Good for you for going on a date!! That’s brilliant. I got asked out on a date yesterday and originally said no, but am changing my mind and thinking I should just take the plunge and go, for my confidence and my own sake, not because I want anything to happen with him!
I know how you feel, mine hasn’t bothered either but I am trying really hard not to look into it too much! I’m just thinking that he is probably thinking the same thing as me, that he hasn’t heard from me either (apart from my one genuine mistake of sending him an email that was meant for someone at my work lol).
you could message him in the evening yeah. Do you know what you are going to say?
kaila - Noooo I didn’t I kept chickening out and getting the opinions of my friends/parents who said not to :S and now because Ive been thinking about it too much/heard what his sister has said its putting me off
KD1988 - Im thinking about asking him about the play hes going to see tomorrow? im not too sure! Im seeing some of our old friends from college tonight so didnt know whether to mention like “guess who I saw last night!” kind of thing?
@amy111 message him whenever you feel it’s right! The play might be a good way to start off the convo. BUT leave it long enough so that he’s not still with his sister!
Yeah, thats what I was thinking. Was thinking sunday night? then I would have seen our mutual friends, he would have seen the play on saturday, so sunday night I can ask him how the play was and then i can say about how I saw our friends and that they say hey or whatever… that was the plan anyway :S maybe! eeeek am so new to this!
awww thank you! yeah the first 2 weeks were terrible i must admit - I was crying every day, sometimes twice a day! But then I got to the point where i got annoyed and angry at him instead - much better I mean I do love him and would love to get back together…but at the same time I want to make him work for it a little bit. And he must be still feeling something a month later - hopefully :S ahhh its scary
but NC does get a lot easier! for me it worked as a change of mindset. I loved him, but I didnt want him dumping me ruling my life kind of thing
so @geodj. i am sorry for the late reply! it sounds like you do need to just talk to her. but what you should do is be open and honest about the insecurities. a relationship is all about the working things out and working together to fix the RELATIONSHIP itself. she is clearly jealous and has feelings if she has seen you flirting with another girl and made that eye contact. talk to her, in a confident manner. dont text, just find a time you know will be quiet and just go and say hey. and let the conversation flow. she clearly still has feelings if what you say is true. its difficult i know but when she sees you engage her, it will make the difference. trust me. and see what happens.
tell us what happens when you do this it doesn’t have to be straight away! when you feel is a nice time, take it and do it!
so my ex replied to me yesterday. this is what she said to me. “Yeah. Sorry ive been so lame at texting the last few days. Very busy and work is f*****g stressful as usual. The company got sold though, so maybe good things are on the way :). hahah yeah right. How are you? Hows your nan?”
i replied saying ive had troubles in work also, to try and make her intrigued and that nan is a lot better, and also asking her why work has been stressful etc and i hope it isnt getting you down.
ive had no reply still, i dont know what to make of this.
I know I need to stay strong but I’m feeling low today. She hasn’t tried to contact me at all during my no contact period. She’s liked a few of my pics on Instagram and facebook. I’m worried about it. We were together for 5 years, we had ups and downs but we were madly in love. Now I feel lost without her
wow 5 years… and there’s me feeling like this for just under 1 year. but it is normal to feel this way you HAVE to understand that. you are strong for getting this far even! i cant imagine how hard no contact is. but you are doing amazing. keep messaging on here, it makes everyone feel better. there is absolutely NO way that she would just loose or forget about you for being together than long. its easier said that done… but DONT. WORRY.
but what do you think of the text she replied with? i dunno what to think about it.
I forgot she did txt me when I was a few days into no contact. It was about our final bills on our old flat. She hoped I was ok at the end of the txt. I replied with a simple ‘thanks for letting me know’ no I’m thinking maybe that was her way of trying to start a convo but I shot her down. What do u think?
I would wait for a reply remember the 1 to 1 rule. If she’s txt u before she’s just probebly waiting before she replys.
it was most likely a perfect way for her to start a convo with you, but she also is probably understanding that you are finding it difficult and is giving you the space. that is why i would wait till about day 20 and see how you feel then
Rusty red Definately keep no contact!
I’m on day 36 of no contact and feel so much better about myself. It really helps you to control your emotions and be able to look at the situation from a head point of view, not the heart
Definately make yourself miletones like thargus said! Whenever I feel like texting mine I always post on here cos I know others are going through the same
I know how you feel though rusty red-although I was with my ex for shorter than you (3years), we spoke every dy for 4/4.5 years including our relationship it’s hard and I get upset thinking he could replace me…but Definately stay no contact
You will feel SO proud of yourself at every milestone!
I kept chickening out and getting the opinions of my friends/parents who said not to :S and now because Ive been thinking about it too much/heard what his sister has said its putting me off 
I mean I do love him and would love to get back together…but at the same time I want to make him work for it a little bit. And he must be still feeling something a month later - hopefully :S ahhh its scary