And I was already presented with a fishing question from her about who I went out with this weekend. Amd she failed to tell me she went out on a date saturday with the new guy. She avoided telling me about her saturday all together. So I worked my fishing question in,
“So what did you do saturday? You said you went all weekend non stop but didnt mention sat. Did you become a stripper? That’s hard work. No wonder why you’re so tired.”
She didn’t mention Sunday either but Im sure it will all be talked about later when she calls me. Im just curious why she avoided telling me about the rest of her weekend.
We have always been best friends. We didnt just get into a relationship. We built a friendship and eventually we became in love.
Being her best friend isnt the problem. And I believe im able to keep composure if her having relations with others comes up. Im taking tips from here n there to help me become prepared for that stuff.
just from a girls perspective, i think maybe she doesnt want to make you jealous and stop talking to her or maybe she thinks if you know she was on a date you might want to try to retaliate and go on one too…
Yeah. I did go for NC after she told me about her date. It’s very possible she is avoiding it because she is afraid I’ll stop talking to her again.
One of the first things she said two weeks ago was that she’s excited I am still talking to her. In the text today she said she is happy that I contacted her.
Ive stopped talking to her a couple of times so I know shes afraid. Now all I have to do is get her to miss me more than she likes this other guy. While im still in the picture.
sounds like you have a very good chance and she does not want to let go yet either. even sticking to those short periods of NC probably made her realize how much she misses you and with all your history, i think you’ll be able to attract her again. plus its already been 7 months. i read somewhere that for most successful reconciliations they should happen between 6 months-1 year
Ive also heard/read that a year is usually how long it takes to start reconciling in a way that lasts. And she even asked for a year to figure herself out but gave in to my requests for rekindling. But it didnt work. It was too soon. I do think I should date and date a lot before getting back together with her. I can see myself having regrets in that area if I dont. Ill look at it like “oh she dated and had sex with others and I never did. Fuck my life”
I do want to experiment with others as well. But I know she is the one for me. But she’s got a point. We have only ever experienced each other. We could be missing something. Idk.
sometimes i feel that a full year off would be too long for me… he told me his “gut” told him a few more months, but its impossible to say. since we broke up in september, I’m really hoping we can take some steps in the right direction around springtime. i don’t think he is interested in other serious relationships, just wants to be with friends and go out and meet other girls/casually date and just live life single.
i have been on some casual dates as well. while it helps sometimes to know that i am still attractive to other guys, it honestly usually leaves me feeling empty. i still deep down feel he is the one for me, but am open to going on dates as it is a nice distraction and kills time, but i don’t feel the need to pursue anyone further because i really believe that he’s the one. i think he feels the same way but because he feels like that he thinks we have our whole lives to be together so some time apart and some space to be with other people is healthy. i just feel like time is passing so slowly…
Hang in there. I have faith in you amd him getting back together. He has a point. My therapist even said that my ex and I should take a break if we cant reconcile right now to find variety and date. So I dont think it’s all that bad. Whats bad is if she falls for someone else and im still in love!
i do have faith that he will be back as long as i give him the time and space he needs to come back on his own. i plan to check in occasionally just to let him know i am still here for him but ultimately i want him to come back on his own. we really did have a special relationship, so I’m pretty confident that he will have a hard time finding someone else and falling in love especially because he wants to be single right now. I’m just hoping he’ll soon realize he doesnt want the single life anymore and our relationship is more rewarding! i want him to miss me though. I’m just not sure how long it will take him…
What does LC mean guys? I think my ex will dissapear if I use the No Contact for too long. Our situation is a little bit special. He says he loves me and wants to be woth me, but he is struggling mentally after being really sick from cancer last year. We have been together for 2,5 years. Broke up 3 weeks ago tomorrow. If he is trying to contact me and I dont answer, he keeps calling and texting. Then I dont hear anything for days. I have contacted him twice. He is suppose to pick up som sweats he has here, but he has not been here yet. He told his parents a week before he broke up that I was the love of his life.
I need him to miss me, and find out that he really wants to be with me. I am not sure of which srategi to choose. Relationship rewind does not believe in No Contact for a long time period. What do you think guys?
LC means limited contact. i think in your position, you shouldn’t initiate contact with him, but you should respond and be friendly and supportive when he reaches out to you.
I agree that you should stay in contact. But don’t be needy. Space out your texts and phone calls. Make every convo interesting and make an excuse to go when the Congo is at its peak. Don’t be needy. Be understanding but don’t be a doormat.
Try to follow some techniques to attract my ex through texts and phone calls. Play it cool. Act upbeat and not bring up anything about the past or my feelings for her.