Hello everybody, here some info that could make you feel a little better and keep you motivated. You’re not alone, you may feel that your situation is the worstin the world, I felt the same way.I’ve been dumped by my ex-girlfriend a month ago from a 8 year and half relationship.I’ve been doing non contact since the second day of the break up. Until now I don’t know nothing from her.@LAbound like you, we’re “kind” each others first, she told me that she saw me like a friend and didn’t feel the passion, but still loved me.To keep it short she lost the attraction big time, I became more needy and insecure on the last year, it was a vicious cycle. When she break up with me I couldn’tbelieve I thought I was gonna die.I agree with you @LAboundwhen you say the advantage of being in a long relationship is that the bond is strong, for that I feel the non contact periodShould be longer.Anyway, I have the luck of having a very good friend which I talk a lot and helped me lift my confidence.Same as me he was dumped after 8 a year relationship (2 years ago). To make things worse there was some cheating involved in the final days of their relationship.In the first 3 days after the break up he only ate a small cheese sandwich (he was alone in another country) he cried like a baby and he told me that hewas so close to throw himself out of the window just to end his suffering.A week later with tears in his eyes he closed his fist and with all his rage he smacked againt the wall and he promised that he’ll become stronger and improve his life and make his ex regret the day she left him.Guess what, a year later she regretted big time, her life isn’t that great now, she dated a couple of assholes.On the other hand my friend has a excellent girlfriend which loves him deeply.His ex told him that it was all an illusion, she thought that it was for the best, I guess that the grass isn’t greener on the other side.My friend still admits that has feelings for her, but he would never hurt his current girlfriend going back with his ex. His goal was achieved, she regretted!Happened to another friend of mine too, dumped from a 7 year relationship, a year later she comes back crying. He told her the following:“A year ago I couldn’t imagine my life without you, now I can’t imagine my life with you!” She cried like a baby.What those two my friends had in common? They become a better man and became happy, their exes became re-attracted! Unfortunately for their exes they had really moved on.Back to me, I’m focusing in myself, I already lost some body fat and gained some muscle, bought some great clothes, restored my social life. I’m really focusin self-improvement, changed my diet completely, I changed some things that initially I thought impossible, and still I feel I can improve much more.Is it easy?! Hell no, far from it!! But the pain of the discipline is nothing compared with the pain of being dumped by the women you loved more than life itself.Think like this, anytime you contact them and you aren’t feeling real good you’re pushing them far away, it’s true, I’ve seen it in another relationships.Our best chance of getting them back is non contact and a LOT of self improvement. Don’t be friends of you ex! Just don’t! Use only false friendship in the laststage of getting them back.My friend already told me that he’s 90% sure that my ex will regret the day she left me, he tells me that I look better than the time when I was with my ex.Still, now a month later I don’t feel prepared to contact her, it’s too soon, I will wait at leat more 3 more months.I have a checklist that I need to do before contact her. I’m not confident enought…yet.I really doubt that she contacts me, she is very proud, let’s see.Don’t get me wrong I still feel a lot of pain, is normal, but use this pain as a fuel. I’m guessing you’ll do anything for going back with your exes. This is it,the price you need to pay, you best bet. Just do it!This is the law of nature, only the strong survive, you see it everytime in the jungle when the lion kills the zebra, diseases, etc, life is not fair, period.It’s the same with relationships. Love is beautiful but it is cruel if it wasn’t, nobody would leave nobody.Here a post that helped me a lot: http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/yess-you-can-attract-your-exAnd here’s a motivation video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JAHAFvcr2o#t=45 Happy new year
