my opinion hes being selfish. he should have thought of my youngest and not his selfishness and hes hurting all of us hes so selfish. 
and thanks sunshine for replying. I hate how all of this shit. he said today earlier that we need to plan this shit out I hate this why doesnt he come back? also he said that a party we could be together but other stuff no and he told my oldest its the way its gonna be for now on. this is bullshit. my youngest is hurting atm because she wanted us to celebrate today together. but she was happy before. im so stressed with this shit and I see no way in hell how this is ever going to fix itself out and funny thing is he knows about these people and how they treated me and he would avoid them before and now he turned into one of those types of people. shit. wtf. and my family the ones who agree that what they are doing is wrong which is a small part is saying that they are wrong and that they’ve told me and that I already knew about this going on. Im so hurt and confused and of course his mother is siding with him another laughing stalk. she said she loves him when she hung up. the fuck? ugh
his mothers a bitch. i feel like im going crazy. anyways she told my oldest to call her father when I got hysterical I feel like confronting her but its not a good idea. shes a bitch. idk what to do about all of this and no one knows what to tell me. she told him I follow her downstairs which I did and she said my name and said you scared me. and said my name for my husband to know I was there. who knows what they are telling eachother on the phone when they talk and of course shes a liar and just as bad as all of these stupid people. I wish I could move very far away but with this shit divorce going on I cant and on top of that after up to 52 miles only which aint fair. I would take my kids with me really far away and he can accuse me of kidnapping or whatever its is. I need to do me and my life. ugh
hey everyone supposedly he told his mother that if i had any questions or wanted to know anything to ask him. im so stressed. this stupid cousin is “nice” and thats what he liked her stupid ass would listen to him about “our” issues and this bitch said that if someone needs help shes going to “help” them and not turn her back to them but why didnt she “help” me her cousin instead? why am I losing my husband to this bitch. im so sad alone stressed overwhelm. he doesnt let me by him to create bliss moments. :‘( how will I ever get him back, this bitch is ocd so keeps everything really clean, which he likes, she also knows how to cook better then me, this bitch also makes and decorates cakes and cupcakes. she also buys expensive stuff and gifts expensive stuff. and is always calm and “nice” and listens to him. how can I compete with that bitch? im feel helpless and I want my husband back. her dad by the way works with witch craft. and theres this one guy I know as well whos does strong stuff and everything started getting bad since he came into our lives. she probably liked how my husband also was saying shit to her. they like how hes a hard worker. i helped him become who he is. i really want him back idk what to do. :’( anyone? i feel so desperate. thanks btw he doesnt even call or text me at all.
btw is my stupid cousin his rebound and he hers? Im scared this shit is getting very serious since hes hanging out at her brothers house. anyone. thanks
Wow … that’s a bad thing to hear 
I agree with duvjun … you have to do a strict NC and you have to find a job … and you have to prove that you have changed …
I hope you will get him soon … just don’t lose hope … and stay strong 
Guess what. My car won’t start a d I’m gonna have to call him. Fuck. Idk what else to do and I’m stranded in a park. To top things off I’m not sure how I’m gonna get my kids from school n take them to school this whole week. Fuck. Man I just heard this song he use to listen to a lot. What am I supposed to do. Can it get any worse? Any advice. Thanks
Can’t you call anyone else?
A friend or your sister or brother? !
And about the kids … you can tell his mother about this … and ask her to tell him that he has to take them to school and stuff … I mean they’re his kids too … don’t worry
I’m trying to call around and everyone is busy or doing something. Is it meant to see him. Also I was thinking and even if he is with her he’ll remember me. She may be shorter then him I’m taller she may have lighter eyes n hair then me but she will have similiraties that I’m sure he will have to find and remember me by right? I miss him.
You have to stop comparing yourself to her … you are still his first love and you are the 12 years love of his life "12 years … right? "… I don’t know if she is a rebound … but I think she may be … I know it’s hard for you … but just try not to contact him … ok?
Stay strong
If I can help it I’m not calling him. I’m trying to stay strong but its hard when all this shit is going on. :‘( man I can’t get a hold of anyone who can help me out ATM. Ugh wtf? Let’s see what happens. I’ll keep u updated lol can it get any worse.:’(
I know it’s hard … But we are all here for you …
but can’t you call a car repair company or something?
