So, I was browsing the interweb looking for help on how to let go of a relationship (I honestly don’t know how, the last time I did, it wasn’t a serious relationship like the one I’m trying to get back). I came upon an article on how to make your ex regret leaving you, it gave me more hope:
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I know it’s not what I was looking for (I’m still searching), but I thought I’d share it with all of you. I know some of you are struggling, and when I read this, it made me feel hopeful…and kind of boosted my newly found confidence some more
Hey i understand how you must be feeling but i want to say something .
Dont get me wrong but no website can help anyone to get over a relationship.
Its only YOU who can let go of it.
Why dont you tell yourself that there’s nothing you can do about it. You tried your best but its not working.
If its meant to be then it will be. You dont stop living your life because of someone. I know these things are easy to say. But you have to do it. Go on dates, meet new people. Dress up and look your best. Start living for yourself and i am sure you’ll meet the perfect partner who actually deserves you and will keep you happy:)
I’m trying to let go of it…I just found that and I saw it rather helpful. I’ve already done stuff for me and I’m still stuff for me. I was a complete before and after my break up, but I’ve got myself back together now and better
I know my next step is to let go, and letting go will help get him back. I’ve done NC several times. I am back to person I used to be, and that makes me feel amazing and happy. I’ve worked hard to get my life back, now I just want my boyfriend back. And I have to let go in order for that. But I’m having trouble doing that
its a slow process to let go. even 3.5 months later some days I’ve accepted he’s gone and I’m ok with it and the next day i can’t imagine hell never be back and I’m a wreck. its also particularly hard for me to let go because my ex has told me repeatedly its not the end and he will be back. the best advice i have is to take things one day at a time. you will let go a little more and more naturally everyday you stay in nc. but as far as I’ve found, theres no way to just “let go”. letting go for me means staying in nc indefinitely and using the law of attraction and if my ex is meant to enter back into my life he will reach out and if not its because the universe has a better plan for me! sometimes you have to just trust that things will fall into place and work out the way they are supposed to without taking any action
I guess it’s not that easy as I thought. But the last time I let go of a relationship, it wasn’t a serious relationship, this was. I’m trying to use the LOA and get him to come back. It doesn’t make sense writing it out, but it’s all in my head
@atea1234 I just hope I’ve done everything right so far. He still snapchats me everyday, even though he works a lot more now. It makes me feel like he thinks about me still, which he probably does
I’m trying to stop thinking about him, dreaming about him and all that. When I get home later, I’m going to write down the stuff I need to do. I just hope all of this attracts him back and he sees that I’m that silly person he fell so deeply in love with again and better. I just have to not show that I care. I’m still replying to his snapchats, but only so it won’t look like I’m a bitch. I’m only a bitch when I need to be lol
I don’t think there’s a way to do everything “right”. I think all you can do is get yourself back and hope you will attract back your ex after that. Ideally though during nc you’ll let it go enough so that you’ll be happy either way with getting him back or not. You need to get to a point of wanting him but not needing him
I do want him back…I’m just confused on how now. I have myself back together, I have my best friend back, and I wrote down mt accomplishments and things I still want to work on. It’s like now I’m at a stand still, what do you think?
I’d say continue to be patient. You’re only at a stand still in your mind. Look how far you’ve come already. The more you focus on yourself, the great things in your life, and focus on wanting a happy, healthy relationship, LOA should work out on its own in some way. I’ve been reading up on that too!
I waited 2 years for a shot at dating my now ex, and I have never regretted it. Patience pays off in abundance.
I think he’s depressed again, he put a story on snapchat saying “the ship is sinking and I’m tied to the mast”…I just can’t help but worry… I hope he’ll be alright. I know how he is when he’s sad, depressed or angry. I used to be the only person to bring a smile to his face when that happened, I used to be the light in his darkness…
I suggest removing him as a friend on snap chat. It’s clouding you right now and you’re using it as a safety net and an outlet to talk to him/try to understand what he’s thinking. He hasn’t asked you for any help or told you he’s depressed. I would delete him off snapchat and try your hardest to avoid worrying about what he’s thinking and focus only on your thoughts. Only then will you be able to let go
I must be over thinking today. I just cried that the fact that we will be broken up for 3 months soon…I feel like I don’t have much time left. I need to stop thinking about him. And I just know he’s depressed or sad. I can tell just by what he said, I know how he is…most of the time.
I hope he’ll be alright. I know how he is when he’s sad, depressed or angry. I used to be the only person to bring a smile to his face when that happened, I used to be the light in his darkness…