Yeah. One day at a time. It’s like NC is sometimes working against me. With every passing day, I miss more. This didnt happen last time I did NC. Maybe it’s because she says good night every night.
I hope we both get our exes back. But I hope mine is a better version of herself or else it wont last.
me too. i think my ex has always known in the back of his head he would need this time, so i hope if he really takes the time to explore other options and be away from me he can come back into the relationship with a lot more confidence.
do you think NC will make him miss me? i asked him not to reach out so I’m a little nervous hell forget about me and it will help him move on too
He wont forget about you! Lol Time from each other will make him miss you. So yeah.
Youll both move on in the sense youll know you will be okay without each other. You’ll decipher whether you feel like you need him vs feeling like you want him. Make sense?
i hope so! i really want him to miss me and want me back. how many NC periods have you completed/for how long? what happened when they were over?
Both NC periods lasted two weeks. Both times she missed me and wanted to work on our relationship but there were still raw emotions on my part. I couldn’t let things go. It drove her away. But it was easy to make her want to leave because she was still caught up on her rebound too.
So after a while, I was able to handle everything that happened and we spoke as friends for a good amount of time but I told her I needed space and time. Then she would get me to cave on my decision by sending voice mails saying sweet things and sincere apologies. Or sending texts. Such as nightly good night texts. She didnt send me one last night. A good indication she was with someone else. There’s other reasons I have to believe that but yeah…
She will continue to try and get me to cave. If I do, she will continue to believe I’ll always be here. And she will always think she can do whatever she wants to me and I’ll take it.
good for you for being strong 
my ex kept saying he didn’t want to lose contact and wanted to talk occasionally and see each other every few weeks so i was doing that for a while but i kept finding it hard so i think i should try NC and maybe he will realize i am serious about moving on. today willb e day 1 if i can stick to it…wish me luck
NC cant hurt in my opinion. He doesnt want a relationship anyway. It makes you sad. When he meets up with you after NC, youll be brand new to him. Hopefully. Good luck.
i hope so 
all of these things are so hard to figure out! what did your ex say to you after the NC periods you did?
She approached me to reconcile. Neither one of us were ready tho.
wow it really sounds like your ex is still so much more emotionally invested than mine! he seems happy and relieved actually to not be with me
He is probably relieved to not be putting on a show in terms of being with you and wanting a break. My ex was relieved and is very happy. Im relieved. I just want my ex to be relieved with me, in our new life together. Lol
me too! i just hope this doesnt go on for too long
already broke NC today…will start over the 30 days tomorrow. ugh. i don’t even think 30 days will be enough
Oh no, that’s terrible!
You gotta keep going strong! Have some faith!
! Lol youll get it!
i deleted him on snapchat last night and then he re added me today which is so unlike him bc i told him i was going to remove him and he’s been very respectful about not contacting me or giving me any false hope. he only responds when i reach out so i texted to ask if he added me…he said something was wrong with his snapchat…pretty much all that came out of the conversation
i will try again tomorrow
Go NC. If he isnt reaching out to you it’s because he wants that space. Give it to him. He wont disappear.
thanks for the encouragement…trying to get through 30 days
Im starting to become afraid. My ex hasnt texted or called. Im afraid she’s found someone she really likes and wont care for sure now.
maybe she was just getting frustrated you weren’t answering her texts? maybe instead of going 90 days you should contact her after 30 just to touch base? its such a delicate situation between giving space and not waiting around but also keeping the door and communication open for our exes to come back…unfortunately in both our situations i think the break ups were entirely due to our exes wanting to explore other options which just takes time. i feel like for me i am anticipating this lasting for a significant amount of time and probably will keep switching from nc to lc to talking. idk its really hard to find the right balance to navigate.
i think if i were you i would reach out again between 4-6 weeks just to touch base and let her know you’re not waiting around but do still think about her. just a thought. i really don’t know the best way to handle these situations. even if she does like this other guy for now, it probably won’t last. you have years and years of history with her. i think that is hard to give up personally