Or ask someone of they know anyone with a truck that can help you …
Waiting for your update …
and when you get home safe … can you plz give me your opinion on my situation! … it’s getting more complicated …
thanks mema for helping me through this. I called my nephew and he helped me. he tried to give me a boost but it didnt work so it may be the starter or the battery. so my nephew said to call him. I called him twice he didnt get the phone I texted him and then he called me. I asked him where was he at he said he went home because he wasnt feeling well and that where was my car at and I told him and he said Idk what to tell you maybe call the tow truck. so I said ok thanks bye hung up. so I called my insurance and asked if we had road side assistance and they said we did and I got the tow truck to go pick up the car and bring it to where I live, my nephew also took me to pick up my kids at school, so today thank God was taken care of. so Idk how my kids are going to go to school and get picked up and stuff. ugh im stressed. anyways as I was getting my oldest at school he calls and leaves me a voice mail saying I have an idea call me back before I go to the other job. I ignored him. then he called again and ignored it. and then he called again saying I’ve called and tried to help dont say I didnt try to help that he called me a few times, something like that to call the insurance we have roadside assistance and have them take the car to “Your” house and I’ll take a look at it later.(he used the word “your” again.) (im not sure where he really was at but I told my nephew hes probably in that bitches house and watch him call me back when he gets out of there) funny thing is he called me a few minutes later. ugh at least were home now but I need to see what in the world am I going to do about taking them to school this week and what in the world am i going to do about the car and kids. I wanna cry. my nephew told me I need to get control over my emotions which is true but I miss him so much, letting him go is one of the hardest thing I’ll ever have to do. :‘( I will never ever ever have him back in my life with me and this stupid bitch cousin doesnt give a shit about me but her stupid self. im so depressed. anyone? thanks :’(
im so hurt right now and I know I gotta do me and let him go but I feel like I cant. I want him so bad but feel like I need to let go like everyone is telling me as im only hurting myself, how could he do this to me with that bitch and how could he go to those peoples houses like that and how could he do this after 12 years with me. im crying right now. I wish there was hope to get him back but I have none. I will never ever ever have him back ever again and this really hurts me really bad. :‘( idk anymore. :’( I really hope everyone here gets their ex’s back.
Aamls … you have to stay strong … first … you need to calm down … you should know … that it’s normal to cry and feel sad and all … actually it’s healthy …
and about the emotions control … you can write in a journal what are you feeling …
And try next time not to talk to him … you have to do things without his help …
stay strong …
We are here with you
thanks mema hes the only person I could count on and now I see hes not even there for me, for some reason I feel that if I get my shit together he may reconsider. meaning a place a job my ged and maybe getting in school, idk I just have to let him be and show him I’ve changed I’ve kinda alrady started changing my way of dressing but I wanna continue to lose weight and do me but its so hard when hes all I want and need or should I say really want him. :‘( in reality does anyone giving me any hope of getting him back at all, Im guessing in the future right? I wish there was something I could do to stop the divorce. :’(
Just (think positive and positive things will happen)
Don’t ever give up … look … once I was with this guy … he broke up with me like 5 years ago saying I was not good enough for him … and now … when he contacted me … and saw how I become … he wants me back … I believed that this moment will come … and I never lost hope … that I’ll let him regret this sentence ( I mean this in a nice way )… and I did … After 2 years he came back … begging me to get him back … but i moved on and was happy with my recent ex … never lose hope … it’s never too late … whenever you are ready … he will see that … and he will be begging you to get him back
I wish, in between his fighting he said maybe in the future, idk funny thing is I hope I havent moved on by then or it doesnt take him that long to come back to me. I really miss him and love him but all I have in my head is him looking or having her nasty body in his head and him in hers. ugh and ewww.
man I wanna call him so bad to tell him that I love him and miss him so much and might end up making that mistake omg I dont want to do that im scared I may. crap that’ll backfire.
Look
… just focus on yourself … you’re not doing this for him … once you realise that you don’t need him … and you’re complete without him … you will be better … you’ll love yourself and believe that it’s his lost … and when you believe that … you will see him begging for you to take him back
I hope you’ll get a new job soon … and you can go to school again …
You can do it … keep your hopes up
thanks mema for all your encouragement for for being there with me today. I appreciate it. I hope he does. I wonder what his idea was when he called me. :-/ I feel like calling him and telling him I love him so much and miss him and leaving it at that but then I have to deal with him later on when it has to do with the car and kids apparently something is keeping me from doing no contact with him. maybe I should have called him when the car messed up. :-/ idk anymore