Do you have a way to take a vacation? Do you have some friends that can join you even if it’s a day roadtrip? A vacation, roadtrip unfortunately is not going to make things a lot better but it can definitely help. I would get out as much as possible so you can experience the world and what it has to offer. Go hiking or jet skiing (which is one of my favorite things to do when I’m very depressed)…see if you can find a float tank. Have you ever heard of a float tank that allows you to just lay in a tank of water and relax? You can’t do it though if you’re claustrophobic. Basically, you fall asleep on top of water in this enclosed tank and it really calms your anxiety and helps so well with depression. If you can fall asleep, you sleep for an hour or hour and a half and once you wake up, you really feel refreshed…or at least most people do.
Is that like a sensory deprivation chamber? I had planned to do that with her when she was going to visit. I think I might feel weird doing it alone.
I don’t think any of my friends have the time or money to put into a road trip. I could ask, but I don’t expect much. I had looked at a map to see how long it would take to drive anywhere I want to go… about 10 hours in any direction.
Yeah, it’s a sensory deprivation chamber type. House did it on an episode of House…if you ever watched that show. Well, the tank is small, you would do 1 person at a time.
So, you’re talking about going on a trip alone? Well, I’ve done that several times just to get away to think, but without people and I always think more of my ex since I always think she would like it here. I’m not sure what your mind frame would be if you do that. Anything you can do to alleviate your symptoms, I say to do it.
It would probably make things worse. I’d probably just make myself feel more alone and make her absence more prominent in my mind. It’s just that I feel like I’m going crazy being stuck at home. I guess the problem isn’t my location. It’s just me.
Yeah, you have to get out of the house…like I said before, staying in isolation will just get your further and further into depression. Do you like to run or jog? Do you have a dog or pets?
I do like to run and I started skateboarding during the month when I was pushing my comfort zone a lot and have kept with it pretty regularly. I sprained my ankle recently while skateboarding so I’ve not been very mobile the past couple weeks. It’s been frustrating. I have two small dogs.
Do they have dog parks where you live or even just some parks you could take your dogs walking? I have a dachshund wiener dog named Sammy and he loves to go walking. To see him happy and wagging his tail always seems to cheer me up when I’m down.
Yeah we have parks around here. I think there’s a dog park nearby but I’m not sure where it is. I could try to find it.
I dunno how much that’ll help but I guess if I’m going crazy in the house and need to go somewhere it’s not a bad idea.
Yeah, exactly! See…that’s what I’m thinking since you said you were going crazy just being in the house. It’s the cheapest way to just get out of the house with your 2 dogs and just enjoy being away from the house and the sun provides you with natural vitamin D which greatly helps with depression.
Maybe I’ll try it sometime. It’s been extremely hot lately, unusually so. Hopefully it’ll cool off a bit soon or maybe I can try going in the evenings. I dunno. I’ll see. I really wish I had some idea of what to do with her. I keep going around in my head wondering what I could do. Would it be bad to send her something? The next time we talk should I ask if it’d be okay for me to visit sometime? I don’t know. Doing nothing but waiting for her to call every 2 weeks or however long it takes feels like drowning.
I’m in San Antonio, where in the country are you? The heat high is strong in the mid section of the country causing record heat. I would go in the evenings after it cools off before nighttime. That way you and the dogs will enjoy it. Send her something like what? I would wait before you talk about going to see her. She might think it’s weird since you’re just talking…although not as much as you want.
I’m in boise idaho.
I really don’t know. I feel like I need to do something. Maybe I’m just being crazy… I woke up this morning feeling like a complete wreck. The dreams are getting to be too much. Every day that goes by that she doesn’t say anything, I feel more and more despair. I don’t have any sort of plan or idea of what I should do. I want so much to be with her again and the thought of losing her forever feels like I’m ripping my heart out. I haven’t said anything to her since thursday, which is the day after she was sending me snapchats. tomorrow will be two weeks since we last talked on the phone. I hope she’ll call again soon. I’m trying to hold out and not do anything stupid or regretful.
