Amy, how are you doing with your ex now?
How is your situation missnouk
Well I’m still sticking to the NC, although I’ve seen him accidentally on the 9th of this month, so I had to talk to him. But it was just an ordinary talk, nothing special and it wasn’t long at all.
Now at the moment he is celebrating his birthday at home together with his (our) friends. He invited me though, but I didn’t go. It doesn’t feel right to go at all, even if I would stop NC. But a good friend of mine, and also a neighbor of my ex, is there and said that he asked her how I’m doing. Sadly that conversation was just that, because he had to help his mother. Too bad… I wanted to know how he feels, how he thinks about me now and if he still has made the right choice.
I said to my friend that she can lead on the conversation if the moment is right, so I hope I’ll get more information. 
And your situation Kaila? You still were doing NC right?
Well. Mine did that last weekend. And actually my friend ended up talking to him as well. You probably have seen that. But he didn’t invite me though. And he thanked my friend for telling him her perspective on things. That I am making a big effort to change and all that. But that it doesn’t change the fact that we doesn’t feel ready. That we can get back but he doesn’t feel ready now.
So yes, I am in no contact. It’s day 10. I am a bit sad. A friend of mine is causing too much stress and drama with me and I just want him by my side. I don’t need these stressful people in my life. Honestly I just need him and 2 or 3 friends and I am set. I loved my life with him so much. Why do I have to go thru this 
bah
Let us know what she says
But then there’s some kind of hope, right? If he said that he isn’t ready YET, but maybe in the near future, then you have a small chance of getting back togethe. Although you can’t hold on to that.
I just don’t know if he wants to, ever. And somewhere… I’m fine with that if he doesn’t want to. But what I really really want, is that he stays in my life forever. Hopefully as my true love, and otherwise ad my best friend. I think you want the same.
Horrible isn’t it, that when you’re feeling sad and you need him, but he can’t be with you… I’ve been through the same situation.
One week after the breakup, my grandmother had a surgery and it wasn’t sure if she would survive. At that moment I needed him SO badly… And although he said he could support me and be with me if I wanted to, it wouldn’t be the same. I wanted to cry with him, holding each other. But that was over. So I didn’t call him at all that day. Everything is fine now with my grandma though.
Oh I will!
Now that I am feeling this, I want to keep him in my life even more. That way as a friend, I could talk to him now about it… We will see what happens and if anything I will have to move on keep him as friend. And I hope he is open to that at least.
You were so strong! It’s the first time something bad happened that isn’t related to him and I had a solid minute that I was thinking of reaching out. I thought good here I am going to break no contact. But maybe he would want to protect me and come closer? x) And he knows that friend so I am even more fearful she willl talk crap about me. I am sure she won’t tell anyone to read my messages (she has done that when she would have a fight with a friend of hers in the past and show me their messages). Cause I was totally polite.
I can’t think of us not getting back to be honest. But right now my brain is hurting and my anxiety is kicking in so nevermind x)
I feel you are very strong though. I can’t be away from this site an entire day anymore. Also I am trying to spare my friends. Lol
Hmm I think you should wait a little longer before talking to him about that. I will do that too, but I really want to wait one month or something. First I was afraid that it would be too long, but my ex knows that I need my time to heal. And I already feel improvement.
Although I’m still thinking about him every day, the feeling of wanting to be with him begins slowly to fade. So I’m really curious how I feel about that after one month.
Yeah I thought so too, that he would come closer to me. But if a breakup is just so fresh, then they won’t in my opinion… You need to make him miss you really bad. And I think the only way to do so is don’t make any contact for a while.
Well, your friend could indeed talking crap about you to your ex, but he is the one who really knows you, right? So in the end, he decided to believe all this crap or not. I’ve also some friend who do this, though I don’t know if they’re gossiping about me with my ex. But if he really wants to know if things are true or not, then he will ask me myself. I bet yours will do too!
Well, I first couldn’t be away from this site either. It really helps to give other people advice and receive it as well. But beside that, I’m focusing on improving myself, to make me feel better. I’m working out now in the gym to hopefully get the perfect body and today I will have a manicure with a good friend. Not only for myself but also in an attempt to seduce my ex when we see each other again! grin You never know!
I feel exactly the same way with mine. After reading these two comments, I can definately relate! After 5 weeks of NC I’ve realised that although he might not want to be in a relationship with me (at the moment or whatever i going through his mind) I still desperately want him in my life - he’s my soul mate!
