hello i am in a state of dilema here . i was the reason my ex gf broke up with me because i did not give her space and we had lots of fight but the main reason was that she thought that i was into someone else. i mean she knew i was not but how that idea got into her mind i cried every inch of power in me to expalin her that it was not true.
so we went to holidays and she broke up during holidays i begged she refused and gave certain conditions that made me compromised.my dreams so i refused them . then we became friends but she again stopped talking because i was in the same coaching as that girl who my ex thot i liked. i had a crush on this girl but i told my ex that it was a crush and i was just giod friends with her.
then during holdidays i went into no contact but she contacted me and started fighting and i begged again then again no contact
then i wished ger on her bday she was happy then again no contact
finally holidays ended we met in college and she behaved like a girlfriend trying to know everything about me getring jelous wen i tlked.to girl she even said she loved me.
but suddenly stopped talking again now i hear she is talking to an old friend of her who is my cousin and a really bad guy.
we ignore each other wen we see each other in campus.
now i have my bday in two days she might call to wish.
what should i do i hav anxiety disorder i love her and she plays with my emotions. i know i was rong but humans make mistakes. what should i do ?
Start NC and continue it for 2 months.stop thinking about what she might be thinking/doing and don’t stalk her.
If you believe you have serious anxiety issue,get therapy.
Concentrate on your life and try to improve it.make positive changes in your life and always be happy,cool,positive and confident especially when she is around.
Follow the plan.it will increases your chances.
i have my bday in two days she will call at nite but i think i will not respond and instead dall in the morning with an excuse.
my problem is that is trusting the wrong people some days back she even gave me a call and said that she forgives me for both the mistakes i.e. not giving her space and givin someone else importance .
i was like ok nice bt where does that leve us…she was clear that eveything will remain the same even after she forgives me that day we went to a cmn frnd’s bday treat together and she behaved like a girlfriend the whole time.
now she is talking to the guy i dont want her to tlk to …hez not a good guy and he will only turn her against me.
Get your self busy.Don not stalk her on anything and don’t even look at her photos.don’t ask anyone anything about her.and get yourself busy.
Take up a hobby,do something you always wanted to do.
Are you sure you are following the NC the right way?
Read the article again and focus on what you should do during NC.do it and you will feel really better.
Sorry i read your post above.you just started NC.Do not answer if she calls.if she texts wait until the next morning and only say thanks.Don’t talk to her if you do,you can’t control your emotions and you should restart NC.
Happy early birthday,wish you all the best
we met today she took a small help n den on our ways…
later she met one of.my seniors at mall and they tlked about me.
she told no matter what she wont go back to me and then she told him that she had forgiven me and then because i went and talked to that girl whom i had a crush whom she thot i liked more …she knew we were in same summer course and i had to tlk to her regading studies and i honestly told her and asked her to frgv me…but that time she blocked me and since then we majorly tlked after vacations gt over…
she blames me.fr talking to her regarding studies and being honest to her and telling her everything…
but if she had decided that tym only why did she behaved like a gf wen we met in clg …why did she played with my emotions…
i m too heartbroken and angry on her…for doing this to me…
You haven’t even finished NC yet.be more patient and work on yourself.
Again,please don’t overanalyze what she says and what she does,did.you can’t get a logical answer out of it and it only stops you from doing NC the right way.
I told you before, don’t stalk her and don’t ask anyone anything about her.
If you really want her back,you should help yourself and become a happy confident person without her in your life.
Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.
we even came across each other …i was sitting with a frnd of mine (girl) outside the cafetaria in the college and i cud see she came to a far ditance where we both cud c each other but i didnt show her i was noticing she came towards me a bit then she went the other side then again she came towards me a bit then away…
even then she didnt wish me…my bday …
i wished her rite at the stroke of midnite and she was soo happy about it…and wat did she do?
