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RAED,

Its nice hearing from you as well! You know sometimes, things get hot and intense more with some than others! ha ha ha ha… Cheers!!

Dara,
hahaha,yeah its freaking me out i can’t stop. i don’t know whats happening to me.all of my friends are mad at me.i don’t even talk to them that much when we are out during the day :))).and when i go out at nights i try to go without my phone most of the times not only because of my friends but to avoid commenting here when i’m drunk.and when i’m not drunk,after a few hours i feel nervous and all i want is to get back home so i can check this website :o:O:O
You know a.z is crazy when you read this LOL
I need to google how to move on from an ex back site :smiley:

Btw,its nice to hear about the new girl,can’t wait for monday to come :smiley:
I’m really happy for you.

ha ha ha ha… You are terribly addicted to this site! LOL Truly the passion of really all stories is gone! I just read updates from we “Oldies”. Please don’t post them on different thread! LOL

Thank you so much a.z.!!

LOL,what do you mean don’t post them on a different thread? are you mentioning kevin’s NC checklist???:)))))))))))))

ha ha ha ha… I really don’t check all threads! Hadn’t you told me (on Steve’s thread) that you have created a new thread, I would never come across this one! Similarly, if you guys come up with a new thread, I will not be able to follow it. I truly anticipate busy days! ha ha ha… I got you joke but wrote it for in case… :smiley:

LOL,i got you.no you are my oldies.come on,you are making me not to comment on anyone’s post anymore :D.i owe all of you oldies a lot.i can’t ever thank you enough in words.

I revere you! Keep commenting on their posts! I feel bad that I cannot post on their threads! I truly will have hard time because, my positive changes in my life need a lot more energy!

I also owe you a lot! You inspired me a lot! Can’t ever forget how ari made me feel great about myself from the beginning!! I admire you!

a.z its the first time that i read your story seeing you comenting on others ’ thread i thought you are the admin of this page lool .anyways what i thought when i read your story is like seeing myself with my ex not this one the other one it’s the same exact story i wanted him back for 9 months and did every thing i even did no contact and things where great but i messed up everytime because i was so jealous and i start argument with him i think i never believe that our relationship was over and no contact was meant to make you believe that and communicate with your ex on this level like you are to strangers who talk to each other for the first time.i think that your no contact is still missing something because no contact should make you learn how to be cool and really calm so you’r not going to have any sort of argument even if it was him who wants to argue.so back of a little bit like a small no contact and then comeback with a new you spacially in your personality because he knows the old you and can play mind games on.at this point you sould be willing to lose the guy in order to get him back so you should move on without moving on.good luck :slight_smile:

Hey ya Dara! A trip to the country huh? And you wanted to hook up with the only single girl there, good for you :slight_smile:

At least you still have feelings and dreams about your ex and have the stamina to do other things as well, I’m feeling numb these days like really don’t care except I keep checking up on my ex and don’t know why? I do miss him but he’s weird and cold lately and don’t judge but I miss him intimately as well if you know what I mean haha…

I think you’re doing great and perhaps your ex by your bedside at night is your conscience playing tricks on you… But it’s a step forward to moving on, good luck Dara :slight_smile:

Rihanna,

You don’t know how dumbstruck I am these days! I have been flirting and talking to some girls lately. Some of the rejected my proposal on a casual date but they "like " my Facebook pictures! I am really confused! Should I ask for them again? Maybe they like it in a friendly manner and don’t want any further talk on intimate relationship. I had prioritized girls. LOL! The first girls that I talked to were hotter/my type! I like the girl who wanted me to in Facebook first more than this girl who danced with me last night! However, this one is more open and frank. The other one was a question-mark which I liked! LOL

Still, don’t know what to do! I don’t want to act impolite!

Rihanna, I love the fact that you are here!

a.z.,

Same to you! I also love the fact that you around!!

Thank you all!!

Meriem,
We never talked like strangers,we have major problems in our lives and those are acceptable enough not to get back together.actually my story is kinda long and i don’t think if you could find the whole story.i have changed a lot and i’m really satisfied with where i am right now.i can’t say that i don’t love him anymore but i know that the break up was the best decision cuz we couldn’t have a good future together.i still love and respect him and from what i saw,he also feels the same.i’m not doing NC to get him back.
He already knows about the changes in me.and i don’t care if i never met him again.and i don’t regret it anymore.i made the changes for my own good and i’m really happy now.
My friends here know me,and whenever i feel something annoying i come here and talk to them and they know the best words to calm me down.
And trust me,i have learned whatever i was supposed to learn during NC.i stopped myself from arguing with him so many times and if i ever argued with him again i was exhausted and you don’t know what he has been saying to me so you can’t judge me.

Dara,and Rihanna,
And i love the fact that i have you guys in my life.

Hey guys

Rihanna I feel like you sometimes I come on to the website every 24hours or so when I get the chance and it feels like the conversation in this thread have moved on and exploded and I am reading pages to try and catchup with what’s being going on. In the last 24 hours its like another 2 pages has been added on. I missed all that sweet talking of Dara and Daniel :stuck_out_tongue:

Dara I so admire you are getting out there and talking to other girls and even if you are getting rejected that is so fantastic. My confidence has taken a massive hit and I’m just not at a place yet where I feel comfortable doing that. Much respect to you brother

So agree with you, Dara, about AZ being the “Reply machine” on these forums and that’s just gold AZ about you trying to find another website to help you get over this one. Made me laugh out loud when I read that. But what about me AZ, don’t you also love the fact you have me in your life… haha just kidding

Rihanna I just posted over in my NC thread on my last couple of days but I will just Copy/paste what I wrote, so forgive me if it makes little to no sense and for the doubling up on posts. Have had a couple of beers tonight that went straight to my head.

