That’s fine! For human-human relation there is no one strict rule! Many words that seem to be wrong can be the right ones to rekindle a lot of emotion. We are not robots! Don’t forget that you did not breakup just now and it’s been a while. You are not needy and you haven’t acted needy! So sending such messages can be interpreted as your high confidence. I am one of those guys who love honesty and reality. Don’t ever admonish yourself for your sincere feelings! I he does not like it, he is not the right guy! LOL I simply repeat! You don’t look needy after your NC and that’s all fine!
By the way, I am one of those guys who has a lot of friends but keeps a distance between them. My best friends are married and live in other towns. So, I don’t have any “best friend” to share my feelings when I get shitfaced. Just like Steve, many a times I drink alone.
meriem,
You said the right word, “You should let go to get back”. I admire you for you attitude! Keep it up! I’m sure that your mindset will help you a lot.
Steve,
You made me laugh! In fact, we are all here to share our feelings and emotion, and avoid implosion. ha ha ha… I also congratulate you on being successful doing this NC. I know that when guys grow, they are no more like cubs and they become loners like lions. Its sometimes a bit rough but are as strong as lions! LOL Don’t forget that we are all feel lucky having you here!
a.z.,
I love your craziness! Some crazy girls are highly attractive! LOL
Thank you so much Dara, you always make me feel good… well, my ex is like you he’s open and he likes honesty. Last time we whatsapped he was asking me questions about intimacy and told me that he thinks of me this way etc… But he’s been ignoring my texts lately so I thought I’d send him something “interesting” (aka the mistake) and he read it and still ignored it… What do you think I should do to make him wanna chat with me?
lol I like that you don’t let the lack of company take away your fun… I admire that you’ll have a drink alone and you don’t need anyone to share a good moment with if no one’s available… good on you
I hope you enjoy your sunday too :), the day is almost over here lol and I’m feeling low so keeping myself on this site hahahaha
Hey! I told you I won’t judge. I think it is just normal because as you said everyone around you is getting pregnant or married. It might be a pressure or an inspiration especially now that you can’t have either of the two because you are still ‘just friends’ with the ex.
Just like what Dara said, what’s done is done. You tell him it’s just wrong send. Lol, kidding. He might argue with you if you do. It is okay. Just let it pass. But I suggest the next time during times like that keep your phone away from you. It’s like some kind of drunk texting only you are not drunk but just moved by the happenings around you.
He ignored it because he is confused too. One time you are acting indifferent and now you do that. You are both not stable yet. And for me, it is just fine. At least you are honest.
When you know you will be in a happy company concerning couples, you can leave your phone behind. Or before you go to such happy event you stick a note to your drawer where your phone is, as if talking to yourself to wake up. Or whatever quote that will put you back in reality. Lol. Or have someone hold your phone for you
Rihanna, A. Z., Dara, Daniel, Steve, Edward, Festival David.
Hey guys. I honestly don’t know what I would do without you. This friendship, no matter how anonymous we are to each other, feels so genuine. That at times I feel uplifted with just a thought of taking a visit here. I wish we are all close in place so that we can hang-out. Wow, totally cool, fun and beautifully broken people. Lol
I lost the ex but I gained friends. I am more excited to being with you all than with the ex. Lol
I know this sounds too gay but, i love you guys :-*
Thank you Raed, Thank God I have a great friend in you and great friends in all the Oldies, names you’ve mentioned…
I hope you’re doing well and moving towards a happy place in your life…
I think my ex would be ok with that message to be honest cos he’s been quite affectionate in the past month until recently when he just stopped, but he’s not feeling well maybe it’s that! Anyway, I texted him again(LOL, perhaps another mistake hahaha) I said something like a light apology and made a joke about the kiss … I don’t care how he takes it I feel good now and whatever happens can happen… I can’t wait to go back to live in the city again so that things may become clearer between us even as just friends (anyway, I’m not happy here)…
I love you everyone, you keep me strong and going… Thank you for being in my life
Rihanna,
Hey. Always keep in mind. Whatever you do as long as it makes you feel good. Is perfectly fine. Avoid things that will make you paranoid. We are always here for you. We love you here.
Thats not gay at all i love you guys too.there are days that i keep thinking about each of you and that how you are doing and when someone is not here for along time i miss him and trying to convince myself that he will be back soon ,and its great that we have each other.I even daydream about meeting each other in a country where everyone can join easily LOL.I really want to have you guys in my life forever i can’t imagine losing one of you .
Dara,Daniel
I’m glad i could make you laugh :))))
Rihanna,
Tbh,you are doing well in your life and your not desperate and needy at all.
My ex kept doing the same thing to me and mo matter how i reacted,i loved it.
