You see this gives us all hope - after you split from your wife you never thought you would fall in love again - yet you did. This is encouraging. I think we all feel that we just wont feel love like that again. But people do (that hurts writing that because it means he will, or has already even - but it also means hopefully you and I will again). Good luck to you dear Kali, keep us in the loop, I will try to look out for you in the coming days / weeks. Be strong in the chat with the ex, you are a person of high value and you have someone already in love with you and wanting to be with you.
After long wait of 2 years I gave up on more trying,tried everything possible to get her back.
Now no more trying,if it is not meant to be,no matter how hard you try it won’t come to you.
Good Luck to all my friends and broken heart ones.
Wish you all speedy recovery and moving towards better future.
Now,i feel that once the serious relationship goes thru break up phase and it is more than 6months to year and there is no patch up,your chances are almost none.
Hi Kali
How are you? I am hoping you are dating the other girl that was keen on you? 
I think it is a wise move that we must move on. Ironically I came on here because I was dating someone new and I think it isn’t working out - but it has made me completely get over my ex. I am thinking about the new one and rarely think about my ex! So finally finally, I feel I am TRULY over my ex - it happened in stages but overall I guess it took over a year. I still have a massive soft spot for him (occasionally we still see each other as we still are shared assets) but I don’t feel like I want to be with him any more.
Having said that, I do feel that sometimes couples get back together years and years later. I don’t want that - I am not hoping for it. But for other people out there, it can happen. The important thing though is to move on in the mean time - live life, meet a new partner. That way you can really see what life has to offer and what you want out in a relationship.
Kali, warm wishes to you
Anth
Please read my thread before you say your suggestions.
My g/f and I dated for 4 years and it was 100 % from her side,mine was less as I had lot going on with my ex wife.
My g/f wanted to marry me like crazy and said everyday,she wants to marry me.I couldn’t do that time as I still had case pending with my ex wife.
Around June 2014 I blocked my g/f for 2 weeks and things were never same.She was not the same girl anymore she went distant,pissed off,mad,confused and kept telling me move on.
Well I never loose hope,i tried tried tried it can be her bday gifts,valentine,talking to her sister,family,finding excuses to talk with her
She kept giving me mixed signals for 2 years and never said I love you but she did talk about marriage once in while or came see me or came my home.
Last month her mother was sick,i went to check on her mother and gave flowers,so my g/f said she wants to get engagement done on Oct 1st her mom bday.I said Ok and I was surprise,well we had fight again and keeping all the fights happened in 2 years it was from her side I never inititated.
Now I she has picture on facebook with her family friend last week and this week the guy put new picture looks like engagement and everyone giving them congrats as happy couple.
2 weeks I try to say hello on her and she my family has fixed my wedding and I should understand.
We come from very different religions and I have baggage with divorce,daughter.She was single and no baggage.
Now I am confused that like 2 weeks she was looking for ring with me in mall and putting dresses on,now all of the sudden what happen ?
But 2 years she has done is fight,went distant,not talked with me for months,blocked me few times.
I am broken and now have no clue about my love life or future.I really loved this girl and also proved my love during this break up time.
Please advise.
kalicooldude
Hi Kali,
If you have feelings for her never give up. You never know what the outcome will be. Your happiness is in your hands. You just need to decide if she is the one who makes you happy. I admire you.
Hi Elena,I have not given up from last 2/5 years and trust me I did a lot,she was always pissed,angry,distant and never respected me.She treated me like shit.I have gifts,apologies,bday present,good with her family,worked on myself,controlled my anger but she never saw any changes in me and remain same cold and distant,I said her I love you every time we talked or met but she never said I love you too.Now she said her family fixed her wedding and they are happy and she is happy because they are happy.What do you want me to do now,cry to her or beg to come back or tell her to rethink,all this doesn’t make sense to me,keep in mind she is happy and after so much of my wait & love if I can’t get her back I don’t think it will make sense,I have to let her go.I am tired and heart broken with this mixed feelings and confused behavior of her from last 2/5 years.Now she has decided to move on with other guy so it’s fine !
You know people think that they have moved on and then they go back to their true love. Keep your dignity and don’t be ashamed of your feelings.
Good luck and don’t make your life a torture, she will get it one day, if not maybe the future has something better for you! 
Hey kalicooldude,
I am sorry you are still suffering so much about your ex.
I do admire the persistence and patience you have showed through all these years; it’s amazing and bittersweet. I want to tell you that it’s ok if you want to move on, you have done whatever you could to keep this relationship afloat and you won’t have regrets. Unfortunately your ex doesn’t seem to be interested in anymore and you have to learn to accept and for now.
Although, speaking from a voice of a hopeless romantic and dreamer, maybe this is not the end of it, like Elanna hinted at; only death is certain. You can let her go now and go on with your life, with a flebile hope in your heart that one day the destiny might present you another chance with her. You will be happy again whatever happens.
Gook luck and stay strong!
Hi Elanna & Fishing.
Thanks for the comments,i am fine with my life but all I am SURPRISED is that this girl has not putten 1 % effort from her side during this break up,99 % efforts were me and I was her target to get mad,angry or pissed off with no reasons and take the past anger at me.
But this girl has also came to see me or talk with me on her mood,i cant understand is that 2 weeks back she told me that we will get engagement done on Oct 1st and also went with me to see rings and dresses she will wear,again when we were looking she started fighting with me as I told salesperson about my budget.
and she also went out with me to city 4 weeks back where she did hold my hand and kissed me not on lips.
So how come this girl moved on so quick to relationship with this person or wedding,keeping this girl comes from very typical muslim background.Also I see this new guy that she claims is getting married,comes from same background and he had consoled her all this year which is visible at her facebook page.Now the guy also have profile picture at facebook with her,and friends gave them congrats for happy life.
My concern is she is with me 2 weeks back looking for rings and now all of the sudden this guy came to picture and she tells me her family is happy so she is happy there too.
I am confused as hell but same time looking at there picture on facebook gave me peace and strength to move on.
Hi Kali
Its been a while! I am confused by your latest update - was she intending on marrying you? and then switched and is now marrying someone else? or was she just shopping for rings / dresses with you while being engaged to someone else?
All I can say Kali is - I understand how you feel, but you do need to rebuild your life without this lady at the focal point of it. She may come back one day - and there is nothing wrong with harbouring some hope even for years. But please don’t let this rule your life. You may be missing out on some great happiness.
My situation … I still miss my ex after over 18 months, I still love him. I see him occasionally for a few admin things we have and seeing him just makes me feel warmer to him. But I realise we aren’t meant to be together. There were some things that just were not right in the relationship. In some ways I should be thankful to him for being strong in not coming back to me. He has now been with someone new for almost a year I think. He seems happy. But I know he sometimes wonders about the future with me that he has given up. I can see this from sometimes his reactions or body language. But I also know he will not come back - at least not any time soon. He needs to explore this new relationship. If in years to come he decides he wants to spend his life with me and make the right compromises, well then maybe it will be too late (I might be committed to someone else), maybe it will be good timing. But I have to build my new life without him and if there is any remote chance of a reconciliation ever - it has to be driven by him because otherwise it will not work - he will not make the right compromises every relationship needs. I am kind to him when I see him but I respect his space, his new relationship etc
So similar is the case for you I feel. You need to let go a little - try to move on, even if you will always harbour some love for her and some hope - you can achieve “moving on”. I know my ex still loves me - I know it doesn’t disappear - but he has moved on and rebuilt his life. And I am starting to, yes even though I love him and miss him. I think for you it might be better not to see this lady for a while because she seems to be treating you unfairly. I wonder if she enjoys playing with your emotions. Its messing with your life Kali - you broke up over 2 years ago now and one minute she doesn’t want to talk to you and the next you are shopping for engagement rings. Its very confusing for all involved. Kali, you may always love her - and that is OK - more than OK its wonderful - but it doesn’t mean you should be together and it doesn’t mean you cant be happy with someone else. The old saying is that if you love someone, let them go. I see my “letting go” of my ex as my ultimate gift to him - to help him find happiness. One day he may return but I’m not waiting any more. What will be will be.
Sorry for the long post - my heart goes out to you Kali. Be strong, be happy
x
Hi Anth,
Thanks for reply.Sorry for confusion.My ex g/f gave me mixed signals,i mean she went out with me out to city a month back and let me hold her hands and kiss on side.And called more often like 1/2 times in day.
Her mother was sick so I went to hospital with flowers,and all of the sudden she said oh lets do engagement on oct 1st I was little surprise and shocked but same time,I knew that she is not been staying on her words and as well her actions.
Sept 15- Lets do engagement.
Sept 15- Trip to city.
Sept 23- Looking for dresses.
Sept 26 or I guess 27- Looking for rings( I didn’t buy her ring so she was pissed off as she expected me to buy her ring same day) I said you can pick one and I will buy before Oct 1st.She became very pissed off & angry.
Sept 29- I called her and she said don’t come for Engagement,now its too late.
Oct 1st- She puts picture of guy first alphabet, which is the same alphabet of her also new guy(who is her 3rd cousin,comes from her mom side)
Guy goes in Facebook and says(Thanks for coming into my life love you-so much)
Oct 9th- I try to say hello to her and she is like (Her wedding is been fixed and her family is happy and as well she is,i hope you understand) I said are you marrying to same guy who commented on your facebook picture she said YES.
After that I never spoke to her or said anything at all.
Oct 8th- Guy puts Facebook profile picture where he is holding her and they are dressed, people friends gave them congratulations and happy couple messages.
Thanks Anth,i hope we get peace and love again in our life,It just hurts so much and I have turned to be so hopeless and unromantic guy.
Kali
This lady is not right for you. She has played terribly with your feelings. You deserve so much better than this - you are a very romantic guy and not at all hopeless. The story you tell is unbelievable (but I do believe you) - to suggest that you two might after all this time be getting married and then plan to marry someone else just because you didn’t buy the ring on the day. I really hope you can cut this lady out of your life completely and start again afresh.
You will find happiness again, I know you will. You are a kind and loving person
Warm wishes
Anth
Hi All,
My ex girl friend already married now to someone with one of her third cousins.She kept me as back up.
My love story is over now and moral of the story is if you go thru break up,you should set up timelimit to get back.If your partner doesn’t come in that certain period please move on with your life.
I spent 2/5 years of my life trying to get love back of my life and I mean really tried and now she is already married.After the break up my efforts were 99 % and her was 1 %
I made myself really fool and she moved on and already married.Its fine god is great.
Hey Kali,
I will not say sorry to hearing that. There is one saying: When we lose something we don’t know what we gain.
It doesn’t matter if she had used you for a back up or not. It’s her life and she makes the decisions about it. People marry and divorce all the time.
It hurts no doubt, but we can try and learn a lesson so it doesn’t hurt next time. Because all we need is true love. Just keep your head up and never give up!