Today marks my 3rd day of no contact. I have only replied to her once in this moment of no contact and I simply said "what". I'm still going through the no contact faze and she is currently publicizing her new relationship to the highest degree possible. 3 hours ago she tweeted "I just got my license, I'm getting a brand new phone, and I got a bad bi$@#" in reference to what her new boyfriend said. I wasn't aware that getting your license and a new phone was a big accomplishment, especially if you have no car to drive and no job to pay for it.
Also, if you haven't read the comments between myself and @ellie96 I'd suggest you do. I wrote a comment informing her of what my ex did last night.
Are you Portuguese or Brazilian? Also these are thing you could work on during no contact. All of these things are essential to not only the benefit of your relationship, but the stability of your life. I promise you if you get a car, a job, and become educated your confidence will sky rocket regardless of if he is with you or not. But don't do these things because you feel as if he will take you back, because if he doesn't you will no longer have motivation. Do these things because they well benefit your life at the moment and in the future.
Ahhh sorry TJ I thought I read somewhere you had done a month of no contact already! If you are only in day 3 then I think you need to keep going. If at the very least for a week or so until she calms down a little.
Kaila…just because you don’t have a job or feel established in your life doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of someone!! Or worthy of happiness. We date people for the person not what they do or how much money they have so don’t let that make you think you aren’t worthy of him. It’s really dangerous to think like that.
@TJ I am portuguese. What about you, where are you from?
Yes, I know. Actually… when we started dating, it was almost my third year of being single, and I wanted three more years. I just wanted to be free to live my life, travel wherever I wanted, even live abroad for some time. But the problem was if I did that, when was I going to progress in my education?! Also, I was getting worried because most of the good guys seemed to be taken for good. By my late twenties I would have the scraps?!
So, when we started dating, I was in conflict with myself over that. But with time, and now that I am single again (it even hurts to say it), I completely changed. Now I just want to focus on growing, on my studies, on having a job, and yes, a car. My insecurities and lack of trust in myself, have even made driving hard for me. I just don’t trust myself enough. But I decided I am going to get a car and drive. Hopefully within a year at most. I have even requested for an appointment with a psychologist. But I am still waiting for it 2 months later. I hope that helps me overcome a lot of my issues that I know half of them come from my childhood.
Thank you again for your help and support. I have no doubt things will work out for you and if they don’t it will be because you changed your mind, not because she won’t see your value and come back. I wish I could be as sure as that for myself
Jen8720
The problem now is that she is in a relationship with the guy, but I don't know what to do after 3o days of no contact. Although I'm doing substantially greater than I was when I was with her, I want to know if my success will be enough to make her leave this guy and come back. Also, I was her first and it bothers me to see her open up to this guy immediately after our break up. But I have not let her know of what I been up to since the I've started no contact. She has not heard from me.
He is so humble of a man, I know he worried about me having such an uncertain future, because he shared that with me. But at the same time, he loved me for me. And he always said that he liked the way I talked about what I wanted/was going to do, but that I wasn’t moving towards my goals.
So as soon as we broke up, I started doing what I wanted right away. One of them was to start going to the gym 
and although half of the reason is I want to show him my true worth, I am really excited to do this for myself. When we had the talk about breaking up, I felt peace. Like life has shown me what I wanted, and where I needed to be. And now I was having this opportunity to focus on myself, to be who I want to be. And that in time we would get back hopefully. And I want to get going with that.
Thank you again @Jen8720 I won’t talk about myself anymore in this thread, I don’t want to shift the focus from @TJ sorry TJ!
Yes but if he is a rebound which we all know he is then this thing will be short lived. She is doing it to make you jealous because she is angry. Once the anger goes away all she is likely to feel is a sense of loss. She will start to think this new isn’t what she wants and that she misses you. But that will take time. At the moment she’s trying really hard to make you jealous and I think she will do that for a good while yet. When she realises it’s not working-it doesn’t seem to be making you jealous then she will probably just give up with him. I tried to date after breaking up with someone just because I felt angry and thought I’ll show him ive moved on…after chatting to guys and arranging a dates eventually I thought no I can’t do this anymore…it just makes me miss my ex even more. So just give it some time I think! I think the no contact will do you both the world of good. Get a better perspective on your situation.
