she wouldn’t mention it to the guy, that would be pretty cruel if she did
Damn I hate dreams like those 
Well maybe she wouldnt have mentioned it? Maybe they aren’t even together, just very close??
The possibilities…
No I’m sending mine out tonight after training camp, she should have it by Friday