You said,what you felt and that didn’t look needy at all.in some points it could be even attractive.but don’t over do it
Doesn’t matter if he didn’t respond or what,now back off a little.and wait for him to contact you.then be really happy and excited about something when you talk and don’t mention it.he will feel like you just said it,and you don’t actually care.i personally told my ex how i exactly felt. remember the night i decided to tell him the truth and asked him to let me move on? and i don’t regret it.as long as you don’t look needy,every thing is fine.
i’m sorry a.z if my words upsets you.it’s true that i’m probably the new one in this conversation and yes i don’t know you well to judge you and and don’t know the details of your situation but from what i read you said you still love him and he still loves you so why he didn’t get back to you until now.alright you said that there are big problems that i don’t know about may it’s that what holding him back from returning back to you you think so!! personally i don’t because if he really loves you and you did all things in the right way like you said he would be back bay now so i see that something is missing here.this is my opinion from what i know from your story and you absolutly know better than me so i’m sorry again.
His parents and everyone around him doesn’t want him to be with me and so many other problems,and thats a long story,sorry i don’t feel like explaining it all again.
And if you are saying if he loves me why wouldn’t he get back with me? i don’t really wanna try and convince you.and even if he doesn’t love me,i don’t care anymore.i’m moving on anyway.
I’m sorry again,i really can’t talk about it to anyone who doesn’t know me,it freaks me out.
And i don’t know if thats because english is not your native language or you know where and how you are using your words,but its hurting me so please stop it.
Az,
Let’s move on together with everyone else.
We can say whatever we want and find reasons why it didnt work out with our exes.
you can say everything.
You can say you grew apart.
You can say she or he is not enough.
You can say you’re not compatible.
You can say you fell out of love.
You can say you grew tired and had enough.
Or maybe we should simply accept that it’s not meant to be.
Yeah, hurts like hell but i came up with this quote while dealing with a broken heart and thinking of the damn raeson why she left.
Daniel,
you are right and i don’t have any problem about moving on.i’m doing well and i don’t even feel sad.moving on doesn’t hurt me at all and i can say that i’m kinda moved on.i just really can’t tolerate when people who don’t know what i’v been through try to judge me and my relationship.i don’t like this part of my personality but thats the way i am.it really hurts me when she talks like that.
Easy az. We love you!
It’s okay if you act like that. It is you, dont hate it. It’s other people’s problem if they cant tolerate that. Not everyone will judge you. Atleast i would not.
Oh man i just messed up a second date HAHA! I have to cancel because of something urgent with my parents. The girl kinda took it seriously because she was looking forward to this. ( i told her we will have lunch and id give her a ride home to her original city)
So ofcourse my parents are more important. She got jelous wit my parents. I thought she would understand because i explained to her. She is now cols towards me. Im just thinking that atleast i got to know early her attitude. Who the hell wants a partner that gets jelous with your family? Lol
I feel like this is a funny story. Really. Hahaha!
You love my words because i love yours too. We’re family here.
Haha! Yeah i’ll try to talk tonger but if she really is not interested anymore then ita okay. What can i do? My family asked me for something urgent ofcourse i can’t turn them down. Haha! Still plenty of fish in the sea. Lol. Cant imagine that just a month ago i cant imagine dating. But now im getting aggressive out there again. Haha
I’m sure she will talk to you.you did the right thing.Daniel i’m so happy for you,you are doing great champ.can you believe how far all of us have come?i’m really proud of our group.
i’m sorry if i did hurt you i want you to know that it was not on purpose.english is not my native language indeed but i studied english literature in college so i know what i’m saying.you’re hurt i know me too a lot because i’m just in my 5 day no contact and you already saw my story.i know that everyone needs support that’s why we all come here to post our stories.but we need opinions too opinions from people who says that we’re right and those who said that something is wrong too.i understand that you don’t want to deal with me because i don’t know you well as you said but you don’t know me well and you did say your opinion on my story too and i accepted it.i don’t know what i did wrong but you’re also hurting me with your words if you don’t know.and i don’t know why you’r saying that to me while i did nothing but comenting just like everyone is doing here so why you’r talking to me like i did something wrong is it because i’m not your friend or because i don’t know you or your story or just because i said something that you don’t wanna hear.anyway if my words hurt you i’m sorry again.
Az,
Yep! Are group is far from where we are before. It’s even funny to think what we were. I guess we looked so miserable before crying, whining and wanting our exes back who in the end was not worth all the pain and love. HAHAHA!
Hey guys, please avoid conflict. Im just suggesting to just shrug it off coz everyone here needs support and it would be additional burden if you start hating on each other. Peace!
,and its great that we have each other.I even daydream about meeting each other in a country where everyone can join easily LOL.I really want to have you guys in my life forever i can’t imagine losing one of you 
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