my dear, texting him is not gonna help in my situation right now. but I hope it does in yours. its a beautiful day outside. if I didnt screw up I would be with him now riding a motorcycle going to his house in a small town with amazing nature to celebrate his birthday with all of his friends. I hate my life, why argh
I think I’m going to wait until the third time we go out together before I say anything. We are going bowling for my cousins birthday on the 22nd and me and my ex will both be there, then on the 26th we will be going yo the show. But I don’t know how to engage the conversation…
Amy it is so scary. i couldn’t agree more. im trying my best not to make it seem needy at all, we will sew what happens and i will keep you up to date! but you must keep me up to date too! keep posting here. it makes people feel better 
and Kaila you shouldn’t feel like that. don’t hate your life, if you do then people will see that and especially him. if you be confident in yourself he will see it and notice it i GUARANTEE. this will make a big impact.
You are right… Thank you. I am so stressed out and affraid. Our mutual friend probably already talked with him and she has come to facebook already. She did say we would talk about it monday but I don’t know if it was positive maybe she would have said soemthing already? I am so affraid she will say he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore
Awww no Kaila I’m sure that isn’t true-if he really loved you feelings wouldn’t just vanish
And thanks thargus!! I’m plannig on texting him later this afternoon…
Big question though!! If he replies, how long shall I wait to reply?! He’s always been VERY slow at replying, like literally 2/3 hours between each text - as that’s how it’s always been! I didn’t know whether to wait a while if he does reply as I don’t want to seem too needy/keen :S
Amy I really hope so… but last time I was with him, a week ago almost, he seemed off.
I would say it depends on the time. Were you supposed to be doing something? If so text whenever you are free. If not text after half an hour or so. If you would usually take hours take hours. Don’t make it seem like you are playing games.
Sometimes I take hours to answer because I don’t feel like answering right away. I want to calm down an unwind because most likely I have been stressing out if he will answer or not so when he does I just need to unwind
Hi guys could u possible give me some insite on my post pls
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/should-i-break-no-contact-2/page/2/
Just wait for his reply Amy trust me. Even if its a few days. The ball is in his court then you will only seem needy if you send a second text no matter what it is, its very obvious and easy to work out when someone is trying to get your attention! You can do this
And yes of course rusty! I will give you some advice once if read through it also could you check out mine? Its on my other posts, but also could you give me an opinion in regards to my first post in this thread
So you don’t think I’m rushing into contact? Mum thinks that he should as he broke up with me 
Sounds like your doing everything right, play it cool don’t get too needy and I have no doubt you’ll be together soon. Did u do no contact and if so how long for? Seems like your on the right track. Like I said try and play it cool you don’t want to scare her off. I hope to be in your situation soon but first I need to finish no contact.
what my ex did was this during the no contact “i cant believe the beat us to it!” and something else too i cant remember. point im trying to make is that she didnt just say “hey”. she engaged into something we would have to talk about. so when you do dont just say hi or hey or how are you doing? relate to something, anything!. and just make sure you wait at least 30 days. it took me 30 days exactly but she text me once throughout, which was just what i said
okay. Well tomorrow its 33 days - I chickened out contacting him today in the end 
Im going to try again tomorrow and see if I can! I guess I’m just scared because he’s the one that broke up…i feel like he should contact first but he won’t - hes so stubborn!
Ive been getting job offers e.t.c though, so hoping that he’ll ask about that a bit!
my dear, don’t wait for him to contact. maybe he is waiting for you for some reason. well mine was the one to contact me the first couple of times but I never counted cause there were reasons for him to. but he didn’t have to he was basically making me a favor which was really nice I just hope all isn’t lost now that I jumped on talking about the relationship too soon
so tomorrow contact him. think of an excuse. or just try to catch up and go from there. use the plan
What kaila said just do it! And once you do, you will be way more confident. But don’t go overboard with texts! Just be cool.
Thargus you did well!!!hope i can keep up with NC.its difficult.
amy111 make the contact and inform us what happened.
i apreciate if you read my case a gave me an opinion or advice.
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/need-help-and-opinions/
and little more
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/thinking-stop-nc/
As soon as I get home from the gym I shall give this a read
I have a question though, do you think it would be a nice idea to surprise her by picking her up from work later on? Or would that be stupid and needy etc etc? Be honest!
Or should I text to ask if she would like one?