In reply - my progress hasnt grown with my ex - however it has with myself! He’s been visiting his friends at different universities the past few weekends, and I can guarantee he has probably kissed a few other girls, if not slept with them…which makes me feel really sick, but at the same time I know that he’s getting it out of his system and because I havent done anything or spoken to him to make him dislike me or say im trying to get him back, he will hopwfully one day realise what he’s lost in me! I do still love and miss him terribly…
But I can completely agree - even if we dont get back together straight away i want him in my life as my soul mate and my best friend I was going to try contact him this weekend but am still too scared to! 
Also sounds positive about your ex… YET is always a good word to hear! 
Ohh that must be terrible to know that the love of your life is being with other girls and being intimate with them…! I think my ex hasn’t kissed anyone else, because he doesn’t want to kiss with random girls AND out of respect for me. He rather wants to wait a few weeks before moving on with someone else.
But maybe it’s also good for him to do that (although it could have consequences of course), so that he could compare other girls with you. And THEN he will know what he has let go!
Yeah its horrible to think it, because at the moment I cant think of anything worse than kissing someone else! I’m not sure whether he definately has or not…but I know its something he wouldnt not do I know his friends send each other snapchats of girls bedrooms that they’re about to sleep with saying stuff like “score” and “getting ready ;)” which is really disgusting (his friends used to send it to him when he was with me and we used to open them and laugh) but now I worry that maybe he saw them and maybe thought I wish I was doing that kind of thing
Yeah, thats what I’m hoping! :S I would hope he would have a bit more respect for me , and himself to not do that…but at the same time, I thought he cared about me enough that he would have contacted me by now Who knows what goes on in a boys head (particularly his :/)
After a while I starting thinking if has really said the word yet or not. But I think he did to me. Not sure if he did to her or not x)
Oh amy you haven’t contacted him. I understand though. I think I will be very fearful like yourself in 2 weeks
@missnouk thank you for your words. And no I won’t be talking about staying friends for a long while. I don’t want him as a friend. I want a present and a future with him. I want us to be there for each other, go on our little adventures. To take care of him make him happy. I actually told him that a month ago when I was with him. x) He said I made him feel embarassed x) and started smiling eheh. It was so cute ahah. I just put my arm around him gave him a hug and said I want to do good to him and make him happy. This because he was saying that he feels good now that he can do whatever he wants. And quickly said he didn’t meant whoring around (the best expression I can think of to translate what he said xD ). I looked at him smiled and said I wasn’t even thinking of that
I know the worst part is I really want to! But at the same time I want to come off as a strong woman who is desirable (and almost unnatainable?) in a way so thT he thinks he can’t have me whenever he wants.
I do feel like a chicken though haha! All I want to do is have him back and hVe that amazing connection again, but am so scared tht contacting him will make me vulnerable to having my heart broken again and getting my hopes up
His sister said maybe I should try texting him tomorrow, but my mum says it should be him texting me first seeing as he ended it:/ I feel so stuck!
And Kaila that sounded really sweet what you said to miss nouk about that ex experience
I am talking to you both amy please don’t feel left out 
I just directly answered something she said in that post but I am talking to both of you
You know for me, I know this is bad and I am afraid of being heart broken all over again and maybe for good, but it’s a risk I am willing to take. I know in time I will get better. It will be very hard. But I will. I never was in this situation that I really want to get back and have hopes we can. I might have tried with other exes in the past but after a month or so I would just accept and try to move on.
I think if you don’t feel strong enough, maybe let some more time pass by. You know him and your situation much better. If you think another two weeks for example wouldn’t ruin everything, give yourself another two weeks. This isn’t just for your ex to be in the right time for you to get him back. It’s for you to heal and feel better about everything to the point you can handle things better
I only hope he didn’t feel embarrassed because he has been with some other girl and when I looked like that at him he felt embarrassed that I didnt think of it but he has done something. I feel its not the case or he would be quiet and try not to let me see through him. And I don’t think he would smile like that x) But yeah x)
Girls heres my kik account kailak19. That way we can distract each other and talk whenever we need, instead of thinking of them x)
Sorry for the late reply! Wow, so busy with school… But anyway, I told about a friend of mine who would maybe hear him out about me, but sadly, she didn’t got the chance to do it. Although my ex said to her that he didn’t really miss ME, but more someone around HIM. That was a pity to hear… I really hoped that he misses me, just a tiny little.
Next week there will be a local festival near my town and I will probably see my ex there. I’m going to put on sexy clothes that he mainly liked, I wonder what will happen. I won’t go approach him because of NC of course, but maybe he does… Oh, I’m nervous already!