You did the right thing by blocking him. He must be thinking with whom you’re talking that late andthats why told u to sleep.
About the voice note, he might be drunk. If he was with his 2 friends at 4am definitely they all were drunk.
You did absolutely correct blocking him. Keep it up
Thankyou so much @divjun
My ex’s brother talked to me on whatsapp, he said that my ex told him about the voice note that he sent, and he’s sorry even if my ex is not, cause he doesn’t accept his brother to talk with girls like that, I told him it’s okay and that I don’t care anymore and he’s not the same guy I used to know that’s why I blocked him and that I thought he was drunk but the problem that he wasn’t, so he said that it’s okay. What do you think? My ex wasn’t drunk why did he do that? Maybe he was mad because I didn’t reply? Weird. @divjun
I dont think he sent it because he was mad. Nobody would include their friends in this and that too at 4 in the morning. I still feel he was drunk. if he loves you he would never have done this specially in front of his friends. Keep him blocked! His brother seems to be a nice person
If you want to you will accept no matter what. But just be in mind that people will say things to you trying to sabatage so your relationship should only invovle the two of you. Go out talk be friendly don’t just try to get back br patient take your time and see where his heart is.
And after how many days should I remove the block? One week passed, and should I talk to him again after no contact period or after what he did I should never talk to him again? @divjun
Whenever you’ll remove it, he would know you were thinking about him.
I would say, maintain nc till he approaches you in a nice way!
I’m really scared, what if he forgot me or doesn’t care anymore? I mean I feel better right now without any problems but sometimes I really stop and miss him and feel lonely and empty, idk if I miss him or miss our memories or our happy times, I don’t know if I want him, idk if I can trust him again after what he did, I’m really confused. @divjun
I lost all my contacts so I put I status on whatsapp"lost all contacts talk to save your numbers" so after I removed the block on my ex’s number, he texted me and said: it’s your best ex…, I said:if you’re not putting your picture I wouldn’t have known youu, he said: as if you have a lot of exes, they’re only two, the first one and me, and I’m ofcourse the best one, I said: lol, he said: haha ok ok , the next day he texted he and told me that he wants to see me but I didn’t reply, today I woke up and I saw that he’s blocking me, what should I do? He’s getting on my nerves to be honest, he really knows how to make me think of him. @divjun
And he’s succeeding at it. Dont worry. He’ll unblock you soon and its nice that he wants to meet you.
I was wrong he wasn’t blocking me, t thought that he blocked me because he wasn’t putting a picture nor a status, but the next day he texted me and told me I love you, so I knew that he wasn’t putting a picture and he wasn’t blocking me, the next day he sent me his picture and asked me if it’s a good picture and should he download on instagram, I didn’t reply to all his texts so he told me you should reply even if you hate because I’m asking you, also I didn’t reply, and these 2 days he didn’t text me again. Anyway his birthday in next week should I wish him a happy birthday or what? @divjun
My ex texted me and sent me a dirty picture, I told him show some respect, he said: hai respectful girl
I said: hai annoying guy
him: how are you ugly girl
me: wrong number
him: haha
so how are you beautiful girl?
Me: fine
what’s wrong?
him: nothing
me: great
him: what are you doing?
Me: I’m going out wbu?
him: okay I’m waiting for you to come
me: lol ofcourse I’ll not
him: don’t you miss me?
Me: give me one good reason why should I miss you
him: all the good times we had before I turned into an asshole
me: you used to have good times cz I was a perfect girlfriend but you never was a perfect boyfriend
him: you know very well that I was
me: first months only yes
Why should I miss a guy eho turned into an asshole? And still you are
him: no I’m not anymore? How do you know?
me: the voice note you sent it? The dirty picture?
him: i was angry cz yoy didn’t reply, and the picture is just a joke.
me: do you think I’ll respect you more than before in that way?
him: I’m not asking for respect
me: but I’m asking for it
I’m not your girlfriend anymore to tell me such jokes
him: you’re an ex, a friend, anything
me: we’re not friends
we’re strangers
we could be friends
him: that’s what I want
me: and I need some space
him: what doesn’t mean?
me: I am not ready to talk to you again
him: come on, it’s been a long time we didn’t talk
me: another periode of time will be okay
him: it was so long for me
me: it wasn’t for me that long
Him: it was for me
me: you choosed it last time, but now I am
him: no I didn’t
me: idc anymore what’s the reason, you should’ve tell me before, now it’s over
him: okay just friends.
so what’s your opinion? @divjun
The hard part about this is yes, you don’t really know… But he does have feelings for you. However, it is time to move forward. I don’t like saying moving on in some situations, just because it sounds like you’re getting over them forever. Go straight back into NC. Delete him off of any social media. Start working on yourself. You can get over this. Trust me, it is hard but you can do it!
Answer mine?
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/should-i-just-go-back-to-contact-or-what/
But why should I get over him? Can’t we be friends? And start again? I really do love him, I understand that sometimes we can’t be with the people that we love and it hurts, but I don’t see any reason to move on. @ellie96 and sure I will.
His birthday is saturday, should I wish him a happy birthday or what?
@Rawan The only way you will ever get that friendship, is if you move on. You can never really have a friendship with an ex until you have the understanding that you may never get back together. Also, you may put yourself at a higher risk of either being friend zoned or watching him be with someone else (even if it doesn’t mean anything, if you love him it will hurt). Like this sucks that I have to tell you this, but I don’t know what else to tell you.
In the end you have to make the decision for yourself. It seems that you’re kind of in my shoes as of right now. He loves you, but he doesn’t want to be with you in that way right now.
Let me ask you this, think good and hard about this question: Do you really think you can handle being “just friends” when you know what all you’re risking?
And yes, I don’t see what is wrong with wishing him a happy birthday! My ex’s birthday is in 2 months, and that will probably be the next/possibly last time I will contact him. That is when I will write him a letter and also wish him a happy birthday.