@JohnJ786 You have to ask yourself what type of woman wouldn’t be open and honest with her boyfriend James? It seems she’s messing with your emotions…
You’re still trying to analyze her every word and yet you still don’t know if she loves you or loves James.
Couple days ago, she texted me as she was crying sad as she had a fight w her dad and I called her and comforted her. Later that night, we had a long talk about our relationship and what happened after our relationship etc. it got very heavy
We both felt weird the next 2 days and she text me last night saying she feels uncomfortable being close friends with me and just wants to be friends, that we dont have to talk everyday etc.
I made her communicate with me and tell me why she feels uncomfortable so I can alleviate anything. I reassured her I have no hidden agenda and that I only see her as a friend. She said she feels uncomfortable and confused as she likes and wants to be close with me, but knows that her bf would not be happy with it and that she feels uncomfortable hiding it from him, but also feels uncomfortable telling him about it too due to the fact he would be upset.
I asked if he said he isnt happy with us being friends what she would do and she said repeatedly that she doesnt know what she would do in that situation but that she wants to make her relationship work and she doesnt want to be in a position where she is closer with me and talks to me (her ex) more than her boyfriend. I feel like I already tick those 2 boxes thats why she is concerned very much about it
We talked and I calmed her down, and she said she feels better. Next morning (so today) she text me saying sorry and that she doesn’t know what BS she was on last night. Convo has been dry as I’ve been busy studying and we havent spoken much since.
My friend said that she is only feeling uncomfortable because she DOES have deeper feelings for me, more than she would like to admit to herself, because if she only saw me as a friend then she wouldnt be so upset about it. My ex said that if I we never dated then she would have no issue with being close with me, as she was reminded of our “baggage” the other night or something…
But I think I agree with my friend that she is only feeling uncomfortable as she has feelings for me, while being with her current boyfriend…
She told me “Never ever underestimate your value in my life”
What do you think about this?
@JohnJ786 …OR she feels uncomfortable because she is texting with you more than her boyfriend and she feels guilty for not being honest with him.
You wrote:“I reassured her I have no hidden agenda and that I only see her as a friend”. We both know that’s a lie. Your agenda is to get her back and you want to be much more than friends.
Don’t initiate any texts and stop asking her how she feels!
The drama just keeps dragging on and on…
Ever since that talk (around 6 May?) she has texted me every single day at least once
She sent me a screenshot of a video of me that i sent her days ago, like a couple days after that talk
A couple days after, she said randomly “I can’t believe I’ve seen your penis” “that’s so weird”
Then I sent her a meme about performing oral with teeth and she laughed a lot and said she was about to send me that. I said I can’t believe I’ve seen her penis Then she said “mines prettier”
Few days later, she randomly asked me “do u think we were sexually attracted to each other” and was saying how we would have had to work on that part of our relationship due to our inexperience but agreed with me that we both knew what the other liked and did have sexual chemistry. She said she thinks we had great chemistry everywhere else but she doesn’t know about sexually. Not sure why she brought this up lol. But i think we got to an agreement that we were sexually attracted to each other but didnt get many opportunities to explore etc (though we did explore a little bit)
Then proceeding that, she said this the following days:
There was nothing ever since then, wchich was about 2-3 weeks ago. Then last night, we had a talk where she was basically saying how she wont be able to see me alone when she comes back as it would be inappropriate. She agreed it would be different between us as “I’ve always been yours” and that it would feel different. I said it was a bit sad as it felt like the girl I knew moved away forever when she left last October and she said that was sad too. She said that she would be okay with us hanging out with friends though. I have a friend who would always 3rd wheel w us and she said she would be okay with us hanging out that way and getting the odd coffee sometimes in college
I reallllyyy feel like once she sees me again that some of her feelings will spark back up for me as they always have. Only time will tell. Ive been trying to get closer to her recently but it hasnt really worked although we have texted at least once a day ever since that talk where she said she didnt want to talk everyday…
Ngl i have detached a little bit emotionally and its not been too difficult for me but I do miss being close to her and taking care of her etc so i will take things slow right now, i think time and space apart will help in us getting close again at some point!