Khine -
I agree with you, the ignoring is the best weapon. Actually, it shows that you have the power to control yourself and you’re emotionally resolved.
And hey EVERYONE -
For those who’s interested in my story, here’s the link: https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/may-seem-impossible-but-i-want-to-try-my-best-to-get-back-with-him/
The bright thing for us is that he’s too busy to date other girls. And he’s not in the time to date girls. The down side is that we’re far away from each other…
How our relationship started was a little bit different since I’m Chinese and he’s American (but not that American… Like he doesn’t really go on dates and enter into dating… Ugh I don’t know how to express). Like Dara said before, it can be very situational. So I’ll just cheer up and keep my hope!
So…
Day 9 for myself 
Just had my exam yesterday and will have another one at the end of August. Seems like I’ll be busy working hard for my own goals!!!
I have to admit that I still think of him from time to time, but I don’t feel like desperate anymore. Actually, I am really starting to think this break (yeah I still see it just as a break) might be a good thing for us He’s been stressed too much that he even couldn’t sleep. I do care about him and I do want him to be healthy. Since he needs time and space, give him.
Also since this break, I was forced to reflect in this relationship, which seems to be perfect to me : what went wrong? Yeah guys are always the ones who took all the responsibility and girls (at least in my case) are more likely to enjoy. As time passes, he took more and more responsibility and his work became more and more stressful, meanwhile what I was focusing all the time is enjoying the relationship and being happy (myself). I didn’t realize (because seriously, I’m pretty nice) but I may have started to take things for granted and become needy… Because he has a life, and my life is all about him.
I’m starting to think that, maybe we both could use this break to work on ourselves respectively. And I know how to be more independent and actually work hard for my goals but not for him. (I used to set him as my motivation for everything, now he’s gone I was devastated.) And he could reflect too, that he could have communicated with me rather than took it all by himself. And hopefully he would think of all the great memories we’ve created and all the dishes that I cook. (He LOVED my cooking:)!)
I remembered when we watched the movie UP this summer, he told me that he liked all the adventures we had together. When I left and came home, he told me that he was looking forward our next adventure together (before we broke up of course. The break thing happened after a little more than 2 weeks after I came home)
He gets up super super early everyday, like 4am for work. He would wake me a little bit, hug me and say “I love you” before he leave. There was one morning that I was too sleepy that I didn’t even open my eyes or say anything. After he left, I felt so empty right away so I went downstairs and out of the building on my bare foot just to hug him. He was walking towards his car and when he saw me he had a really big smile. He messaged “thank you for the extra hug” later. Nice memories.
Don’t know why I’m talking about this, it seems like I’m not supposed to talk about all the memories… But I’m actually not sad. I’m positive for my or our future. Just keep in mind: every improvement I made is one step closer to him.
Sorry if I posted too long or my words made no sense!
Have a great day guys! Good luck to all of us!!!
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