hey guys! maybe you could help me out too!? https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/rebound-or-no-2/
ifFy love sent the last 6 months flip-floping, deciding whether she loved me or not, it wasnt just a few weeks or a month before the break up. Opinions? Because I have to believe if she spent that kind of time not knowing if she really wanted to work it out or not that she came to her final conclusion.
BIG PROBLEM NOW.
prom and her birthday is next month and she still has this guy, what do I do?? Should I say happy birthday? Is she gona want to go to prom with me???
Bumppppppp
Bumpppppppppppp
Wish her happy birthday and NOTHING more IF she contacts you first, do NOT ask her to prom
We had so many plans for her birthday and she’s now going to do it with the new guy. This really upsets me.
I give up. Today I saw a picture of them two in a photo booth kissing and everything and being happy. Excuse my language my fuck this. I’ll just try to move on now. Thank you guys for the help.
I understand how you feel mate.
But listen: you HAVE to do NC. And that also means: no looking at FB page, no looking at pictures, no bumbing into them. You have to stay away from places you can run into them as much as possible. And if you do run into them, like you did at the photobooth, just hurry up snd move on.
I know it is hard now but it gets better.
I used this article when I was in the beginning of my break up. It explains the different stages of a break up that you and your ex goes through.
It gives you a better understanding of why you are hurting so much right now, and she doesnt:
Post break up stages
I’ve read the article and it seems like it pertains to relationship where there wasn’t any abusive or almost Barly any problem. In my case, we fought ALOT. abusive words in the last 2 months. I still feel lost and out of hope. There’s no point anymore.
Any last advices?
I’m kind of in the same boat as you! My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago! She broke up with me! She got with another guy about two weeks later but she never told me about it and I had to find out through her friends… Which really sucked! Then she texted me lastweek and said she really messed up and said she really loves me and all this stuff but she don’t want to get back with me? Then I go to the hospital with the stomach flu and she comes and visits me and she’s all over me and even kissed me which was like last Wednesday or something like that and then yesterday I find out she’s hanging out with him everyday and “he treats her like a queen and she’s happy with him and all this shit” what do you guys think I should do? She tells me she loves me and doesn’t want me to be with anybody else and all this but then I find out all this stuff? I’m so lost and really need help on this one! We were together for over three years!
Do no contact. It seems like she cares but she wants to take all your happiness away and not let you enjoy anything while she does. It’s messed up I know but don’t let it effect you, it shows she still has feelings but for now, do no contact until you see the real her because it can be her playing games. Your lucky because you have a disadvantage of being happy together and stuff but for me, me and her fought a lot so I doubt she’ll ever come back.
Trust me love is stronger than you think man! She calls me at 3 in the morning just to talk and comes to me for everything and we fought a lot too! Just change your ways and you will get her back! I’ll be with you every step of the way man! We are in this together! We cannot give up on our loved ones and we can not panic!
Thank you so much !
I’ve noticed that every passing day it gets easier and im happy, but I always see them kissing like a perfect couple and him giving her his sweater, is there any chance he can be the one for her? All the signs point to HES the one , especially since she already posted him on her tumblr with them having cute text messages such as " I want to sleep on your chest and forget about my problems" and she says how she loves that about him. She uses tumblr like if it’s her life so I’m pretty sure he can be the one.
I mean yeah I feel the same way! These two hangout everyday and everything but instead she hides it from me! But trust me they are just rebounds to fill the hole we left on them! She maybe happy right now but she will realize what she really wants! Just give it time man! It sucks I know it does cause I’m in the same situation but you gotta be strong!
In about 3 months or so the honeymoon stage of her relationship is going to fade (guaranteed, it happends in ALL relationships)
She will the question if this is the right relationship for her. She will look at you and compare her new guy to you.
This I can gurantee you!
What is going to happen after that is up to you my friend.
Do you want to improve so much, and become better boyfriend material, so that she cant stay away and want you back?
Or do you want her to think “Oh shit, I really made the right choice here”
The reason I am saying this is because it seems to me like all your energy is being focused on her and her new guy.
Foget about it. Use ALL your energy on YOU! Become the best boyfriend in the world! Every action from now on in your life, should be steps towards making you a better person. THAT is the key to getting them back, the NC is not the thing that brings them back.
Agree with CreeD 100%, women love confidence and independence and if you work on yourself then both of those will improve. Plus if after all the work you decide you do not want her back, which does happen, you will be in a great position to find a new girl. But obsessing over her and her new bf does more harm than good, trust me it will drive you crazy.