I broke up with my ex around 2 weeks ago, he has reached out twice saying he messed up then backed out saying he doesn’t know what he wants.
He’s met someone else but doesn’t think he’ll start seeing them. Says he misses me but doesn’t want me but hopefully we will get to try again in the future.
I really want him back. Is it too late?
He’s confused about what he wants. You can’t make him want you. Do no contact for at least 2 months and then maybe contact him to see how he’s doing.
So shall I just hope he misses me enough during NC?
Should I be the one to initiate contact or wait for him to? Gahhh hate this so much just wanna go back 2 months where everything was perfect
We broke up cos we argued so much and it had gone shit
@mariahbalenciaga - You wrote:“He’s met someone else but doesn’t think he’ll start seeing them.” Nobody can know if he will miss you or not! He might start seeing the other girl. No way to know for sure one way or the other. I can tell you that arguing is one of the top reasons that relationships end. In a loving relationship, both people treat each other with respect and find ways to calmly discuss differences if it’s necessary to talk through those things in order to resolve important issues.
He’s the one who broke up with you, so he should be the one to initiate a contact. But since he’s so confused about the situation, if you wait a couple of months, I think it would be okay to send a short note to ask how he’s doing.
How long were you together? Was he a good boyfriend?
A while, and kind of, not really haha but to me he was.
I did so much for him. Helped him with everything and I just wanted to make him happy
He broke up with me and told me not to interfere in his life.
@mariahbalenciaga - You didn’t say how long you were together. “A while” doesn’t state how long… And you didn’t explain in a coherent way whether or not he was a good boyfriend.
You didn’t write out the reasons he broke up with you. But if you were the one starting arguments, that alone could be the reason. Guys HATE arguments! They want a girlfriend who is happy and easy to get along with… It’s nice you did things for him, but what did he do for you?
WOW, telling you not to interfere in his life sounds definite and final.
I’m not sure if this will work out in your favor, but wishing you luck…
Yeah he’s weird. But then in the same breath he tells me hopefully we’ll sort it and he misses me (but doesn’t want me) and doesn’t know if he’ll want me again. Can just hope
He wasn’t a good boyfriend really. How could he be when he already met someone whilst with me. We got together in January. Quickly after he’d broke up with his last girlfriend. I hold hope out because he reconciled with her and I’m hoping I get the same treatment.
I hope he realises he lost a good thing in me, the stuff I did for him was wife material.
He broke up with me cos we’ve been arguing, said things had been shit for a while, we both started arguments.
He did nothing for me.
He also gave me the it’s not cos of me it’s him
I’ll wait a couple months and just say hi if I’m still wanting him back. Thanks for advice
@mariahbalenciaga - I don’t understand why you would want a guy who cheats on you and says he doesn’t want you. Missing someone doesn’t mean there should be a reconciliation if it’s not in the best interest of both. He’s confused and it’s not kind to give you conflicting statements. He told you not to interfere in his life, so don’t! Maybe you should think about moving on and trying to find a nice guy who would treat you well. That would give as much as you do to a relationship etc…
Don’t contact him at all. You deserve better! Good luck.
He messaged me again today for money. And asked 3 times if I’m ok.
@mariahbalenciaga - He wants you to give him money? Don’t do it and dump the loser.
So what if he asked 3 times if you’re okay … it means nothing. He just wants money.
Some insight after work.
My time with him was a taster of what my future would be like
I’d never trust him again
And I’d never have any money
I bought myself something cute today for the first time since I’d met him.
I don’t want him back. I’m just lonely.
@mariahbalenciaga - I’m so sorry you’re sad and lonely, but you are better off without him. Someday you will meet a wonderful guy who loves you and treats you like an angel. Try to meet guys through church or maybe a dating site. And be very careful by observing their words and actions over time. Don’t jump into another relationship until you’re very sure the guy would make a great boyfriend!
I’m glad you bought something for yourself today!! It can pick up your mood away from the loser guy. Spend time with family and nice friends too. I wish you the very best of everything…
Thank you patricia. You’re a lovely person
Maria Im sorry to say this but you were his rebound. He didn’t break it off because of argument he did because hes still inlove with his ex. Right now he is not emotionally stable for another relationship. My advice is to let it go because it wasn’t yours in the first place. In the future do not date guys who just broke up and are heartbroken. Even if they tell you they are ok. They are truly not ok. I wish you good luck in your life. You sound so young with a future ahead. Hugs!
we didn’t set out to be together. Him and his ex don’t get on. We were orginally sleeping together then it progressed