Day 37 – NC for me – I actually had a crappy day yesterday at work. About mid afternoon I just came down with a big “I miss my ex” blues and it got worst as the afternoon progressed. I actually got very depressed and in a very dark mood. I just couldn’t even think straight and felt like I was going to burst into tears. Haven’t been in a funk like this for over a month. Was so glad it was Friday afternoon as I went home and just lay on the couch for the evening and watched a couple of movies with a glass of wine to take my mind of things. So here I am over 3 months on and still having extremely rough days.

Today was a little better for myself, I had a good sleep. I also got a random text from one of my Ex’s friends, a guy who I haven’t seen since before the breakup. He wanted to go out for a drink and play some pool. It was just weird as I actually have no idea why he wanted to see me. The entire evening I was waiting for him to tell me some news or something, but he didn’t. I tried to avoid talking about my Ex and act as if I’m real cool and in a good place, but right at the end when we were leaving I asked him how she was doing. (I had a couple of beers) he told me she was majorly stressed with work but she was enjoying single life. He then left it at that and I thought I better not follow up so I don’t appear too overly keen or interested in her goings. Don’t want to be the creepy stalker Ex…lol

One day at a time for myself, one day

have a great night oldies :slight_smile:

Steve,
yeah you see?i can’t stop.i think i should introduce myself to rehab :smiley: i’m lucky i’m not in to drugs,it would have killed me by now LOL
And steve,i do love the fact that i have all the oldies in my life.

congratulations on the day 37th of NC and you should know that its absolutely normal if you feel low sometimes and if you miss your ex.thats really normal.
I hope you are feel better now and i wish you all the best in your love life.

Az,
Reading your posts made me laugh. I was also addicted to this site before. Whenever infeel unconfortable or what. I go here. This is my comfort zone. I’ve opened up more here than to my real world friends. Haha!

GOOD NEWS EVERYONE!

What I’m about to tell you is going to make EVERYONE HERE feel fantastic about themselves because NONE of you have made such the terrible mistake I made :slight_smile:

But first, Steve, I’m glad you’re sharing your thoughts on your NC experience, I usually miss my ex about mid afternoon too which is weird timing, but 37 days and soldering on good for you! AT least you’re doing this with pride and you haven’t made the mistake I just did… So good on you! One day at a time does it best! And good on you for not showing too much emotions in front of your ex’s friend, asking how she was doing is fine… I’m proud of you :wink:

A.Z, Ah my dear what would we do without you? I’m so happy to have met you here cos you make me feel great also. Please judge me hard when I say what big mistake I did, and if you’re angry you can 100% lash out on me cos I deserve it :(…

Dara, My mistake relates to what you wrote here hahahaha… I think I just want to experience things with my ex, like what works and what doesn’t, what ticks him and not, what makes him hot and cold etc… cos I’m at the stage where I’m not desperate for him so why not have a little fun! But I hope he’ll still have some respect for me… Anyway, you’re going great and i’m glad you’re putting yourself out there to meet someone new. Persevere and you will find her and meanwhile, do go out at night sometimes friends have a LOT of opinion and don’t really know what it is that you’re feeling… As long as you’re not doing harm to yourself I’m with you on going out and having fun and meeting girls :slight_smile:

Daniel, I’m addicted to this site too like you haha! But I wish I’d vent out here more and not do stupid things like what I just did… Like you I feel more comfortable opening up here than to my real friends out there…

So here I go with my mistake plus a little excuse why I may have done it :'(… All of my friends and I mean ALL of them are doing well in life careerwise and family life etc… and maybe because I’m not happy with where I am at the moment I just acted based on jealousy when my best friend told me she was pregnant and my sis is pregnant and my other sis is getting married and my other best friend just got married and all doing fantastic in life and they’re all my age or younger… So, like an idiot after reading Kevin’s email about ‘Letting GO’ I didn’t like the sound of it so I did the opposite and sent a text to my ex very similar to what Dara once wrote here… and what makes it hard is that I text him way more than he does but the upside maybe to this is that he’s always warm on the phone with me (not a good excuse though)… i hope Raed is here to judge me good too… I wrote in the text:
“I miss your lips on my lips… lol, this is WRONG hahaha… but an innocent kiss (and a red face)”

I know he hasn’t read it yet but he probably will by tonight (I’m so embarrassed and stressed). I’m sooooooooo afraid that he won’t answer because I’ll feel rejected and I put myself in this situation :frowning: … Please please please tell me how to fix this? I’m angry sad sick and laughing at this all at once… Thanks everyone big love to you all

Rihanna,
That was a mistake. But what’s done ia done. “I miss your lips on my lips” it could also mean that you miss him physically. He might think you want to have physical intimacy with him but i dont know. Just be ready for his response. Haha! Rihanna you made me smile. Youre like a kid that did something wrong and feels very sorry about it. I dont mean any harm. :slight_smile:

Rihanna- That prooobably wasn’t the best move, no, but it’s like Daniel said. What’s done is done. All you can do now is wait for the reply and hope for the best? Maybe you could turn it into a laugh or something light hearted? I’m not sure but good luck! I hope it goes ok for you

Thank you Daniel and Loraina, I’m crying to the point I’m dying here… he checked his whatsapp and I’m 100% sure he read that message and again he’s ignored it… I’m sooooooooooooooooooo upset and feel stupid. I did it in a laughing way but it doesn’t matter how you write such a thing, it’s just wrong! I even wrote in the text it’s wrong! I don’t know where to go from here… Should I send him an apology text, then go quiet on him for few weeks? Please help, I’m so angry at myself and super sad :frowning: … I’m sure he’s translated it to I wanna have physical intimacy with him, thank god we live in different states, how do you think he felt about it? How can I fix this please? I can’t believe I did that!