Sorry I didn't tag you in my last post
Oi! Sorry I'm not Portuguese but I do understand a large amount of the language. And also to boost your confidence, you are foreign! Men think that is so attractive, use that to your advantage.
Ehehehe
Here we don’t use Oi that much. Brazilians do. And yes I am a foreigner, but not here 
I am in my country of origin. Ahah. Anyway I don’t want to attract guys. I wan’t my guy and can’t think of being with another now
@michaelt84 @manishx @ellie96 @Jen8720 @kaila
She just called me 47 minutes ago. I didn't answer, of course. She texted me 12 minutes after that saying "Can you please talk to for like 2 minutes please. That's all I'm asking for and I'll leave you be". I didnt't reply to her first text so she sent one 2 minutes afterwords saying "You know I love you. Please. We need one another". I haven't replied to her at all. Keep in mind that she is in a new relationship and she made it clear that her new significant other does not want her contacting me. She also tweets obnoxiously about their relationship. But I have shown no signs of being on social media in 5 days.
She is so desperate. I am jealous 
now I am worried he doesn’t really care or love me cause he makes no effort whatsoever for me bah
@TJ I hope you don’t think that I am obsessed with myself or anything! I don’t think I am all that but I am building my confidence so my self esteem is higher. I don’t think I am the most beautiful thing in the world!!! Haha!! I am just relaying what everyone else says. I do agree that I am a little out of his league (not on the looks so much) because of our morals, standards, and expectations. I am very high in everything. High moral, high standards, high class, high expectations, high responsibility, high everything! Haha! I just hope someone sees my qualities. Before I would have thought I would die alone and that I would only love him, but I have learned more from that and I know that I will find someone else. My chances of upgrading (hate that term) are high and his aren’t (again not being conceited). You would just have to meet both of us to understand!! I feel like I sound awful 
@TJ I have a question just for a guy response! Haha! Normally when a couple breaks up guys tend to just go for any girl. My ex attracts very low standard girls and that is what he goes after.
Everyone I know that has some sort of class to them is even like “how does he even get girls attention or how did he even get you? he is definitely not all that” All of his exes or girls he hooked with up before me were either trashy, disrespectful, or had no plans for their future. I am the first girl he has ever been with who sets their goals high and fights for them.
So why is he going for girls below me? His boss is a manager at a gas station who obviously has no morals or respect. All of these other girls he mentions (maybe not names) but I have heard aren’t all that or don’t compare to me or even trashy! Like I said, he said he hasn’t found anyone to compare to me because I am different!
Why are all of these girls worth his time and why am I apparently not good enough?
@kaila Guys handle the situations differently. Trust me, he is thinking of you and you can get him jealous real quickly! Girl, you are good to go!
Wow how can she be saying all this when is with that other guy??? The no contact is supposed to be a time for you guys to have time out and Get rid of any negative thoughts about the relationship, work on yourself, make some positive changes. So although it seems she is now initiating contact I would still give it a little while before you reply. It sounds like she needs to work on some of her issues! I think she needs the time more than you.
@TJ: ohmy god what a situation! I think that you did very well the time she cae to ur house! it is making her question how could u forget about her so much and such. she also tries to make u jealous and maybe is half way rebounding but after what ive read that she called you and such i think you should keep it cool. maybe answer her phone call every now and then and respond to a text message(depends on how long u have done NC?), and be friendly but polite and keep the conversation short and interesting so she has something to think about (you) when you finish. 3 minutes of talk is enough and you have to end the conversation. and definetly it is not the right time to reconcile or talk about trying to work things out cause here is too much rage and aanger and stress going on … I dont know, this is just my oppinion.If you want to hurt her, then probably yes dont respond to calls and texts, if u want her to think of you and miss you IN A POSITIVE WAY, maybe every few days if she writes and calls u can pick up the phne and have a short official conversation.
But this is just my oppinion and my advice, i am no expert. Good luck!