Yes, what ever you do, don’t do anything you’ll regret later. Just make yourself get out in the evening when it cools down with your dogs and try to enjoy the sunset or the nighttime sky. If anything, she’s probably just doing the usual of being overwhelmed with school and everything. Try not to take her not talking to you too personal because I don’t really think she’s trying to purposely not contact you. I think she probably just gets so overwhelmed and then it gets late and she gets exhausted, maybe in a bad mood and then just doesn’t feel like talking. Besides, you said she needed to get a new phone so she probably will when she does.
By the way, I went through Mountain home and Boise years ago when I met a girl off the Internet up there. She was the weirdest girl I’ve ever met and she took me to her dad’s farm and kissed one of the cows named Betsie on the nose. She ate cereal for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I will never forget that experience.
You’re probably right. I’m sure that’s all it is… I hope so.
Wow. Yeah… sounds like weird Idaho people. Lol. Im from Las Vegas so i definitely have an outsider perspective on this place too. Boise is practically normal compared to East Idaho. I spent around 8 or 9 years pretty much isolated stuck over by Pocatello. Really wish that didn’t happen… but it did. At least I’m not there now.
Yeah, since she always tells you she’s overwhelmed by school, I’m sure that’s what’s keeping her occupied right now.
It’s almost as hot up there in Idaho as it is in San Antonio, wow…we got up to 98° yesterday but the heat index over 103°. But I do know around 8 at night it’s a lot nicer for a walk.
I went for a drive today. Went to a bunch of different stores. I felt like building a new lego set since I hadn’t done that in years. I ended up at a target about 20 minutes from my house and I couldn’t hear my gps navigation very well and couldn’t look at it while I was driving and somehow I ended up about 30 minutes in the wrong direction with extremely low gas. I was driving for probably two hours longer than I intended trying to find my way back. x_x I couldn’t believe how lost I got, even finding a gas station was an adventure. Then finding my way back onto the highway was a task, but it was okay. I just listened to the radio and tried to enjoy the driving. Really didn’t have anything better to do anyway.
When I got home, I got this bottle of “Monty Python’s Holy (gr)Ail” Dark Yorkshire Ale out of the fridge I got for christmas about two years ago and never opened. Poured it in a frosty mug from the freezer, put on some Flock of Seagulls and David Bowie records and worked on building the lego set.
I sent her a snapchat of Alec (the bear) holding the frosty mug of ale saying I was sharing a pint with him. (I think it’s fair to send her that because she was sending me snapchats last week.) I hope she says something tomorrow. I really miss her. sigh
Last night my parents and I took the dogs out for a walk around the neighbourhood. I don’t think my ankle was ready for it though because today it hurts sooooo bad. I thought it was mostly healed, but I guess I was wrong.
Hey, at least you got out of the house, so that’s great! Getting a little lost along the way is a plus, keeps your mind a little occupied. Yeah, that was ok to send her a picture of the bear with the mug…she probably thought it was cute.
Take care of that ankle and maybe you all can walk again soon. The main thing is you got out of the house and you got your mind on other things, so I’m glad you did.
I hope she did. It says she saw it this morning around 8 and she’s been on whatsapp a bunch today, but hasn’t responded or said anything. Trying really hard to distract myself and not think about it but I feel really sick with stress/worried. I know I gotta just do my own thing and not focus on it, because she’ll message me when she wants to. It’s just hard not to feel like she doesn’t want to talk to me when she’s said nothing at all for a week now. I feel so stressed by it I feel my heart pounding. sigh
I tried txting my ex on fb a week ago to give me a call, but didn’t say why…her brother said she was wondering why I wanted to talk to her, so I txted her back that they had a job offer and I could get her in to interview with them but “since you ignored me, it’s clear your pride is more important.” In other words, I haven’t talked to mine in 3 months. She refuses to talk to me even though she is the one who left and abandoned me claiming I didn’t care about her depression.
I really honestly think some women just get set in their ways refusing to change. I’m not saying yours is like that but it sounds like she has that tendency to just overlook a lot of things that are supposed to be important because she gets so wrapped up in her own life. Hopefully she will respond soon, but like you said, stay busy and just keep hoping that she’ll decide to contact you soon. It really is irritating when they do stuff like that for no reason.