My ex came over yesterday. We agreed that we’d provide closure for each other and talk about a few things. Prior to this meeting I broke every rule possible of post- break up. I called her, texted her, cried over her, told her that I love her and I’d change; I even went as far as showing up at her house. But after yesterday I felt like I was the one who did the breaking up.
I was aware that she was talking and hanging out with someone new prior to this meet up, and I had no preconceived notion that they had done much other than, well, hangout. Although I was aware of this I continued to question her about their growing relationship. Her reply " Hahahaha we’re just friends. But if I want to sleep with him, I can." Which she could, because she broke up with me. But me being human and having any once of emotion, I continued to press the issue and she finally texted me " I want to be with him". I went to her house as fast as I could to reclaim the items that I bought her, because I felt like she no longer deserved them. But as soon as I walk through the door guess who I see sitting on her couch? Her new “friend”. I didn’t say a word, I just went to her room and tried to reclaim the items that she was no longer deserving of. She followed and would not let me take them. Keep in mind that we are in her room alone. She says as clear as possible " we are just friends, he knows I love you." And I reply “Then tell him that you love me in front of him.” She wouldn’t do it and claimed I was acting crazy. This is how I knew there was something more going on, and this is the first sign I had that she was in a rebound relationship. She wouldn’t tell him that she loves me when I was present, and she also told me that she still loves me in a genuine tone.
Before I get into the most recent event of our post breakup relationship, I will provide my fellow heartbroken men / women with a little of background information as to why she broke up with me. Reason number one: I have broken up with her in the past due to us not getting along well. Reason number two: We were currently not getting along well. Reason number three: during the breakup that I initiated, I fornicated with a female ( which she holds against me to this day). And finally, reason number four: I was broke; I lacked transportation, a source of income, and and initiative.
NOW. In more current events; she came over my house yesterday because we planned to provide each other with closure and talk about what’s been going on in each others lives since the breakup. But what she had not known, is I did my research on how to handle break-ups (thank you Mr. Thompson). So, initially we talked about things in our personal life such as: family, money, work, everything besides our love life. She opened up first and began expressing how things were going bad for her. She hit a pot hole and had to buy new rims, she hasn’t been working much, and her relationship with her mother is unhealthy… After I became aware that thing weren’t going so good for her I capitalized! I let her know that I was contempt with my current situation. I got my first haircut in 8 months, I bought a car, I got a job that pays well, and I knew what I was going to do with my future. In reaction of me showing her that I am happy and doing well ever since the break-up, she cried. Yes, the roles had reversed. She cried and told me how bad she wished all of my success happened while we were together.
As our little meet up progressed, she began to inform me about her “friendship” with the guy I mentioned earlier. Whom she stated questions her about keeping in contact with me and made it clear that he’s be mad if he found out she was here. She told me that they kissed merely for the sake of a photo. Did I care? Not. At. All. She was surprised at my reaction as I told her that she could do whatever she wanted. Plus, I figured they had already had sex. I mean, if you’re meeting up with an attractive female everyday, in private, why pass up the opportunity? Am I right?.. But as I was saying; My lack of emotion to what she informed me of made her start wondering as to why I wasn’t mad/hurt. Because if this event had happened in the past I would have been furious. So, after she noticed that I wasn’t too worried about what she had been doing, she questioned my love life ever since the breakup. So of course, I lied (Thank you Kevin). I told her that I’ve received multiple messages from females who were aware of the break up. She didn’t take this well at all. She cried and became extremely angry. She repeatedly asked me “Who are they” “What are there names”“Do I know them”“Are they my friends”. I didn’t answer her questions. I calmly said “It doesn’t matter. I’m not doing anything.” And this enraged her even more. She expressed her fury by tearing my room apart, hitting me, crying, hurting herself, and trying to reclaim/destroy items that she bought for me as gifts. And before she left she said if I didn’t tell her who the females were than I would never hear from her again.
It’s been 24 hours since came over and went on a rampage about other females talking to me. Since then she has called me about 15 times (I didn’t answer), deleted most of our pictures from her instagram (there’s still about 6/7 of us left but there was a lot more), Called my mother (my mother told her I wasn’t around), and texted me 16 times (after the 10th text I simply responded by saying “what” and that alone). NOW at the moment I replied by saying “what” she posted a picture on instagram with her and the guy I brought up earlier. Her initial response to my text was “I wanted to apologize for hitting you I’m sorry”. I didn’t reply. The second text stated that she was upset and she wanted to be my friend, but she is done talking to me. I did not respond. Her third response was " I hope she makes you happy". I did not not respond. Her fourth response was her stating that she’ll be out of my life and she is sorry for hitting me. I still did not respond. Her fifth response was her questioning why she wasted her time texting me, and she stated that I am going back to my old ways. I did not reply. Her last response was"Go ahead and f@#& some little girl. I know you have already. Don’t worry about my life or the guy I’m with anymore just go be happy with those whores because you act like I’m nothing to you. Yeah, I’m gonna be happy with this guy so go have fun with that whore." That was the last text she sent me which was no less than a couple of hours ago. In the picture she posted he is holding her in his arms and the caption is “#1 in my heart”. Moments after that the guy Posted a picture of him kissing her and the caption is “Love this girl more than anything”. Remember, we broke up no more than a week and a half ago; it will be two weeks on Tuesday… And he said that he loves her more than anything.
I haven’t shown any activity on social networks and since yesterday after she went ballistic my only response was “what”. I hope that doesn’t break the rules of no contact. I haven’t seen her, haven’t posted anything, and I haven’t made her aware that I have seen the photos. I’m trying my best to stay away from anybody she knows and anything she can trace in order to see how I’m doing. Because I don’t want her to know I saw the photo, and I don’t care about it and I also want to wait until I have something to show for the amount of time we’ve broken up. Physical, financial, mental happiness; anything that will let her know that I’m just fine without her and she made a bad decision.
LADIES, men, and Kevin; please voice your opinion. Does he seem like a rebound? Is she using him to make me jealous? Is she just trying to get back at me for breaking up with her? Is she just giving me a taste of my own medicine? Is it petty and spiteful of her to bring the guy up just because I didn’t respond?
And if she’s only doing this for my attention how do I get her back the right way?
ALSO please voice any other opinion of what you think it may be. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this guys!
