I think it may depend what sort of vibe you get from her as to whether that is a good idea or not. You don’t want to run the risk of scaring her off, or coming on too strong at this point. But at the same time if it is something she will like then it is a good idea 
i think you are in a good position right now.maybe you can go from her work by “accident” and offer yourself to bring her at her home.or do what your instict and heart tells you…its thought…
The only thing in worried about really is if she will have an idea that she is having the benefits of a relationship while not being in one sort of thing :\ I’m just driving home now and I will read your story @geodj
I see what you mean. She’s getting all the good from you without having to commit to that relationship once again!
Exactly! I haven’t given any lifts since or anything like that, but lately she is often on facebook saying how she has to walk to work… And that its a pain getting from here and there, then she has to catch busses back and forth on a Tuesday. So she clearly misses the lifts, but being as its a nice day and she has been quiet the past 3 days with texting… I dunno
Hey Thargus
did you pick her up from work?
nope, she finishes at 5:30 so she still there 
everything happens for a reason.
dont worry.maybe catch up with her very soon with better conditions.
i don’t think i will go pick her up, she hasn’t contacted for a few days and i think it would just seem weird to turn up randomly to go get her. the reason i thought of it is that every Tuesday i would take her and pick her up from work see. due to the journey would be awful if she made her own way
i understand.even though i think you are in good position.if you have the time and the kidness maybe you can read my two links above and give an opinion or an advice.thank you in advanced…
yes of course i have time to now that i am home! and do you think i am over thinking that situation? maybe i should text and see if she would like a lift… but its just me being nice that’s all. i know that if i did that her sister and her sisters fiance would ask me why and moan about that but… damnit lol.
I think you should leave it. You don’t want to be in the situation where she might start taking advantage of your good nature. She knows that you are a good person, which is probably why all the statuses are coming up about having to walk to work etc in the hope that she can get lifts from you.
If she has been quiet over the last few days especially I wouldn’t do it.
but obviously the choice is yours
i think you are definitely right… i will leave her to message me when she feels, this is just an odd situation! and a learning curve at the same time as this was my first very serious relationship too. thank you
As much as we are wanting to and waiting to reach out, you have done the first bit. And that worked well for you. From reading your posts, it all sounds like a very positive situation. It is progressing and sounds like it is heading somewhere good again. Just take it slowly and take your time. You don’t want to undo any of your hard work so far
its nice to be able to have so many peoples opinions! im reading through some things people have asked me now so i can reply in some thought for them
Hello! I disappeared for a bit today - was going to contact my ex but found out hes on a work trip with his work buddies …so think Im going to wait until hes lonely in the evenings and not having fun 
However now I’ve got the worry that his feelings will go completely if I leave it any longer! surely after almost 3 years though feelings cant go after 35 days :S having a bit of a worry - day 35 of no contact though, am pretty proud at that! 
He won’t… I am kind of worried because I will do no contact now after two months and a half… and we were together for 5 months… bah
ahh I hope so! its worrying me that he hasnt contacted me at all, i thought he would have to be honest 
nooo it will be fine! to be fair I feel LOADS better after this whole no contact thing - I didnt think it would work but its the best thing I could have done, as I now feel when I speak to him I won’t come across as needy and still desperately missing him terribly! He comes back tomorrow evening so am going to contact around 4:30 ish, so that it doesnt look as though I’ve waited until hes finished work at 5.
However, I’ll let you know if I get a reply…my chest is pounding just thinking about it!
ehehe. I always tried to contact mine in the morning or around lunch. Not sure why to be honest. I guess maybe cause I know how stressed he always is at work so I would try to send him a really positive text so that my text is like so good in the middle of all the stress xD But it would make me really happy that he answered as soon as he had time. Like he didn’t answered right away but still he didn’t forget to do so the other day he even said he was gonna contact me the next day and he only did it after midnight and said oh sorry I am late xD I really like that even after a whole day (and he is a busy person) he didn’t forget to call
Think i might drop her a text asking why shea been so quiet and if shea alright. I will post my thoughts on your links also in just a moment