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yes you dont want to contact him to soon and it to make you seem “needy”. I feel you, why dont you do something that would make you happy or eat something you like. just do something that you know would make you happy. dont think this way. at least your gonna be able to go out with him and have something to look forward to. then you can see where ya are at and go from there. :slight_smile: stay strong and positive. your doing great. :slight_smile: keep me posted.

cassie hows everything? could you read my old post and new post and tell me what you think? thanks :slight_smile: hope all is well with you.

Everything with my ex is going really well but i’m just getting more and more depressed. I spoke to him on wednesday and he was really nice and said some really positive things which makes me so happy but i’m at a point now where i miss him so much i dont know what to do with myself and its so freaking annoying. I am so happy after speaking to him but then i just spiral right back down. He told me how he missed me, was looking forward to seeing me and how he was still hoping we’d get back together, still keeps smelling my perfume etc … Obviously i dont tell him how horrible I feel, when i speak to him I really do make a huge effort to stay strong. I asked him why he wasnt contacting me and he just said that it was really hard for him and then i asked him whether or not he even wanted to talk to me and he said he really likes when i call and he feels so much better after so … i dont get it… Why is it so freaking hard for him to contact me?

cassie it seems your doing everything right and everything is looking up for you. :smiley: I feel really excited for you. :slight_smile: dont get depressed. keep strong your doing great. it seems like your so close at getting him back. keep doing what your doing. :slight_smile: I think “Why is it so freaking hard for him to contact me?” it may be a pride thing or maybe a defense thing he has going on. I feel like you guys are going to be getting back together soon. cant wait to hear you say that. :slight_smile: keep me posted. :slight_smile:

Yeah, i’m also starting to think it might be a defense thing of some kind to protect himself. I really hope that he’ll want us to get back together again… I spoke to him again today and he was quite nice. He was nicer to me the last time we talked but he still said that he hoped we’d get back together again but that he was still so confused if he made the right decision or not. I asked him if he wanted to go for a walk tonight but he said no coz he had a friend coming over but that he wanted to see me soo… i’m just looking forward to next tuesday where i’ll be seeing him. I hope that it will be so great that he is gonna start wanna seeing me more again. I really really hope that i won’t do anything stupid… Will let you know how it goes :slight_smile: Thinking i should call him again in a few days time? What do you think?

Yes definitely call him in a few days, he is being nice and giving you positive signs, everything seems to be working out, I am happy for you!! I think hereally likes you, but he is confused as you are too, thats completely normal, so just relax everything will work out(:

Thanks so much for your reply :slight_smile: Great, then i’ll give him a call in a few days time… I also dont want to come across too strong - it’s such a hard balance - but i figure that he will let me know if it gets too much… I am really trying to control myself. Yes, I am so so so confused… everything really seems like such a blur - i really hope it will all work out!

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to take things slow and at a distance. You both need time to heal so you both could have a fresh start in the relationship. I believe things will work if for you two but in the mean time focus on you. I know he cares for you and in the end it’s gonna benefit with a better relationship! Read my story it may give you a few needed laughs and have faith!!! It will all work out in the end!

Thanks for your reply - i really appreciate it! :slight_smile: Yes, I am trying to focus on me but it’s difficult. You are also completely right, taking things slow is really the best thing to do and I hope that I get better at accepting that he is taking his time. I also know that if he does come back, then he really does want it so I guess that will be a good thing. At this point I am just happy that he hasnt given up on a future with me. I wish i could just persuade him a little bit faster!

cassie are you still gonna see him was it on tuesday? today?

It’s only next tuesday on the 14th… Wish it was today but I’ll have to wait one more week. :frowning: I’m so excited to see him and i really really hope that he will have a good time.

he will stay strong and confident. :slight_smile:

Sooo I talked to my ex today. It was pretty casual and we talked mostly about the same things as we’ve done before. He is still in doubt whether or not us not being together is the right thing. This obviously upsets me but I at this point i cant really expect him to say otherwise. I told him how a friend of mine keeps telling me “he doesnt love me, he wouldnt need this long if he wanted to be with you and you two will never get back together”. Then he said “oh, i’m pretty sure she isnt right about that” and i ask him “what do you mean?” and so he says “well, i love you so yeah” and then i said “yeah, i also keep telling her to shut her mouth” and we continued the conversation. He said that he was super excited for the surprise on tuesday and that he was looking forward to seeing me. We also talked about how we both felt that we couldnt meet anyone else, and that it just felt wrong and we’d feel like we were cheating on each other. I’m not sure if this is good or bad but somehow it made me happy knowing that he isnt looking for someone else. And he also said that he was sad and was missing me. When we hung up he said “Goodnight, sleep tight. I hope i have a lovely dream about you/us”.

I know all this probably sounds good, but somehow i just cant help but think that him and i will never get back together. :frowning:

Oh and also when we hung up he said “we’ll speak on saturday or sunday” soooooo i really hope that he will be the one to make contact next time!!!

wow sounds very good. keep doing what your doing as your doing great. he just sounds confused and its normal. he does love you and misses you. show him the girl he fell in love with. show him it was a mistake to break up. :slight_smile: its a really good thing that hes looking forward to the surprised. I hope he likes it, you both have fun and you can continue to progress. im so excited for you. you almost have him back. :slight_smile: stay strong and positive. :slight_smile: you got this. :slight_smile:

My ex FINALLY contacted me!! He called me up today and we had a looooong talk. We didnt speak about anything in particular but i’m just happy that it was finally him who called. He sent me a picture of his new lights on his car but i only saw it after we’d hung up so i sent him a text saying it looked really good. Hope i didnt push it… I’m so so so so so excited to see him on tuesday but also super nervous…

Omg!! Congrats girl… you did great and good luck for the tuesday. Be prepared and look stunning. :wink: good going. :smiley:

cassie im so happy for you. :slight_smile: thats great news. the talk sounded good. keep it up. I dont think you pushed the text to much as you were just responding to his text. stay calm and tuesday is around the comer. :smiley: remember to dress up really nice a wear a nice perfume ect. I hope it goes really well for you. keep us posted on everything and before and after. I hope you guys get back together. maybe all you guys needed was a break, who knows but your doing really well so keep it up. :slight_smile: I dont think im getting my husband back though idk. would you mind reading my latest post since the other day and letting me know what you think about the whole situation? ugh thanks :slight_smile:

I’m so so so nervous, I’m so afraid that i will fuck everything up. I have no idea what to do… he never responded to my text and ugh, maybe he doesnt even want to go?! Can i dress up too much? He loves when i curl my hair but will it seem as if i’m trying too hard or do guys not think that way? He is very aware that i want to get back together with him… I’m really beginning to think this was a baaaaad idea.

no its not a bad idea and hopefully he talks about getting back together with you, fingers crossed and yes curl your hair. dress up for what the occasion but look your best. :slight_smile: your just very nervous lol and this is to be expected. stay strong you got this. when did you send him a text? wait for him to reply. your going to be fine. just keep us updated. :slight_smile: