Thank you I’ll be updating you.
Happy New Year !!!
We got alot more to go yeah many obstacles too.
He didn’t greet me for New Years but I also didn’t.
Happy new year to you as well. Yes sadly we do have to enter the new year with the BS from 2018 but hopefully it gets better for us.
It’s ok i also did not get a New Years message, at this point I’m not even hoping for it anymore. If it happens it happens.
Hahahah BS it is. I know it will get better for us.
Me too actually I didn’t even expect it anymore. Had fun driving around with my friends after family celebration sadly no one is a social media addict so yeah no posts for our trip today hahahah.
Hopefully it’s better this year. I’m already starting to feel better and accept the idea that I may never get her back sadly. I’m still hopeful but at this point it’s whatever happens happens.
I stopped expecting it as well so hopefully they will realize on their own soon. That’s good that you’re having fun. I was stuck working on New Years sadly. Hope everything’s been going well for you.
So i broke NC i reached out and she only wanted to return something back to me. I saw her at work and talked to her but she didn’t seem to want to talk to me. She was on her phone most of the time texting or something and smiling in front of me and she was saying a lot of outbof character things probably playing mind games with me. That being said after i broke NC i felt my fear, depression, and anxiety leave me. Even if she knows she can come back when she wants to i decided that I’m no longer going to sit back on the sidelines and wait for her. If she comes back great if not then I’ll be fine. I hope you’re doing well in NC.
Hi nothing for me yet still in NC. Well his posts subsided no more out of character posts and no more baiting me with his my day blocking then unblocking me. I guess he is back to his normal self.
Good for you only steps forward not backward besides acting like that is not good there is no winning a breakup. People who act like nothing happened at all don’t have emotional capacities. I hope as time goes everything will make sense.
That’s good that he stopped being childish. Maybe now he’s starting to realize that it doesn’t matter what he tries and until he reaches out to you he won’t get you back.
Yea i have a feeling she’s done with me, but i can’t be bitter towards her or anything cause in the end even if i refuse to wait for her i still love her but that will only be there for so long as well up until i can’t love her in that way anymore. Hopefully she wakes up and realizes she made a mistake but i just can’t sit back anymore and just wait on her, it’s not worth the pain and suffering that i would have to go through just to possibly be treated like that again. By the time if she ever decides to come back i May end up even rejecting her because at this point I’m not sure if i really want her back anymore. I know I’ll still love her but idk if i could put myself out there for her to hurt any longer.
Yes ourselves first there will come a time when we don’t really care if we get back together.
I am starting to feel detached. I’ve read his last msgs and I don’ hurt so much my crying sessions also subsided.
Btw check out Bonnie Weil’s take on 6-8 weeks on how a dumper feels. It really is enlightening.
Yes that’s true but i just hate the fact that they are treating us this way and acting like the time we had with them meant nothing.
I’m already feeling that to be honest. I will definitely feel much better soon and once i am I’m not sure if i can look at my ex the same way anymore. I no longer feel anxious, depressed or scared to lose her because I’ve already lost her so what is there left for me to fear? If she wants to be childish then it’s on her.
I will look that up.
Hi thought he was done being immature but he goes back again blocking and unblocking me on my day.
Well you’re getting the same reaction so just let him continue to be childish. I’m still stuck in the same position with my ex and I’m not sure if i should continue to pursue her or just flat out move on. I know I’ll always love her but sometimes that’s not enough. She continues to ignore me and seems uninterested in anything i say or do so what’s the point? Last time i spoke to her she just ended up messaging someone else on her phone and was laughing and stuff in front of me but the following day she was just sitting alone looking sad. I believe she’s playing mind games with me but i refuse to play.
Move on but keep the door open like we should not actively pursue them.
I think let them play their games until they are exhausted of acting dirty and immature that they will confront what they are really feeling.
That’s the plan, i don’t really care anymore. Like it’d be nice if she came back but if she wanna be like that then is there a point? Like we didn’t do anything to them so why are we being treated like shit?
You’re absolutely right but it’s sad because they are being childish and we all grown adults.
To update you I have applied for two jobs hopebto hear from them soon.
That’s great! Hope you hear from those jobs soon! Good luck.
Hello I have an update this week his friend of mine (boy) and I are together for some group project and we ended up eating at a fastfood chain and staying there chitchating of course I didnt try to talk about him but in some way this friend of his said that my ex mentioned in their gc that his Christmas was so lonely (but did not exactly said that he misses me) to which they retorted that it was his fault for leaving me. This guy friend of his renounces that he believes that what my ex did was wrong and they are on my side.
Another friend of his a girl came up to me to chitchat and she asked “how am I holding up?” I said that I was fine and I don’t want to talk about the breakup anymore. She announces that he loathes my ex for breaking up with me (I don’t know if I should be happy) even tho she is his friend too. Then we chatted about other things girl etc. in some way we talk about finding part time jobs and she wanted to refer me to the company she is currently working in. She also invited me to have overnight with our other friend.
He is still posting too much for his tastes than before and I don’t know why but I think he is mirroring my action in social media such as when I change my prof pic he will change his too after two days. Then lately I have shown rapport to my friends who tweets depressing things and guess what he also did that. Most of all a couple friend of ours posted a pic of their date and he commented. “The two of you are so sweet. I envy the two of you.” Yeah that’s all I know I really dont know how to make sense of this all.
I want to contact him because I really need my stuff that I left at his place but I am afraid to break NC as I feel I am not ready yet.
Well if his friends are being that way and saying things like that then i feel those are good signs. If his friends feel that way then eventually he will feel the weight of his decision faster. You’re doing a good job keeping up with NC. I would look at it as your efforts are finally starting to show results. Idk about my situation, because at the moment i feel all hope is lost for me, she’s stopped viewing my stories on social media and she looks happy when she posts on social media so I’m not sure if i should sit around wondering about her anymore. I know i miss her and still want the relationship to work but at this point i feel my chances are dead.
If you really need your things back then you should definitely get them back, but if you want to keep NC and are not ready to contact him then i have read that some people will actually rebuy some of those items just so that they do not break NC.
I also stopped viewing my ex’s social media stories but not because I don’t care but rather I don’t want to see what he is up to and enjoying life without me. I used to view his story when he doesn’t block me but it made me hurt more. So maybe she’s not viewing it so that she can hurt less.
I know that I should not interpret his social media actions but what do you think of this and him saying he was lonely during the holidays.