My ex with who i was for 8 months left me 2 months ago. Within a month she was already seeing her best friend, which became official 1 month ago. She never told me about it and always said shed never go for him.
Now she says on ask.fm that she could not live without him just like she used to when talking about me. He does the same thing i used to for her.
She seems very happy with her relationship, except its not on facebook.
I realy love this girl and i want her back!
I did the no contact and she used one of my friends to get in touch with me by asking me to go see how he is doing because he wasnt answering her no more, told her he was okay and ended it there.
After NC, i initiated contact, she replied quickly in a positive way. Now she replies quickly but warm and sometimes distant.
Apparently if this is a rebound it should end soon like between 1 and 3-4 weeks but i doubt it.
I’ll keep talking to her, she hasn’t mentioned her bf to me yet.
Anyway
Your situation almost the same with my situation. My ex and i been together for 8 months and broke up end of october. In early november, he with his bestfriend which he used to tell me that he will never go to her because she is bestfriend. Unfortunately they already couple like a month. He is happy with her right now while im doing nc 7 days now. So far he doesnt text me at all or find me in any ways. Maybe its only 7 days too early or i dont know.
Since she still asking about you and sometimes its hot and cold perhaps she still confused or dont want to give you any hope. But we cant control the future. We can try but it takes time. Just keep maintain the conversation interesting. Women like interesting things. Especially something that she never expect you can make it.
After nc, i will try to reach my ex bf. But i hope during nc, he try to reach me. I dont know about guys mind tho
He probably will, my ex contacted me on the last week of NC like after 20 days.
And i have difficulty making my convos interesting i know everything about her, its not like the first time where you get to know each other its much different now.
Well you can create story either. Its not about you want to lie. But if you dont know how to make convo interesting, you can create a nice story but not too much. Or maybe you can do based on your experience during nc but with interesting a bit.
Or you can start like
“Hey. OMG, you are not gonna believe what i saw just now/what happened to me just now. Its craaazy but cool”… Then you can say something or story
I tried to do once before i did my NC and he said “sounds interesting. Tell me!”
After that maybe im a bit too needy and keep sms him and he sounds cold.
Remember. Do not send more than one text at the same time. Its more like…you text, she reply and you reply.
After everything its ok with your story, focus on her interesting or Stuff like “haha yah. Btw, how you been? Still doing (her fav activities), i hope”
“I hope” means like you still know about her activities and you still interested to know the further about her activities. Show your support but not too much. I did support my ex but its too much and he just said thanks
Well just work on yourself i remember the first week and a half were very hard for me but i kept moving, then i started meeting other girls and going out with friends it helped me change my mind, of course time went by slow
but in the end your still in his mind and if you stop talking and reaching out he will realise, if you start showing that you moved on he will want his “toy” back because right now you are still under his thumb and he knows it. If you become indiferent and independant he will see what he lost and will start thinking of you
In the mean time do a 30 to 45 day NC and work on yourself become a bettter you, because even if you dont get him back (i know you and i realy want them back) you will be better with yourself and probably will find someone that is better suited for you.
But this story is exactly like the story between gary and jane, but what i want to know is how it ended? Did the guy get his ex back? And how? Because its same situation as mine and i want my ex back!
But i felt like my ex bf is a bit different. He seems very happy with his gf now. His social media is about her and not me.
I try to improve myself but i wont update anything and text him during nc. I will update my inprovement and my story after nc. I hope he will text me during nc.
But seeing him so happy right now, is it because of this he wont reach me at all?
He is not reaching because he is trying to prove to himself that he can be happy without you (assuming your bf was sad about the break up) .
he is in the honeymoon phase right now of course he is happy but give it a month or two and he will realise what he lost thats why you must work on yourself so you can make him envy you again
Do you think he will think like that? I dont know how guys think tho. I really hope he will miss me. When he doesnt reach me at all i feel like he doesnt care about me and he is happy with his relationship. I hope its honeymoon phase tho. Yah i try my best to improve myself physically and mentally. I didnt update anything so its sad he doesnt want to know a bit about me.
Well you can upload pics of you and other man not too much there, add new friends, do some interesting snapchat stories.
And he did not have enough time to miss you yet, try to stop thinking about him missing you or not, enjoy your life deal with the pain and improve yourself. Let things happen on their own he will miss you if it was a meaningfull relationship, my ex went for her bestfriend because he is like me, he takes care of her, makes her laugh when she is down and plays hockey like i used to so she is with him cuz she is trying to fill up the emptiness but he is not me he just dosent have the little fights we used to have together but if she dosent come back and stays with him well im glad i worked on myself and this experience made me grow as an individual, i am more matureand understand relationships much better then i used too
My ex bf choose someone who completely opposite of me. She is his bestfriend. She is not feminist at all. Im doing nc for 8 days now and i didnt update anything because i want to improve myself like getting slim, taking care of my skincare, be happy. But deep deep inside of ny heart, i just hope he will find me and text me. Even once.
I hope your situation will be better. Remember keep interesting
Thanks, but he will for sure and if she is the opposite it can mean that he is trying to change his mind off of you and he will realise she is not the kind of girl he likes and will most likely start thinking of you again if he isnt already. He will probably even message you first.
All you gotta do is stop contacting him and if he contacts you dont answer during NC after NC dont ac needy, try to be friendly then move thibgs forward
You can do this i believe in you, remember as long as you have the will anything is possible
I hope so. Hopefully he will realize it when im gone too long but yah im afraid he will forget about me too. Its hard when we used to be really close and had feelings for 8 months and suddenly a mistake blow his mind and he moved on with someone else and it seems pretty serious too. Im mot sure whether its rebound but yah i do my nc now. Try to keep busy and taking cvare of myself. I hope my time will be better soon. Hopefully yours too
You too! Im so stress and hurt to see their honeymoon phase. Urgh! Everything they want to tag each other like videos, pictures. Its like i dont even exist. And he doesnt even text my friend to ask bout me. Sigh.
Hey girls I been reading your to story life’s shit ain’t it…don’t no men get under someone to get over someone and not feel no way about puting all over social media they go on like they never met us Aryann I’m in abit like u my ex and I broke up and been 4months and he with someone else and living with tham think he really likes her as he don’t contact me no more only about his daughter but wen he comes to pick her up he’s always like u look gorgeous how’s u tying hug me but feels no way bout walking out the door to go bk to her what do I do ladies…and Samuel it’s hard to tell if it’s a rebound I offen wonder if this girl is to him.but I’m not to sure no more it’s hard to get tham bk wen they got other ppl tking there mind of us
i know everything about her, its not like the first time where you get to know each other its much different now.
Aryann I’m in abit like u my ex and I broke up and been 4months and he with someone else and living with tham think he really likes her as he don’t contact me no more only about his daughter but wen he comes to pick her up he’s always like u look gorgeous how’s u tying hug me