She texted me asking if she could ring. I keep feeling that I lost a chance there.
One thing I noticed is that before I started NC, I kept going visiting her (without her consent) hence making her want to be with the other guy even more. When I realised this and found this website I started NC. I wish I had done this a lot earlier though.
@tami420
I am from the UK. She does not have a boyfriend but she likes this guy and broke up with me because she has a crush on him. I am not sure where they stand at the moment.
She has been making after exams plans with him which hurts me a lot because usually she would do this with me.
@Athens
You are absolutely right but it is not easy to stop thinking about some you truly love and have spent a great deal of time with.
From what it seems she misses the memories she have had with me so she is trying to do them with him.
@athens: youre very welcome. ya i know how that is, my ex bf is also… a pessimist and always sees the negtives…and its so hard for him to remember the good things. he never told me what he loves about me or what made him fall in love, but he told me only the negatives things… so idk… i also hope he will change a bit about this. and change the decision of never getting back with me again… i need to be friends with him so he sees im changing for the better and maybe in some months after being friends he will reconsider dating me…
you know zodiac signs/horoscopes are also really helpful in this kind of situations. What is ur ex by horoscope? you can read about how to get them back, what to do if you can see her in her horoscope…what not to do… and so. i got my ex once back by knowing his horoscope sign and so… oh ya he dumped me once before but it was a misunderstanding from his side and he was ready to talk about it and forget it… cause he was wrong…
@martin: oh okay… so not everything is lost if he isnt her bf… but it does suck to see her do plans that she used to do with you… probably you feel scared that that guy will take her away from you for good, and all the chances to get her back… but if it hasnt been too long since the break up, it might be just a rebound… she will evnetually want you back around… i hope my ex will want me back lol… really. i wish i could understand male psychology better and to know what he is thinking…but he is ssssoooooo good at faking his true feelings/thoughts… i know him and i couldnt always tell when he fakes it or not… god . im in the mood where i wanna text him… and see him and all that. but even more i hope he will do it first. but idk i dont believe he ever will
Neither of us called each other yet. She texted me last Monday which I ignored (she definitely knows I ignored her as she can she my last seen on whatsapp and etc).
I was wondering to give her a missed call today. Idk, this is probably me relapsing.
oh okay. i misunderstood … well i think its best if you dont… but its up to you if u will do it or not… if she texted you, she still remembers you’re alive if you give her a missed call you will only show her you’re still alive and waiting which she already knows…let the NC do its work and she will start to miss you… she needed a dose of your attention(she didnt get it. so keep it that way), which is key for getting her back. and when u do give her that dose she will have what she wanted and she will back off again.
thanks, this calmed me down for the time being. At the moment she is getting the attention she needs from someone else. Ill continue with my NC…I came this far and only a little bit more left.
here is something good for zodiac signs. mine is a capricorn… idk about you but im sure you have everything you need to know and the best things to do to get her/him back.
@martin: yeah she does, but when she will start to think about doing all this with you before and now not… she will start to miss you being around her…
I know I understand. It’s really difficult thing not to think about them. But all we could do is TRY not to. I see, so there is a big possibility that she’s going for a rebound. In that situation where she sent you a messaged and you not replying, I feel that there’s a big part of her wondering about why you’re not replying. And maybe she’s resisting not to contact you again after that somehow failed connection from her part.
@ Tami420
Yeah I have read some zodiac signs. Uhm, i have read this one part before “CANCER&VIRGO: This is a couple that can outlast the ages and your emotional connection is instant.” And because of that I really felt happy about our relationship but after what happened I don’t know if that’s really true. I have read good things about our signs. Do you truly believe in that?
She has not contacted me since but I am quite good at snooping around so I am able to find out everything that she is up to. I am just keeping my distance and watching over. She is not aware of this.
@Athens
Well I am not sure if it is a rebound. She broke up with me mid October. She did say she wanted to rebound but she didn’t.
I see. But I believe you two had great connection and had a great time together. It’s been just two months I doubt she could easily forget you just that. She’s just liking the attention this guy has offered her. But remember between you and the guy, you have the advantage because you know her better.
True, but then she again she broke up with me because she started having a crush on this guy. We do have several good memories but there are few instance of those bad ones which she kept remembering before we broke up.
I had those moments too. It just sucks that they always seem to bring the bad past back. Anyway, it will be a good thing for NC to have a refresh/restart of something new. And isn’t it one of the main reasons doing NC. Just keep working on yourself and when you’re ready you know what to do and how to handle it.
Hey man, I know how it feels. There was a time during the first few months of my break up that I always dream about her. And to tell you, I wake myself up from that dream. And waking up is the hardest part, but eventually dreams stopped. You could read books or watch anything before going to bed it will help a bit.
I guess I’m struggling more and more because I think I realise the chances of a reconciliation are incredibly slim now. This guy she’s started seeing since we’ve broken up is a guy that she’s admired for the last 5 years (even during our relationship they still spoke often, even passionately at times as I’ve come to find out). The other thing is that pretty much every friend she’s spoken to has convinced her that she did the right thing, and that those two ‘make more sense’ than me & her
I have TONS of questions for her that I know I shouldn’t ask, as that would burn the bridges completely, but the fact that thoughts & images of her absolutely flood my mind on a daily basis is pushing me to breaking point. It’s something that I desperately want to let go of but my mind simply won’t let me.
The biggest pain is not knowing. Not knowing how she really feels about me, both now and during our relationship. Given the events of the last few weeks i’m honestly wondering why she even stayed with me for as long as she did, if this guy was always ‘the one’ she wanted to be with…
I just feel pretty betrayed… but I know that there was a really close connection between us, one that wasn’t simply faked. So, what on earth was she thinking?
@athens: ja i did the same i taurus and he is capricorn… but ya i do believe in horoscope… it might help, they way to their hearts back and so… hmmm i was sad also when i read we can be a really good couple and all… but the only thing he saw on our compatibilty was the differences how they can ruin the relatioonship…
@sodiumC: Omg me too !!!" i have dreams about being with him and all. and then i wake up, back to reality its like i crash on reality… SNAP. and there are those feelings again… </3
guys…
about dreams…if you remember what happened there and the things that were around you… it might have a meaning… when i dreamt of me and my ex burning some firewoods that were actually already on fire… i’ve read it means we/I wanna end/do something fast, which takes time and patience… i always try to find a meaning lol tho it might not be anything, but still…
yeah she does, but when she will start to think about doing all this with you before and now not… she will start to miss you being around her…