Yeah there is no harm in contacting her. Just try and keep it light and breezy 
I agree it’s no harm to send a text.do it and tell us what happened.
Sent the text, I’m at work atm. I said
“hey you, everything alright? You seem quiet lately.”
Nice and simple but she hasn’t replied yet
Nice and simple.all you can do is wait.let us know what happened.
I will do
Yep nice and light and breezy Very casual.
try not to overthink things
still no reply 
i will wait now until she does, i wont keep texting
Yeh, don’t text her. You have a meeting date with her, that is the most important. And she might be busy so don’t overthink it
So she still hasn’t replied, I bumped into her sister at the gym so I asked her has she been quiet? And she said yes very and she’s unsure why. So I will definitely leave it a while and see what happens
Yes, do that Try not to let it put you down. I am going to the gym too in a few hours eheh
hi Thargus
wait a little bit and see what happen.maybe she is thinking now.after all you arrange a meeting.
I shall post my reply when I get to my computer in regards to your story you posted I haven’t forgotten and sorry its taken a while, been busy!
exchainging opinions and advices help each other.i ll be waitng for your reply.thank you my friend.
hello so a couple of days ago my no contact ended (Im now on day 35/36?) and I was all geared up to finally text my ex after wimping out so many times!!
however, i saw his sister yesterday, and she thinks that if I text him it will give him the wrong impression (that Im only contacting him because he thinks I want to get back with him)
now im really stuck! I really miss him and really, really want to talk to him…but now im even more scared that if I message him he wont reply and I’ll end up getting horrendously upset
Should I ignore the advice or should I take it on board and just wait a bit longer to contact?
This is exactly why I hate when family and friends get involved… They dont mean to but it sabotages things. Text him. I am having the same thing happen right now… And its frustrated me more than anything else. I will talk more tonight as I am actually at home. Work right now and I’ve been incredibly busy past few days
exactly Thargus - it sucks so bad! She asked if I had spoken to him, I said no but was thinking about texting him and she was like “oooh…do you want to get back together with him then?” and I said a firm no (as shes seeing him this weekend and I knew what I would say would get back to him), but that I missed him. This is when she said “well as long as you make it so its obvious you want to be friends otherwise I think he’ll get the wrong impression…or maybe wait a bit longer?”
Its really difficult when this kind of thing happens I know she loves both of us (but at the same time her loyalties lie with her brother) but its thrown me a bit now! i was so confident and ready to go! and it doesnt help when i ask how he is I get the “oh yeah hes good!” -ahhhhh, great 
haha
I would try not to pay attention to it. When people on the outside (who aren’t going through the same thing) get involved, they never know what to say and give rubbish advice. If I talk to my friends about it, even my best friend, all I get is “ah plenty more fish in the sea, move on”. It’s not that simple, and I don’t want another fish lol.
It sounds like you have been gearing yourself up for it so I still think you should do it! Don’t listen to his sister… and of course she is going to tell you that he is fine. It doesn’t mean that he is!
Thats very true KD1988!
I guess its just made me more nervous now because he was the one who broke up with me, the main reason being he wanted to be single for a while and not in a relationship. I just dont want to feel vulnerable again!
Exactly! a week after we broke up his sister asked me if i had got with anyone else - I was lke um, no!!! and yep, Im definately “theres plenty more fish in the sea”-ed out! I want my fish back haha!
You’ve got to be emotionally stable before you contact him, that’s all I would say. You need to be prepared for the fact that he might not react the way you want him to, but it’s ok if he doesn’t! Whats the worst that can happen eh? If he reacts badly, you go back to NC (and you know you can do it because you’ve done so well with it) and you try again when the time is right.
Haha yes I want my fish back too! It’s funny how many people say that to me. Without understanding that I don’t want someone else! Or it’s just “ah well, move on, it wasn’t right anyway” oh I’m sorry what do you know about my relationship? Lol.
Exactly - I feel like I am emotionally stable now - I even went on a date! but it felt completely wrong. But I wanted to make sure I was in the right place so that I didn’t go all “I WANT YOU BACK SO BADLY” on him when we did finally talk again!
I must admit I am bummed out that he hasn’t bothered to contact me at all we we’re such good friends before we went out and best friends during the 3 years - it has suprised me that he hasn’t even bothered to reach out and see if im okay/congratulate me on my new job but hey ho. Exactly! at least I know I can do no contact. He better realise what he’s missing 
If he’s out during the day tomorrow, shall I message him the evening? he’s going to see mamma mia with his sister haha - I didnt know whether to ask about that?